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How do I "enjoy" anal sex

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Ok so I have developed a liking for anal. I think it's super hot and I cum loads thinking about it(being fcuked). But for me the only pleasurable part of actual anal sex with my partner is when I'm cumming. I am very uncomfortable doing anal unless I'm hard and constantly stroking my penis. After I cum, I can't tolerate his penis inside of me.
How do I enjoy anal without constantly stroking my penis and getting close to cumming?
 
Probably the easiest thing to do is to buy a dildo or a butt plug and play with it when you're on your own.

Butt plugs are nice for this because you can leave them in for extended periods of time so that you learn to relax.

If you continue to masturbate while using the dildo or the plug, you'll begin to associate pleasure with having something in your ass. That will help retrain your brain and ass to get past the "I need to poop" sensation that you're experiencing currently.
 
If anal is painful you're doing it wrong.

If you make sure that you use lots of lube and that he takes it easy until you ease up, it's always pleasurable, without exception.
 
Hmm, how many times have you done it? How big is your bf?

It took me a while of constant, gentle "nudging" to get used to real sex. Now, the first few moments are still a bit uncomfortable, as is the time after I've cum, but the eternity in between is bliss. I hope you learn to enjoy it, as there is nothing quite like wrapping your legs about your bf, as he bends to kiss you in the rhythm of his strokes.
 
I did as Karabalut suggested earlier. I bought a butt plug and wore it a little each day until I could wear it for about two hours without discomfort.

I also bought a couple of dildos to play with. My first gay sex was WONDERFUL, I bottomed.

I love being the bottom and having his cock in my ass. I rarely stroke my cock while I am getting fucked. I get great pleasure from being the bottom.
 
A lot of the time I feel like i have to pee or i'm going to crap. But when i do overcome these feelings, there isnt much stimulation, feel almost like i'm numb down there. Of course there's lots of pleasure when i'm ejaculating but other than that, i dont feel anything close to pleasure.
my partner is average, 6" i think.
like i said before, the though of him being inside me is very much desired but when he is actually inside of me it's not the same.
 
i dunno beyond saying its mental...its something that you have to want to enjoy and have to try to work at enjoying (not saying u havent just my own experience). bottoming was definitely an acquired taste for me. like u it was something that was hot when i pictured it in my mind but wasnt so much in person at first. now im completely versatile, though. it was just something i had to work through and find good partners willing to be patient and flexible with me. i agree with earlier posters that say it isnt always easy at first, esp if its been a while, but it almost always works out.
 
1st things 1st...always start out slow. The whole thing will be unpleasant if he just dives right into your butt. For me, the second I tried being topped I loved it and didnt want to go back to being a top. It helps that if he has a curve to have sex where his penis rubs your prostate. My partners dong has a dramatic curve downwards. Since it curves down he makes me feel best humping me from behind like on all fours or with my laying on my tummy with one leg up some so he can get to my dick. There have been many times that I have cummed without playing with my dick. Anal can be just great if done correctly. It's a shame that there are some overly aggressive tops out there that ruin it for the little would- be bottoms out there by doing it way wrong and hurting them. It's important to tell him what to do and what makes you feel good. Dont just lay quietly in pain for his sake. Make sure to communicate with him. And if he doesnt want to listen and just keeps hurting you chuck his ass to the curb! *Hugs and kisses!*
 
A lot of the time I feel like i have to pee or i'm going to crap. But when i do overcome these feelings, there isnt much stimulation, feel almost like i'm numb down there. Of course there's lots of pleasure when i'm ejaculating but other than that, i dont feel anything close to pleasure.
my partner is average, 6" i think.
like i said before, the though of him being inside me is very much desired but when he is actually inside of me it's not the same.


Sounds to me like he isn't hitting your prostate; if your prostate is stimulated, you WILL feel pleasure.


What position(s) are you having sex in? Two positions i'd recommend for prostate stim are riding him (reverse cowboy, with you leaning your body over his legs) and a modified form of doggy-style (with you arching your back upwards, and him holding you in his arms, stroking your dick, playin with your nipples or kissing you).


Keep us updated!
 
I have tried lots of positions. Doggy style, standing up, me sitting on him. Some positions are more comfortable than others. Let me make it clear, I am not in pain ever when we are having anal sex. I just sometimes feel like I have to pee when he's going a little fast and I have to stroke my penis to get over the feeling. It's almost as if he's stimulating my bladder instead of my prostate. It feels really good when I'm ejaculating and he's thrusting and I wish I could feel like that without having to stroke my penis.
 
The nerves are all very close together down there, and anal penetration may be stimulating the muscles you use to pee and poo. It may be that you will always have some discomfort while bottoming, just as some people have a hard time not gagging when giving a blowjob. Some people have more sensitive nervous systems than others.
Stop worrying about trying to like it, and find what you
DO like, and do that. Everything is not for everyone.
 
Like some people said before, the more you practise, the more you'll learn to control these not-so-pleasent feelings. Just get good practice with a Dildo or with your bf doing you very slowly, so your body will get used to feeling a cock inside without associating it with pooing.

Just remember to be patient, to be relaxed at the time of performing, and to use lots of lube and foreplay to get you there even more relaxed.

And ENJOY!
 
Sounds like maybe your bf is going too hard/deep for you. You need to take more control. Fuck his dick with your ass, instead of having him pound you. It takes a lot of practice to be able to relax--you need to know how your own ass works. And also use lots of lube--gel lubes work better imho.

Also it's pretty normal to not want his cock in your ass after you cum. It's really intense... you don't want your dick sucked right after cumming either, right?
 
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