I went out with this guy last Thursday. We hit it off really well, we were laughing almost the entire time and there was never an awkward quiet moment. Afterwords, he came over to my place and hung out with my roommates, and even they were having a good time with him. We said our goodbyes and decided to hang out again the next day.
Friday he came over and brought some booze and weed for everyone. We get a little drunk and my roommates make up an excuse that left the both of us alone in the house. We head up to my room, jerked each other off, and went to sleep. The next morning before he leaves he tells me "You like me too much" to which I just shrug and smile.
Saturday night he invites me over to a dance party he's hosting. He tells me to come around 10 and when I arrive there's no one else there. We have a few drinks and I help set up a little when he pulls me aside and tells me that he's a "better friend than lover" and that I'm "too nice" and that he "doesn't want to be the reason that I lose my goodness." I tell him that I can handle it and that I want to take that risk but he says "maybe in the future, I just don't want to hurt you." So I thank him for being honest and tell him that I can't be at the party anymore. I went home thinking that it's over and I should move on.
The next day, I sent him a text about picking up the lights I brought to his house and he says he'll just walk to my house to drop them off, which is ridiculous because I live a good 30min walk from him. I tell him I don't mind just driving over and he replies with "I don't mind walking
" I was expecting him to just give me the lights and leave but he asked if I want to hang out and watch TV with my roommate and I. I say sure and we watched a few episodes of The Office. Before he left he apologized for the previous night, tells me I should have stayed, and gave me a big hug.
I don't really know how to handle the situation. Personally, I feel like there was a mutual connection, so I want to believe him when he says he wants to stay friends with the possibility of dating in the future. Especially when he goes out of his way to return some lights and continues to be nice to me. Let's say he really does still want to be friends, should I just take it for that and move on? Or should I still hold onto some hope that he might be interested later on? I don't understand why he's the one trying to hang out now. He's the one that rejected me.
I'm really confused on what to do and I don't want to come across as clingy or freak him out.
Friday he came over and brought some booze and weed for everyone. We get a little drunk and my roommates make up an excuse that left the both of us alone in the house. We head up to my room, jerked each other off, and went to sleep. The next morning before he leaves he tells me "You like me too much" to which I just shrug and smile.
Saturday night he invites me over to a dance party he's hosting. He tells me to come around 10 and when I arrive there's no one else there. We have a few drinks and I help set up a little when he pulls me aside and tells me that he's a "better friend than lover" and that I'm "too nice" and that he "doesn't want to be the reason that I lose my goodness." I tell him that I can handle it and that I want to take that risk but he says "maybe in the future, I just don't want to hurt you." So I thank him for being honest and tell him that I can't be at the party anymore. I went home thinking that it's over and I should move on.
The next day, I sent him a text about picking up the lights I brought to his house and he says he'll just walk to my house to drop them off, which is ridiculous because I live a good 30min walk from him. I tell him I don't mind just driving over and he replies with "I don't mind walking
" I was expecting him to just give me the lights and leave but he asked if I want to hang out and watch TV with my roommate and I. I say sure and we watched a few episodes of The Office. Before he left he apologized for the previous night, tells me I should have stayed, and gave me a big hug. I don't really know how to handle the situation. Personally, I feel like there was a mutual connection, so I want to believe him when he says he wants to stay friends with the possibility of dating in the future. Especially when he goes out of his way to return some lights and continues to be nice to me. Let's say he really does still want to be friends, should I just take it for that and move on? Or should I still hold onto some hope that he might be interested later on? I don't understand why he's the one trying to hang out now. He's the one that rejected me.
I'm really confused on what to do and I don't want to come across as clingy or freak him out.
