How do I know if a guy is gay?

[CenTex22]

Good luck with that lol! I'm in Texas and 22 and I've never met one, either. Let me know if you find a secret mating call that gets them to come running.

 

[payit4ward]

I know you have gay bars in Texas and Tennessee so you should go to one and you will most likely meet some guys that fit that description. not all of us are screaming queens and i know in st louis there are alot of muscular gay men that aren't feminine that go to gay bars but most gay men even the muscular seemingly straight acting ones do have some gay characteristic about them and before anal sex just clean yourself down there as you normally would douching and all that sort of stuff you hear of is not that good for you and remember to be safe and use condoms and water based lubricant.

 

[payit4ward]

Also watch steel magnolias and you will find out that all gay men are named mark or steve and they all have track lighting.....LOL

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: How do I know if a guy is gay?

You ask him.

Im 18 and live in Tennesse, and Ive never met a masculine, muscular gay guy in my life.
Also I have a bad feeling im not going to find the type of guys im into, they just blend in

You've met plenty of them. You just didn't ask them if they were gay.

Also is there something special you are supposed to do before anal sex? like getting clean or something....help please

Read the sticky in H&W:
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=141344

 

[ariesstar89]

Listen I live in Alabama, and I've met a good amount of "masculine" gay guys in the small amount of time I've begun looking around. They are out there, just have to put yourself out there. Like a previous poster said, just go to bars and you'll find em. If they are gay, they are gonna like goin to bars lol

 

[KaraBulut]

would you get feces on his penis? I just took a shower....if I stuck my thumb in my anus and pulled out it would be unclean i dont know how to get the stuff out of there....im 18

A lot of guys have a fear of messy anal sex. Chances are that it will happen at some point in your life and it is not the end of the world.

There's a discussion in this thread about the anatomy of the colon. To summarize it: unless you are constipated, your rectum is empty of stool. After you eat a big meal, the stool moves into the rectum and then you begin to feel like you need to take a shit.

Under normal circumstances, anal sex isn't messy. Most of the prep work involves avoiding eating big meals and ensuring that you're getting enough fiber in your diet. No one is going to complain if you want to take a shower before sex.

There are some people who don't like the mucus that is normally present in the rectum and they use enemas to "feel fresh". It's not normally necessary but it's not going to hurt as long as you don't overdo it.

Since you're 18 and you're just beginning to experiment, try buying a small sex toy (start small and work your way up). Try cleaning in the shower as suggested and then play with your toy. If you feel like it's not as clean as you would like, then try an enema and see if that makes a difference for you.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Not all gay guys have fit the common stereotype (whatever that is). Sometimes it's impossible to tell.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Go on manhunt or adam4adam and look for people in your area. You will find guys your age and find many in your same situation - probably right down the street and you never even knew it. Just FYI - the two hottest, most masculine, muscle guys I ever met were from TN - and I live in Texas!

 

[ibill1]

would you get feces on his penis? I just took a shower....if I stuck my thumb in my anus and pulled out it would be unclean i dont know how to get the stuff out of there....im 18

Go to the drug store and get a Fleets. It's a plastic squeeze bottle with saline solution but you can keep reusing them with warm water. Just bend over and squeeze the contents in your rectum, sit on the john and everything there will come out. It takes less than a minute and you'll be squeeky clean.

 

[G-Lexington]

Best way to tell? Fuck him in the ass. If he stays hard the whole time, he's probably gay.

Seriously, let me answer your question with a hypothetical. Think of your favorite band. And say you'd like to meet other folks who like this band. And further say that the band has only one T-shirt printed up - an ugly, pink and green affair with their name in big block letters across it. You might think "I'd like to meet more people into this band, but everyone I meet who likes them wears these hideous clothes." That's because the only people you're identifying with the band are those wearing those shirts! Obviously, there are other people out there who like the band, but just didn't buy the shirt. It'll be harder to spot them, obviously, but that doesn't mean they're not out there.

So how do you meet them? Easy. To extend the metaphor, you go to where fans of the band are. You go to their concerts. And in your case, you go to the gay section of town. To the clubs, sure, but also to the shops, the grocery store, the galleries, the coffee shops. You talk to the employees, you say hi to some people, and you start getting to know some folks.

Lex

 

[spencer]

are you in school? in college you can meet lots of gay guys, join gay organizations and whatnot.

 

[KaraBulut]

Best way to tell? Fuck him in the ass. If he stays hard the whole time, he's probably gay.

Nope. Not necessarily.

That's been discussed before.

 

[rareboy]

I wish I was straight that way every girl I saw was potential

Snap out of it.

And stop crying. Your mascara will run.

You just don't have good attitude.

Maybe you might want to re-assess all your own qualities and improve those that you can do something about.

This can range from hairstyle to improving any behavioural traits that you think might be a turn-off.

Good lord. You're only 18.

You've got it all out in front of you.

 

[spencer]

I just realized, I really how you know how to spell the state you live in and that was just a typo.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>its just I get so depressed and cry cause im tired of being single. it hurts so bad. I wish I was straight that way every girl I saw was potential

Sure. Except for the lesbians. And the married ones. And the seriously-dating ones. And the ones who weren't interested in you.

Every guy you see is potential. It's just that many of them are straight, married, seriously-dating, or not interested. Same deal. Maybe it's a bit more work, but that's why I suggest heading for the gay part of town. It increases your odds.

Relax. Would life be easier if you were straight? Yeah, probably a little. It'd probably be easier if you were extremely talented at everything, drop-dead gorgeous, and made of money. Presumably, you ain't. You're average. Like the rest of us schlubs. But being average, and being gay, doesn't preclude you from living a kick-ass life, and having kick-ass sex. Many of us here are testament to that fact.

Lex

 

[Partyposterboi]

I am here in Nashville and you can find that here... I see it all the time.

 

[Sneakerguy]

you cant always not all act like bruno
lol

 

[hotcockalex]

I live in Amsterdam, we don't see it if someone is gay, we just ask if he is

 

[saymyname]

It sounds like you're stuck in a small town. I was there once. So here's a big piece of advice: APPLY AND GET ACCEPTED TO A COLLEGE IN A BIG CITY. That's your escape route. Whichever big city is closest and has at least half or close to half a million people should do. If you're not going to college any time soon, if there is a city like that close, just move to it and get a job. Get a plan going. Stop self-pitying and start finding ways to escape!