How do I show him that I like him?

[thermodynamics]

Hey guys, I need some help...

I've got strong feelings for a guy who I've been going to breakfast with occasionally. He's been a great help in helping me come out and being comfortable with myself. We're also part of the same student group, so that's what our meetings are usually about. I really like him because he's one of the off-the-wall, creative types, and he really helps to bring that side out in me. And he's a really sweet guy.

When we were first meeting, he was in a relationship. But recently that has changed. I've done pretty well to hide my feelings for him in the past, but recently I've tried to crank it up a notch, but circumstances really haven't worked out to really show him I like him. I don't know he he is interested in me or not.

I don't know if he's ready to start a new relationship or not, but recently he's been a lot more "down" than usual.

Got any ideas of what I should do? I'm thinking I should just keep waiting patiently for a good time to show him I have feelings for him.

 

[KennyD]

Let's see .... Invite him over for Dinner and a movie at your place , Invite him for a week end get a way , Buy some porn and mention to him ya' got some new porn and ask if he wants to come over and watch it with you ... if yes, be sure to buy some drinks ...

 

[RicanDAB]

Thermo,

Is this the same guy you have talked to us about before? It sounds familiar.

Anyway, your best bet is to invite him out on a date. You don't have to say it is a "date" but simply make it a very intimate get together, one that your average Joe would sense it's not just buddies hanging out for the night. There has to be some air of romance to it. Even if it's coming back to your place and having dinner with subdued lighting and some candles and music. Hey, I kinda like that idea.

Personally, I would just recommend expressing your feelings to him. But I take it you're not ready for that so I recommend instead that you follow the date suggestion and let him know that way - actions DO speak louder than words!!

Good luck 2 U!

 

[thermodynamics]

Yeah, it's the same guy, but now he's available.

He's really the first guy I've liked, so I guess it's just anxiety that I haven't done this before. And, he's been out an dbeen dating a lot longer than I have, so I guess I had expected he'd ask if he were interested. But then again, he's a very quiet guy.

With reading the replies, I think it's pretty clear what I should do. I just needed to hear it from other guys first. But I won't make a move for another month, because college will be out and I will have graduated by then, and I'll have time go dating.

Thanks.

 

[Danugh]

Show some skin.

 

[trawler69]

I urge you ignore the above posting! Know what I mean!?

 

[thermodynamics]

And in a weird twist of fate:

We're both in a certain student group.
Almost a year ago, I did something stupid, and put a nice gash in my forehead--you can still see the scar. This last weekend, when he was partaking in some testing of the machine, he cut his hand (badly I guess) while changing a fixture (not carelessness--I've done it myself, though not that badly). And when our fellow comrades were bandaging him up, he tripped over another guy, and gashed his head on an electrical panel, and it tore quite a chunk out, or so one of the guys said. I wasn't there, and I haven't seen him since it happened.

Are we meant somehow to be together? Fate? We have matching scars from this project.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Yup. Deeds always speak so much louder than words.

Make it a cool date and enjoy his reaction.

Do not wait. Act now. He probably does not know how you feel about him. He is down and he has no BF in the moment. If you keep on waiting, he may be gone with someone else.

The right timing can be everything.

SC

 

[Ninja108]

IF you care abotu him let him know now. Never waste an a chance you have.

 

[thermodynamics]

I told him that I really liked him in an email. It seems to be a case of two shy guys both scared to make the first move. Writing is his style too. We'll see where this goes. I'm pretty sure he likes me too.

 

[trawler69]

Good move, well done, one of you had to break the ice and it is great that you had the guts to do it. Be prepared for the possibility that he may not be over his ex yet and not be ready to move into another relationship. The main thing is to remain friends and then see where it leads.

 

[thermodynamics]

For what it's worth, his Facebook profile Looking For mentions Friendship & A relationship. Before mid-March, it said nothing about that.

So I'm thinking positive!

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Thermo,

Mate you are on the right track here... its great that you've made that first step. Its the hardest one to take so feel proud that you did that!!

I dunno bout the matching scars, but it seems you know this guy really well and that your probably right in thinking its about 2 shy guys.

Just dont push too hard too quick. Keep things relaxed but just do more together, more often. His reactions to you wanting to spend more time together will give you the clues you need... your email is the ice breaker so just let it evolve... let him come to you a little.

It really sounds that this guy is a great friend and a great support. If you take it steady theres no chance of ruining that... and thats pretty important. On the other hand taking it steady still lets thing develop into all you want it to be... the start of something beautiful. And thats a chance thats worth taking the time for.

 

[Eagle653]

Hi Thermo, good luck with this!

Let us know what happens. I'm glad you wrote him a note and made your interest clear!