How do I stay hard?

[KaraBulut]

From what positions have you tried topping him?

 

[hottie1982]

Ever tried longer times of foreplay??
Maybe that would help you?

 

[KaraBulut]

I have only tried topping him from behind.


It is not unusual for guys who have problems staying hard from a kneeling or standing position. And in cases where insertion is difficult, the pressure on the penis can guys to lose their erections.

Try laying on your back, getting your dick hard and having your partner straddle your cock by sitting on it. Many guys find it easier to maintain an erection while laying flat.

Also make sure that your partner is well-prepared and relaxed before you try insertion. This is where foreplay and a lot of lube will help. If your partner is relaxed and your are able to insert your dick without resistance, you will find it easier to maintain an erection.

 

[Gooey45]

when that happens to me i usually smack my partners ass get it hard and try to insert again until i get the pressure which usually does the trick.But sometimes i find it that its the attraction that makes me be anxious, if i don't feel 100% attracted my body doesn't respond.before trying any drugs try to figure out what would keep you hard.

 

[MikeyLikesIt]

another route u may try is generic viagra....if u cant get hard and want to make sure u get hard to be able to fuck him that is one option

 

[jockboy01]

yeah, generally viagra and cialis are used for medical ED... not psychological. I'd work on the mind first... your body doesn't need the medicine.

 

[KaraBulut]

Yeah, I'd rather work on my mind first...but how?

Have you tried the non-drug suggestions that you were given?

 

[Nagash]

Getting the bottom loosened up is key to anal sex. Give him a rim job. Finger him some. Then try it. I guarantee you that it will move in easier. How large are you? If you have some significant size to you, it just takes more lube, and foreplay. If a guy can take an arm or two, to the elbow, they can take your dick. Just take your time.

 

[runnerguy1977]

Has anyone had any success with herbal remedies or daily vitamins?

 

[windgates]

Yeah, I'd rather work on my mind first...but how?

Any advice?

Start masturbating in the position that you want to fuck him in. Alternatively, start fucking him in the position that you masturbate in.

 

[oakmiser]

Try face to face...Worked best for me the one time I tried anal sex. It's VERY intimate and EXTREMELY arousing.

That and foreplay will prolly help tons, also try and rub your cock around his hole while you jerk off a bit if your doing it from behind.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

yeah, generally viagra and cialis are used for medical ED... not psychological. I'd work on the mind first... your body doesn't need the medicine.

I don't think this is correct entirely.
Some one gave me a viagra at a bar. It did nothing for me. I didn't get hard, of course I was pretty drunk.
But more importantly the guy did not turn me on and I think that it is the key.
I asked about this later and did some reading including the manufactures websites. What I am reading and a Doctor told me is that you must be turned on mentally or these drugs often will not work.

So these drugs are effective when you are mentally stimulated and they do not automaticlly get you hard, and if may not work to well if you are having a lot of anxiety. Though most guys don't have any trouble getting sexually aroused therefore the drugs work very well over all.

Bringing this subject up to a few other friends who party or use viagra they say the same thing. If you are not in the mood/turned on then the drug doesn't work good if at all. My friends are in their late 20's & 30's but those few that admit to using these from time to time have had great times and bland times using these.

In my case if I am drunk it won't matter if I took a huge dose I doubt I would get a hard on. Drinking is not my friend for sex. Some guys don't have this problem or so they say.

I tried them at another time and it was pretty decent. Could play around for a few hours non-stop, & my partner was very hot.

Unlike this drug I took once for sleeping called Trazadone which gave me a hard on for no reason. That drug didn't need any sexual stimulus to get a hard on, nor was I wanting it to.
I will never take that thing again. I didn't get any sleep, and I couldn't get off. It was no fun.

 

[KaraBulut]

I don't think this is correct entirely.
Some one gave me a viagra at a bar. It did nothing for me. I didn't get hard, of course I was pretty drunk.
But more importantly the guy did not turn me on and I think that it is the key.
I asked about this later and did some reading including the manufactures websites. What I am reading and a Doctor told me is that you must be turned on mentally or these drugs often will not work.
.

Here's how these drugs work...

To get an erection, your dick does two very different things at the same time-
1. It dilates some blood vessels and fills them with blood. It does this by producing a chemical that opens up the blood vessels and fills up the inside of your dick with blood.
2. It constricts other blood vessels to keep the blood trapped in the penis to maintain the erection

The way that Viagra and these other drugs work is to cause the chemical that dilates the blood vessels in the penis (#1 above) to last longer. So the effect of these drugs is to prolong an erection- not to cause an erection.

So, something's gotta give you the boner for Viagra to make the boner last longer.

Probably most of the use of the drug at clubs is a waste since it is not an aphrodisiac and it does nothing to turn you on to people that you weren't going to be interested in to begin with.