How do u know?

[Stitch627]

I wonder

This may sound stupid but...

When you notice a guy, how do u make the difference between:
- He is good looking, I'd like to look as good
- I'm attracted to him
????


I mean, how do u really know for sure??

 

[StillWaters24592]

That's a really interesting question.

If your next thought is that you would like to get to know him better, then I would say it's attraction.

If you have no interest in who he is but just admire him, then it's just more an appreciation that he is a great-looking guy. I guess it's similar to how a gay guy can see that a woman is really attractive but not be attracted to her sexually.

 

[kingkhan]

Wow this post just blew my mind for some reason lol. I never thought about this at all I guess its one of those issues pertaining to gay men that I have been oblivious to. For me I usually don't find guys attractive but, don't get me wrong I like to do certain things with guys. So for me I guess its like what stillwaters said with women.

 

[Caaake]

This is a great topic, i've always wondered this myself. For me it's not the most gorgeous beings on the planet that get me going sexually and i honestly can't fathom how a lot of people prefer and desire the "model" types to engage sexual acts with, Ex: abs buldging, perfectly chisled face and how that gets people so hot. For me someone who has extra meat here and there is what I find attractive because i'm seeing this societally contructed model type's "perfect" body and intimidated because of the strong importance society holds on that person's body type. But the types I am sexually attracted to are the other types who are either very thin or a little meaty, hairy..etc, (things that magazines tell us are undesirable) These people seem more like human beings to me, in which case their looks turn me on enough to want to pleasure them instead of how i'd feel with the societally "perfect" bodied individual, because I'd be feeling the need to strive to become more fit like them, and try to measure up.

 

[G-Lexington]

I don't ever want to look like someone else, so if I'm sizing him up, it's because I like him. End of story.

Lex

 

[KingofFaeries]

In general you'd have to define which type of attraction your talking about. If you're talking about sexual attraction then if you want to fuck him or vice versa theres your answer. If you're talking about emotional/spiritual/personality attraction, then just seeing him wouldn't be enough in most cases.

If you think neither of those thoughts, and just go yup he's got a nice ass butt wonder how he got that and if I can do it too. Then you are simply admiring him.

 

[inlovewithblair]

The ones I want to fuck tend to have similar characteristics as me anyways.

 

[Stitch627]

In general you'd have to define which type of attraction your talking about. If you're talking about sexual attraction then if you want to fuck him or vice versa theres your answer. If you're talking about emotional/spiritual/personality attraction, then just seeing him wouldn't be enough in most cases.

If you think neither of those thoughts, and just go yup he's got a nice ass butt wonder how he got that and if I can do it too. Then you are simply admiring him.

Well, i asked this question because i try to decipher what i actually feel. And that's not easy.
I'm thus talking about sexual attraction and not emotional attraction, for in this latter case, you would have to know the guy, as u mentioned it.

So what? can i sum up everything with this other question: do i wanna fuck him?

it seems so simple when i read what u said...