How do you deal with it ?

[Alive and Free]

How do you deal with the fact that most guys you are attracted to wouldent even have any interest in you ? Its maddeing man !

 

[Lalada]

They never see me coming so I don't have to deal with it...


The best way to deal with is, I think, simply dropping it. Whatever happens happens, if it was not meant to happen, or just doesn't, then c'est la vie.

 

[JOHN B]

I know what you mean A&F, it IS disheartening to drool over a straight boy. But I just tell myself that ALL guys are gay until they prove to me otherwise. Well, at least it makes for a nice fantasy or two.....

 

[Lalada]

I know what you mean A&F, it IS disheartening to drool over a straight boy. But I just tell myself that ALL guys are gay until they prove to me otherwise. Well, at least it makes for a nice fantasy or two.....

I'm sure they must appreciate that... but essentially, yeah, can't let realities ills drag you down.

 

[glorff]

They are still fun to look at

 

[G-Lexington]

The same way I deal with seeing a $100,000 car, or a multi-million dollar home. Having enough common sense to know they're out of my league.

Lex

 

[M4P]

How do you deal with the fact that most guys you are attracted to wouldent even have any interest in you ? Its maddeing man !

That's life I guess

Keep in mind someone is looking at you and is thinking the same thing. Case in point: I knew my partner for several years before we got together. I always thought he was hot and couldn't imagine him going for someone like me. Little did I know he liked me all along

 

[Brijan]

That's life I guess

Keep in mind someone is looking at you and is thinking the same thing. Case in point: I knew my partner for several years before we got together. I always thought he was hot and couldn't imagine him going for someone like me. Little did I know he liked me all along

Thank you very much.

It just goes to show we are our own worst enemy.

So go for it!
Talk to that guy you think it too good looking for you.

 

[Orlandude]

You might be surprised who is interested in you and is too shy or lacking in social skills to approach you. We all "crave" those that we think we can't have but often do nothing about it. You just never really know sometime. A simple smile and saying "hello" is 50% of meeting anyone. Forget what you think and stop making any judgements that they could not have the remotest interest in you. You don't know that to be true. Others never perceive you as you perceive yourself. I've met some guys who are adonis-types who I thought would never even give me the time of day. What I found out was that some of them suffered from lousy self-esteem issues and considered themselves "ugly". Go figure.

 

[aleisterc2003]

just think about it....there may be someone out there who thinks the same of someone as yourself pa.....

 

[drhladnjak]

I've found that hanging around gay men more often pretty much solved this problem for me. Less pain trying to figure who's gay and who's straight. Of course, there are still those guys that are unattainable...

 

[probeteam1]

I personally deal with it by being cranky and bitter, and angry at the world.

Also, I try to maintain hope. It doesn't matter hw many straight guys I strike out with - or how many uninterested gay/bi guys I strike out with, doe that matter. The way I see it, I'm attracted to only a small percentage of the population, and only a small percentage of that population is attracted to me. But even though failure is disheartening, I just tell myself that as pitiful as my chances might feel at the time, they're exactly zero if I'm not willing to even try.

Besides, some of my most entertaining straight friends have been guys I got to know by flirting. If he's cool with it, then at least I've made a new friend. And if he isn't, that's (mostly) his problem.

 

[Alive and Free]

You know man there are so many days I feel it would just be worth it to put a bullet in my head then having to carry this burden around for the rest of my natural life. I have been drinking more under the preasure of trying to graduate from undergrad in the realization that I probably would never fall in love. Why the fuck did I have to be gay.

 

[sebastian-k]

It just suprises you, a right person always comes into you're life while you're off guard.

I think right now you're though a complicated moment (graduation) so try to not think about love, relationships and 'mr. right' or something for now.

There always will be people who is not willing to have somekind of relationship with you no matter if they're gay, straight or bi, girls or boys, but, also there is always people that dies for you, people who you mean the world to them.

He/she hasn't to be perfect, just someone that you enjoy being with, maybe funny, maybe interesting, to share a few common interests. I think love shows when you already started the relationship and you really started to know the person.

 

[Alive and Free]

It just suprises you, a right person always comes into you're life while you're off guard.

I think right now you're though a complicated moment (graduation) so try to not think about love, relationships and 'mr. right' or something for now.

There always will be people who is not willing to have somekind of relationship with you no matter if they're gay, straight or bi, girls or boys, but, also there is always people that dies for you, people who you mean the world to them.

He/she hasn't to be perfect, just someone that you enjoy being with, maybe funny, maybe interesting, to share a few common interests. I think love shows when you already started the relationship and you really started to know the person.

I sure hope you are right. Thanks for the support !