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How do you find out if a guy is gay??

PrinceOwen

PrinceOwen

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When I go out to pubs and clubs there are so many hot looking guys that dress and act gay, but who knows if they are???

I act pretty straight and don't really look too gay ... I don't like to be the center of attention either, but how are you supposed to discretely find out if a guy is gay without making a big deal about it?

does anyone have any tips, is there any real signs to tell if a guy is definately gay?
 
is there any real signs to tell if a guy is definately gay?
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ask him to find out if he is definitely gay; but signs can't give you 100% conformation.


Example:

The sign - guy checking out the bulge in your pants.


Then to find out for sure you walk over to him and say,"hey dude i caught you checking out my bulge so are you gay?



the extended length of time you hold a gaze will tell a lot
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But what if Owen is looks and dressed like a freak - str8 or gay people would stare at him. However, if he is decent looking no str8 man will look at him for more than 1 second.


Also if you are walking on the road and pass a hot guy walk 2 more steps and look back. If he is looking back at you too then go get your man
 
noelie said:
Eye contact is the big one - the extended length of time you hold a gaze will tell a lot...as will grabbing him by the balls and sticking your finger up his ass...but the eye contact is the one I would work on first.

;)
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Must try the eye contact first---the ball grab and finger in the ass were not working so good for me---not to mention the frequent handwashing that is needed---


Sometimes I just put on my rainbow t-shirt to let everyone know that I am gay and let them come to me.
 
Danugh said:
ask him to find out if he is definitely gay; but signs can't give you 100% conformation.


Example:

The sign - guy checking out the bulge in your pants.


Then to find out for sure you walk over to him and say,"hey dude i caught you checking out my bulge so are you gay?






But what if Owen is looks and dressed like a freak - str8 or gay people would stare at him. However, if he is decent looking no str8 man will look at him for more than 1 second.


Also if you are walking on the road and pass a hot guy walk 2 more steps and look back. If he is looking back at you too then go get your man
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1 - I am decent looking
2 - I am not comfortable to ask any guy if he is gay thats why I need help
3 - thanks for ur tips
 
noelie said:
Eye contact is the big one - the extended length of time you hold a gaze will tell a lot...as will grabbing him by the balls and sticking your finger up his ass...but the eye contact is the one I would work on first.

;)
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even if we had eye contact i will still not be sure , i mean i know its a start but.....
 
It's all about the eye contact and a smile---for me at least. If you are at a bar---you can also ask him to a game of pool or darts and talk to him to feel him out, so to speak. And if you are in a gay bar---it really is sooo much easier.
 
Been thinkin' 'bout an answer but for me I find the question "How do you find out if a guy is gay" to be situational.............sorry, I know that is not much help.............
 
Effortless_Pro said:
Are you talking about going to a gay bar?

Chances are likely that if you're in a gay bar, and you see men there, they're either gay, bi or won't get offended if you ask them to dance.
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Yeah, it's a pretty safe bet that if you go to a gay bar, the guys will be gay. I read it somewhere.
 
Effortless_Pro said:
Are you talking about going to a gay bar?

Chances are likely that if you're in a gay bar, and you see men there, they're either gay, bi or won't get offended if you ask them to dance.
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I am not talking about gay bars cause ther isnt gay bars where i live
 
Using your gaydar of course! If you have one... and I don't, so I can't help you there.

Also, I've tried the smiling thing and all I ever get are neutral looks back. It sucks.
 
Why is it insulting and or offensive to ask a man if he is gay?


Is being gay shameful?
 
Well if someone walked up to me and asked me if I was gay, my first reaction would be to say "no".

I wouldn't expect anyone to say yeah if I were to ask them if they were gay either. If they weren't gay, they would indeed be offended, regardless of how you view the situation. And then you would make them question themselves because now they know they look gay.
 
Seems like this question comes up a lot here -- and there's always somebody that says "ask him."

But I still say that's a terrible way to start a conversation. "Hi, my name is Fred, are you gay?".

If you don't have the balls to come out first, why are you putting the burden on this other guy you don't even know yet?

Come out, come out wherever you are. Then you'll find out fast enough who is and who isn't.
 
too bad it isnt the good ol days where you wear your handkerchief sticking out of you left back pocket if you are a bottom and right if you are a top...or vice versa, i never remember....
 
I can see there are some not so serious answers to a serious question.
There's a lot of gay guys out there that most people wouldn't suspect, except those with good Gaydar.

There's no one answer that is absolutely true all the time. It depends on the situation. Though, I'll agree with some other posters about eye contact; lingering looks can be a clue.

It's also the type of look, sometime he's looking at you for any number of reasons but detecting the look of attraction or interest is a whole different category of looks. Multiple may looks suggest interest, when you catch his glance and he looks away quickly can be another indicator. Also, what I call the sly eye (a sideways glance out of the corner of the eye without turning the head) could mean a guy is gay or bi.

Picking up subtle clues takes a lot of insight, reading body langauge (such as touching the face or adjusting hair) and perception. Use common sense and don't over analyze too much. Also don't let the attractiveness of a guy cloud your judgment too much, there are straight hot guys too.

Finally, don't wait for him to make the first move. Sometimes you got to flirt to confirm his gaydar. You don't have to say anything suggestive, just ask the for the time even if you're wearing a watch (it would be better if you're wearing a watch so he'll know you actually are flirting) Make small talk that can lead to big talk.;)

Obviously, gaydar is a very necessary thing to have and develop. I'm still honing mine.

Hope that helps.
 
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