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how do you guys get over your crushes on straight men?

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like i have a HUGE one on this guy i work with. he's so cute and nice, and so nice to me but...he has a girlfriend. it sucks so much cause i like him but i have to keep reminding myself he's straight. or atleast i think he is lol....but like he drew me a picture yesturday at work. it was so cute! it was like of me playing video games cause we are both big video gamers. anyway any advice on how to get over my crush?
 
I have crushes on my 2 of my mates. It's hard 1 has a girlfriend and is definately straight however the lasses seem to think the other likes fellas. I would never act on it even if I found out anyway because I am in a fairly serious relationship as it is.
 
It's all about making a mental adjustment. He's straight and that's not going to change. Look at it for what it is...he's a work buddy. Period. Otherwise you are just kidding yourself and will open yourself up to a lot of heartache....and may anger him in the process.

As much as I want to do the opposite, I keep my emotions OUT of my friendships and associations with straight guys. Been burned once. That was enough.
 
You don't fall for them too hard in the first place. You shield your heart. If you know anything about star trek and a race called the Vulcans, you have to partly be like a Vulcan around the straight guys you like and be satisfied with a good friendship.

It also helps to focus on your own life and pursue men who are actually available and attractive to you.
 
I've never had a crush on a straight guy. I think my brain immediately closes the gates once I learn a guy's straight. "Oh, well, maybe he'll be a decent friend". I never start playing "what if" or try to find out if there's any way he might possibly be bisexual or think about him when jerking off.

Lex
 
I'm having this problem right now myself. I hooked up with this straight guy. Well..I gave him head and a little rimming but he didn't do anything to me. So I think he was just really horny and thats why I believe he's straight.

My problem is that every time I see him I want him more and more. No matter how sad I am when I see his picture on myspace or I look at him if we're hanging out he brings the biggest smile to my face.

I'm trying really hard on forgetting that we ever did anything together but its not easy. :confused:
 
JSRD said:
like i have a HUGE one on this guy i work with. he's so cute and nice, and so nice to me but...he has a girlfriend. it sucks so much cause i like him but i have to keep reminding myself he's straight. or atleast i think he is lol....but like he drew me a picture yesturday at work. it was so cute! it was like of me playing video games cause we are both big video gamers. anyway any advice on how to get over my crush?
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just think YOU WON'T HAVE A FUTURE with him-sexually speaking...this should dampen your romantic feelings towards him...
 
natedogg323 said:
I'm having this problem right now myself. I hooked up with this straight guy. Well..I gave him head and a little rimming but he didn't do anything to me. So I think he was just really horny and thats why I believe he's straight.

My problem is that every time I see him I want him more and more. No matter how sad I am when I see his picture on myspace or I look at him if we're hanging out he brings the biggest smile to my face.

I'm trying really hard on forgetting that we ever did anything together but its not easy. :confused:
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omg that's like how i feel. except i didn't do any stuff with my guy... =/ it's just so um....to forget about him. i try to think about how we won't have a relationship but he's so cute. i can't help it.
 
JSRD said:
omg that's like how i feel. except i didn't do any stuff with my guy... =/ it's just so um....to forget about him. i try to think about how we won't have a relationship but he's so cute. i can't help it.
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JSRD...

Yeah I wish there was something I could say to help you but once our emotions get involved we have to figure out a way to get over it. Humans tend to want things we can't have, I think we have a lure for the taboo.

Time is the only thing that will help us get over our straight crushes.
 
Yeah this is one of those situations where you have to try it once and realize how bad it will turn out and never do it again aka lesson learned.
 
I have learned to trust my gaydar. Many people say, they are straight, and if my gaydar confirms that, I simply move on. See, I would not want to have sex with a woman, and he probably feels the same way about having sex with another man. He is into a totally different hardware and that must be completely respected, no matter what. A no go is a no go.

If my gaydar says that the dude is untruthful and that there is some scope for action there, I go by the rule that everyone above the age of consent is a fair game.

Some straight men would not mind sucking a good dick on the condition of total discretion. If he perceives you as absolutely trustworthy and not compromised in his hetero world sense, you have a good chance of jumping his bones and with some luck, you may end up having a FB of a kind.

Some straight dudes need some sort of excuse to go down on you. Everyone is different at that, too. A number of guys belong to the 'six-pack, plus one thing led to another rule' and they are at it without much ado. The others need something more substantial to get in touch with their gay or bi side. If you are good at it, you'll soon discover the object of his desire. Give him what he wants, and he'll oblige, now that he has some sort of an alibi.

A number of straight guys are straight alright, but insatiably curious. (They also want to get their rocks off without much ado.) If you take the 'experimentation approach, making sure that no one else will ever know and that no one is under any obligation to keep on experimenting, unless they want to, little miracles will happen.

However, when it comes to guys, who claim, they are straight and all, but send mixed signals and would give it a try, nothing than the assurance of absolute discretion is more important. Being very open about your sexual life in general, or even with him is usually very counterproductive here. Keep it very private in general, and he'll quickly assume that you won't treat your affair with him in any other way either.

"And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

SC
 
Just think of him as a bosom buddy and then don't press bosoms.

He probably is as cute as a button with an ass that starts at the top of his legs, but don't be fooled. He'll never be yours.
 
Sheesh, i have the same problem here but even tho i've left the job where i was working with my crush, i still think about him...like now...sigh
 
I fell in love for the first time with my best friend in high school.He was straight,but we ended up fooling around.It broke my heart because i realized nothing would ever become of it.That was 24 years ago and to this day i still love him because he was the first.He now lives far away and has a daughter and is getting married,but we still keep in touch.He knows i'm gay and doesn't care.We'll always be good friends,but theres a part of me that will never really be over him.I don't think anyone ever really gets over thier first crush.
 
I don't bother getting attracted to straight men. It's simply not worth the effort. I've learned that straight=hands off. It's like dealing with people you are attracted to who are married. Just don't bother. A good looking straight guy is no more than eye candy. Like rareboy said, "think of him as a bosom buddy and don't press bosoms."
 
By talking to the guy (my crush) and realizing that he is not interested in me... I lost interest in him eventually... but that took a LOONG TIME (over a year probably) for me to realize all this and rationalize it proberly.

Now I'm careful about the crushes. I still get them and they are NICE !! but I try to not get into them, as they can be a pain, since nothing happens...

I usually try to talk to the guy right away, as 90% of the time my crushes are due to fantacising about guys without approaching them. Thus, 90% of those crushes fly away due to faults in the guy's friendliness, appearance, or the way he talked to me or ignored me, etc.

There are also hot guys I work with and I kinda manage to keep the distance from crushing over them. After a while they become a real person (more friend-like or whatever) and I can control my feelings.
 
dylanstratus said:
So nobody else just got drunk and told them over the phone? Damn, just me.

Got really tanked one night and called my boss at home, told him I loved him and that if he ever left his girlfriend to be with me, I wouldn't mind. Geez, he never ever stopped laughing at me after that. Worst part is, he put me on speaker phone and his girlfriend heard the whole thing (including me calling her a bratz doll wannabe lol)

Anyways, I used to kinda fall for stright guys, but then I realized that what it was that "attracted" me to them, was a need I had for actual man-friends, in the friend sense. I used to only be mates with girls, and it's nice to just be mates with a guy where there is nothign sexual involved. Just to do boy stuff with lol.

I think that was the root of the straight guy crushes I had. Although, the st8 guys I'm friends with are all kinda cute and love to tease me with flirting lol
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This is why you take all the numbers of people you might call embarrassingly when drunk out of your phone before drinking (which is really annoying), or make a friend hold your phone for them and put them on drunk dial watch. Friends don't let friends dial drunk.
 
Well.... Same here I've got this major thing for one of my close mates for quite a long time. He's those guys who has rippled muscles and a damn sexy voice. But he is totally straight as has been dating one of the girls of the groups.

There were many a times when I dreamed of making out with him and even thought of giving him one nice blow and take it up my ass. But the most that happened was that I managed to see his dick as well as touch it as we were drunk that night. Nothing more happened. Even till today I have that strong love for him
 
"He doesn't like me like that. He doesn't like me like that. He likes girls. He doesn't like me like that."

every time you see him...
 
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