How do you know if this is it? What if? HELP!

[M4P]

At the very least I'd say he is bi and definitely attracted to and interested in you. It also would appear to me he's struggling with his feelings. If you're able to why not just carry on the way you are for a while and see where things go? Maybe he just needs a little time.

 

[Roland00]

Could be anything, straight, bi, gay, whatever. Just ask him.

 

[M4P]

If he is bi/gay I'd say the reason he's aloof in public is because he is not comfortable with his sexuality at this point in time

tHANKS FOR YOUR ADVICE...HOPE i HEAr more so my options are still ope...uhmm, do you really think he is BI too? I mean he seems like acting aloof when were just in public...I mean, wazzup with that?

 

[1billionserved]

He is afraid to be open in public for fear of rejection by his peers. This is quite common. Heck I was married for 25 years, before I came out, and before I became comfortable with my own sexuality. I still don't flaunt my sexuality in public, but if someone asks, I will be honest. Obviously your friend is not at this point yet. You could just ask him while you are alone. or even be open with him in private. He sounds like a cool guy, and probably would be fine with your sexuality, and maybe even curious.

 

[confusedboy23]

Definitely sounds like he's interested in you, at the very least, as a friend. I'd continue hanging out with him and texting him. I'd even go as far as reminding him that I'm bi and perhaps after a while more, I'd come clean to him with my feelings. To me, there's no point in hiding such attraction for too long because it can only destroy us! Good luck.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

You want to refocus and ask yourself:

Do I want to start something with this hottt dude OR

Do I want to have him come out to me, and possibly to other people.

If he wanted to come out, he would have done so.

If you want to start 'going steady' with him, just do it. Do not waste any words on it at this stage. You'll be just freaking him out, in all likelihood.

So, look back w ur big 'puppy eyes'. Hug him. Send him as many txts as you want and you'll get there without much talk.

Once you feel that both of you are getting somewhere with your new relationship, you can do the 'talk', see if you want to come out; what kind of a lifestyle would you want to adopt, whatever...

If you want a 'fully-out' dude, with the rainbow flags flying all around and all the pride marches, think twice. This guy might not be the ONE.

SC

 

[slobone]

Your next IM: BTW I'm gay thought you should know

he says: Choice A: That's cool I have a lot of gay friends
Translation: He's straight

Choice B: [silence]
Translation: he's either homophobic or in the closet.

Choice C: Oh yeah? We should definitely talk about that some time.
Translation: He's getting ready to come out.

Choice D: Wow I just got such a boner when you said that!
Translation: [Do you really need one?]

 

[skaterboi]

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Brian_1
Give me a simple life
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Roland00
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1billionserved
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confusedboy23
Sex God

SilverRRCloud
Sex God

slobone
Post Mortem

>>>>Thanks to all your reply...all of them...well most of them seem to have the best answer to my problem...

I really like him, not quite sure if he too...I wonder if he is bi and if yes, would we have a chance...Oh this questions...so hard to answer

Sometimes, I kind wish I was straight, cause they don't feel the same problems we are facing...(sigh)

If ever he or me myself still am a bit cowrd to ask or tell the truth, what could be my next move? How could we be much more closer?

I don't want to risk telling him my feelings and in the end he may grow aloof to me...I just can't deal with it....thanks for sharing your thoughts, and I'm really thinking over it....

It is not as if I only want him for the sex lol...that would have been easy...but no! There is something there, something deeper, something more profound!

He knows you're bi right? Next time he looks deeply into your eyes and smiles at you reply with something like "you must get all the girls when you look at them like that" see how he replies to that. Its subtley saying that you like him without being overly forward, it also gives him a chance to reply, really read into what he says back, how he says it, his body language everything! You should then be able to tell if hes straight, bi, gay or whatever.
Alternatively, invite him round to watch a DVD/sporting event where their will just be the two of you and no one else, see if hes interested in you more than whats on TV. If he is go with it, flirt a little with him see if he flirts back.
Be careful and go slow, the last thing you want is to jump on him and frighten him off or ruin your friendship.
Good Luck mate, be thankful you've got to the stage where you might have another guy who likes you (some of us can only dream).