How Do You Know If You Have Fallen For Someone

[A Living Hell]

As i've never had any close friends or sexual contact, how do i know if I am lusting for someone or just wanting them as a friend? I've been talking lots with someone who is straight and hes really open about anything I ask him (be it about sex or anything else lol) and I feel close to him.

I feel like I want to meet him and hug him (I only talk with him via the phone and on MSN but I got pics of him etc) but how do i know my feelings don't run deeper than as a friend?

I tried to explain this a week or so back on here but didn't express myself very clearly. I feel kinda jealous when he is with his gf (Who i feel i know very well despite never talking with her lol) and he is completely smitten with her.

I don't think I have any sexual urgings for him but yet I seem to be displaying all the signs I have fallen for him (envy, dropping everything at a moments notice to talk to him, always wanting to talk and feel close to him, basing times I do things around him, getting clingy (though he is a bit clingy back), trying to buy him stuff all the time); I'm really confused. Have a fallen for him? Do i need space and quickly lol? Or is it just because I consider him a really good friend?

Help. What should i do? What do my feelings mean?

 

[G-Lexington]

It doesn't matter if you've fallen for him or not. He's straight. You're never getting in his pants. Given THAT fact, how do you feel?

Lex

 

[Ryuukie]

How do you know? When you care more about him than even yourself.

 

[kevin23]

What G said, he's straight, is smitten with a girl, he would probably bonk you on the head if you so much as touched his leg. If you want to be friends great, but don't even dream of touching him. Ever...............

 

[Homoerectus]

It's the old story of Adam and Eve. Forbidden fruit is always so irresistible. Love him as a friend but find someone else for your lover.

 

[A Living Hell]

i don't think I want to get in his pants I just don't like him spending loads of time, well erm any time, with his gf. Does this mean, by definition, that i must want to get in his pants?

"he would probably bonk you on the head if you so much as touched his leg."

lol definitely yes

 

[A Living Hell]

Yes good luck to you. Well this sounds really bad now because I haven't even met him lol, but I talk to him on the phone and MSN all day everyday unless I'm working, he is job hunting or he is with his gf. Its like I feel lonely when hes not online lol.

I'm meeting him next Saturday.... he said did i mind if his girlfriend was around lol.... well i can't really say no can I even if thats the answer i want to say.

I'm confused if I just feel close to him because we have shared so much stuff, and I know so much about his sex life its scary lol, and I feel like he knows me better than anybody else.

I guess its just something i will need to work out.

 

[Danugh]

I feel kinda jealous when he is with his gf (Who i feel i know very well despite never talking with her lol) and he is completely smitten with her.

I don't think I have any sexual urgings for him but yet I seem to be displaying all the signs I have fallen for him (envy, dropping everything at a moments notice to talk to him, always wanting to talk and feel close to him, basing times I do things around him, getting clingy (though he is a bit clingy back), trying to buy him stuff all the time); I'm really confused. Have a fallen for him? Do i need space and quickly lol? Or is it just because I consider him a really good friend?

Help. What should i do? What do my feelings mean?

Well the fact that you have no "sexual urgings" for him means that you value him simply as a good friend. You are jealous because he is your first real friend. I suggest getting more friends, meet more people so that you wont focus all your energies on one friend.

It doesn't matter if you've fallen for him or not. He's straight. You're never getting in his pants. Given THAT fact, how do you feel?

Lex

Well first of all he doesnt want to get into his pants.

Secondly if he did want to, he could, i should know.

 

[latinoguy19]

How Do You Know If You Have Fallen For Someone?

Well, let's see...when you think of them when they're away, when you want to be their everything, when they have their heart broken and you're the only one to hold their hand...
When you see them every night in your dreams, when they look good in anything, and when you look into their eyes and see the world,

that's when you know that someone has made you fall with all of your heart and that only they can make you happy.

 

[A Living Hell]

Well i wouldn't quite go THAT far latinoguy lol, so maybe theres hope for me after all.

 

[bluedragon4]

Gay men on JUB I got something to say(<in the words of Jerry blank) Stop falling for straight men!!!!! It's way pathetic. I always thought that was the most loser thing a gay guy could do.

 

[latinoguy19]

Bluedragon I got something to say(<in the words of I don't know who) You don't choose who you fall for... It's just that simple

A) That is completely true. and,
B) I didn't say anything about straight guys.

 

[tomersh]

As i've never had any close friends or sexual contact, how do i know if I am lusting for someone or just wanting them as a friend? I've been talking lots with someone who is straight and hes really open about anything I ask him (be it about sex or anything else lol) and I feel close to him.

I feel like I want to meet him and hug him (I only talk with him via the phone and on MSN but I got pics of him etc) but how do i know my feelings don't run deeper than as a friend?

I tried to explain this a week or so back on here but didn't express myself very clearly. I feel kinda jealous when he is with his gf (Who i feel i know very well despite never talking with her lol) and he is completely smitten with her.

I don't think I have any sexual urgings for him but yet I seem to be displaying all the signs I have fallen for him (envy, dropping everything at a moments notice to talk to him, always wanting to talk and feel close to him, basing times I do things around him, getting clingy (though he is a bit clingy back), trying to buy him stuff all the time); I'm really confused. Have a fallen for him? Do i need space and quickly lol? Or is it just because I consider him a really good friend?

Help. What should i do? What do my feelings mean?

I'm having the same problem with my best friend.. He doesn;t have a girlfriend but he is really religious and proabely would bonk me on the head if I touch his leg too... He doesn't know I'm gay but we're really really close.. we talk on the phone everyday, I see him 4 or 5 times a week......

Anyway, I'm really confused if I'm falling (or halready have)for him or do I just conider him a really good friend, which he is... Oh and I feel jealous when he spends time with his friends without me..

I think my advice to you is to keep being a good friend since you're already close and hopefully with time you'll figure out what are your feelings for him... I know it's not much of an advice but that's what I'm gonna do...

Good luck to both of us.......

i don't think you guys are falling for your best friends....i had the same problem and as i see it i felt that way because i felt that if i wasn't one of the guys that he's hanging (or in my case they are hanging )around or spending time with then we aren't that close and because my best friends mean the world to me i really would get upset that they would go out and not call me like every time....and not include me in everything...but i realized that no matter what happens no matter who they spend most their time with they are and well always be my best friends and nothing will drive us apart unless i don't change this attitude...well i might have rambled on ....what i'm trying to say is i don't think your falling for your best friend but you should give him his space and understand that he has his life ...and try to focus your life on other things ....i hope what i said makes sense and helps you out...

 

[A Living Hell]

Yes that makes sense, thanks.

I gave him some space today, except now he starts talking to me frequently but disappears mid convo as hes too busy fondling his girlfriend.

 

[bluedragon4]

Bluedragon I got something to say(<in the words of I don't know who) You don't choose who you fall for... It's just that simple

Straight guys are off limits. You are asking for pain and suffering if you CHOOSE to go down that path. Sorry, I meant Jerri Blank with an I(not a Y). Hope that helps. She is one of the greatest minds of our time. Her wisdom is well below her years.

 

[latinoguy19]

I was agreeing with you i_dont_care.