How do you know you're bisexual?

[Consistency]

I'm new here.

I am recently experiencing my natural sexuality after months of overcoming a porn addiction since the age of 14. Now 25.

I was in the shower and naturally fingered myself without thinking about it. Its like my subconscious did it.

I know that anal stimulation does not constitute being gay.

I don't get an erection by looking at attractive men however I do notice the attractive features.

I searched the internet on how to know if one is a bisexual man but nothing turned up.

How do I know?

 

[jensu846]

when you jerkoff, who do you think of the most? would you rather eat pussy or suck dick? I have done both but still consider myself gay because I dont love women the way I love men. I mean, I fall in love with men, whereas I could never love a woman like that. The bond or connection I feel with men is much stronger than the bond or love I could ever feel for a woman. So if you can do both, fall in love with men and women, then I would guess your bi. imo

 

[Consistency]

Sucking dick has crossed my mind while masturbating in the past however I grew up conditioned to the idea that being gay is "wrong". So... I always got it out of my head.

I've never been with a guy. The connection to a woman is very strong.

I tried looking at naked men with erections but it just shriveled my dick. I must be hetero then?

 

[jensu846]

maybe hetero 90% and homo 10%?? everybody has a different number. if you can, dont worry about your label, just go with what feels best for you. Have sex with a guy and see if that changes anything.

 

[csb999]

well opinion . I don't know if this would be of any use to you . I would consider myself bi for the reason that , having been with both , with women I just like it too much , I know that I'm not faking it . Secondarily I think there can be a huge difference between what is mentally attractive to you and what you do physically . My porn is and has always been totally gay , even when I had a girlfriend and was physically totally with her .

 

[Consistency]

maybe hetero 90% and homo 10%?? everybody has a different number. if you can, dont worry about your label, just go with what feels best for you. Have sex with a guy and see if that changes anything.

I remember a psychologist making a move on my dick and my dick shriveled up but doing something playful with another guy gave me a semi erection...

well opinion . I don't know if this would be of any use to you . I would consider myself bi for the reason that , having been with both , with women I just like it too much , I know that I'm not faking it . Secondarily I think there can be a huge difference between what is mentally attractive to you and what you do physically . My porn is and has always been totally gay , even when I had a girlfriend and was physically totally with her .

Have you ever been physically with another guy?

This might be of interest to you....

I'm straight, but attracted to transexual or gay porn. What's up?

 

[KaraBulut]

Be wary of sites that talk about "HOCD". It's not a disorder that is recognized by any reputable psychologist.

The underlying message to these sites is that there's something wrong or abnormal about being sexually aroused or attracted to your own gender. Any examination of history will tell you that men have been having sex with men for millennia - whether they identified as straight or gay. And what men fantasize about is pretty varied and it's not the least bit unusual for men to have fantasies about other men.

Instead, there's a group of conversion therapists that are taking what has long been recognized as a normal behavior who are attempting to label it as a fictional disorder "homosexual OCD" in order to "treat" it and "cure" the person of their thoughts about being gay.

 

[Consistency]

Or being bisexual.

Not for everyone of course. There is a problem when a man is turned off by a sexual experience with another man but not turned off by gay porn.

Yourbrainonporn does not try to cure it with psychotherapy or drugs but simply by giving up porn. It states that watching high speed internet porn, multiple tabs, rewires the brain like a brain of a cocaine addict at first and then the addiction causes an escalation towards more novel porn, gay porn or hardcore porn to get a bigger high.

I find it very hard to believe because I've never gotten turned on by gay porn and turned it off however lets say I or a straight guy kept on watching gay porn without masturbating... this would rewire my or their brain towards homosexuality, the fluidity of sexuality, and MIGHT eventually turn me or the straight guy on. Maybe csb999 or others like csb999 can comment on their first experience with gay porn.

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I have a question about what it feels to be gay mentally. Is being gay having feminine mental views? Since there is attraction towards male physical features.. such as arms, etc.. I am also not talking about a female mind trapped inside a mans body.

 

[seven2go]

I have a 100% straight, younger (and REAL cute), friend who watched porn with me at work on breaks.
We'd watch straight porn but every now and then I'd slip in a bi porn to see how straight he really is.
There was NOTHING that turned him on about bi porn but, interestingly the FIRST thing he'd comment about in ANY porn was the size of the guy's dick.
Oddly he never EVER got hard from watching porn. Said only naked woman in real life made him hard.
He double teamed women on a couple occasions with a WELL hung friend of his (he told me that too) but as for doing anything man on man nothing will ever happen.
So if bi/gay porn gets you going......there is something else going on as well.......

 

[mbamike]

Take this test and read the information on its site. It should provide you with some of the information you seek.

Flexuality by James W. Hicks, MD

 

[Consistency]

@seven2go

I wonder if the shame of "what if I got a boner" did suppress his erection or the shame of "what if I got a boner" around a guy(you) who has showed non-verbal interest did suppress his erection. A straight guy not getting a boner from straight porn? Its possible if the porn sounds fake, loud fake screaming and those ugly women with fake tits. Can you try x-art porn and tell us if he gets an erection or leave him in the room alone to x-art porn.. make an excuse to go out of the building.. come back and you might catch him yanking the bishop.

I agree with you on the last bit. The yourbrainonporn site is confusing. They state that straight guys get hooked on shemale porn and then escalates to gay porn but then this other guy tells his story.. that he is addicted to shemale porn and then tries to hook up with a gay guy cause he's desperate to hook up.. thinks.. a hole is a hole.. well.. starts kissing the guy and gets turned off.

The facts aren't straight.

Take this test and read the information on its site. It should provide you with some of the information you seek.

Flexuality by James W. Hicks, MD

Thanks.

It didn't tell me anything I didn't know and I found the test rather misguided at parts, I would of edited it if I could. So.. Straight, tiny bit heteroflexible and the rest is zero. I scored high on restrained, no surprise there since being tight with cash, I can't afford to have a girlfriend now, so I restrain myself. It sucks when there is opportunities daily.

 

[LeicsDom]

I searched the internet on how to know if one is a bisexual man but nothing turned up.

How do I know?

You know for sure when you work out that you can J/O with either hand

 

[allanpeggie]

it.. just happened..