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How do you overcome heartbreak?

Fucker29

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How can you overcome? Is it really just time? 'Cause I can't take much longer of this.:(
 
So may people will say that any grieving situation takes time. While that may be true, it's not time alone. It's time with action, activity and perhaps even prayer. I have a couple of adages---reflect, but keep moving; keep moving, but not to distraction; keep doing the next right thing; and, remember, every relationship ends.
 
The pain is a part of it- it comes with.

Time does make a difference.

Moving on and finding happiness elsewhere helps.
 
For me I started to drink and in a way abuse my pain killers. Then I stopped do that and had a mental breakdown. After that I realized I love him enough I just want him to be happy, even if it hurts me. For whatever reason that worked and has kept me going.

If you can just love him. I suppose that’s not helpful advice though.(*8*)
 
There's nothing you can do. We all go through it. The best you can do is keep your head high and attempt to keep your sanity.

Failing that focus on his negatives and create reason why you two can't be together, but do this in your head as otherwise people will think you're crazy.

And if non of that works, find some happy music and dance around to it.
 
westindianstud said:
I eat and eat and eat! And then feel sick and then continue eating!
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Substitute "eat" and "eating" for "drink" and "drinking" and it sounds more like my plan.

Well, actually it's more like drink a LOOOOOOT, sleep a LOOOOOOT and eat a LOOOOOOOT.
 
Every day still hurts but the pain dulls as each day passes. You can try to substitute the pain with food, drinking and other things but in the end the pain is still going to be there.
 
hungbuzz said:
Every day still hurts but the pain dulls as each day passes. You can try to substitute the pain with food, drinking and other things but in the end the pain is still going to be there.
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I don't really care. At least I'll have some MOMENTS when I don't feel it, or I'm numb...those moments give me some relief.
 
Good luck Fucker, time is the only thing that has helped me before. I suggest you stay busy to take things off your mind. It's not easy, but can be done. I hope it works for you, whatever you decide to do.
 
Five years ago I would have said "whore yourself out".

And although it helped, today I don't see it as the best method anymore ;)

Take some time for deep thinking and soul searching. SOME time, after that get distracted, re-warm friends with whom you lost touch, get out, do things pick up a new hoppy, intensify an old one ..
 
I agree with what another person said it does take time but it is also about being proactive. If you don't go out there and try to meet new people it will be harder. It maybe hard but getting involved in groups or volunteering is the answer. The good thing about groups and volunteering is there is no pressure.
 
Distance does help and totally getting involved in something else to keep your mind occupied - dive into one of your favorite hobbies, get a new one if you are bored with the rest, make some new friends. As others have mentioned it will take time, especially the part in here where someone said each day it gets better and better.

I know it's hard to believe but it will get better, it's been almost three months for me since I let go of him and there are days that I still get teary eyed, especially after i've run into him in town. We are still friends which makes it better but at times can make it worse...a double edge sword if you will. Needless to say i'm in a much better state of mind about all of it than I was in February.
 
chile this is easy

let 10 years go by

so much other shit would have happened this lil sitchy-ation wont even matter

so cry

start working on yourself

act like it never happened and move on (with caution)

and post on jub in the meantime:gogirl:
 
Apparently my first heartbreak happened (or began) during the 2004-2007. I'm not sure if it can be said to be a heartbreak. I was in love with my straight "best friend".

Well, love is blind. He used to abuse of my kindness until he left the country. His departure made my depressive state even worse. I got better by thinking of his flaws and accept that I would not get him because he's straight.

I healed completely very recently when I met and got to know this man.

I hope it will be so for you. (*8*)
 
Time, unfortunately. =(

It took me 5 years to get over the only guy I ever fell in love with. O.o =(

Hopefully it doesn't take you that long. =)
 
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