How do you politely stop social media group members from texting you too much?

[user9430961]

How do you politely stop social media group members from texting you too much?

I don’t mind someone wanting to send me a few short text messages on social media every now and then, however the trouble I have I run into is, some guys want to text back-and-forth for hours at a time(via the social media platform private message option) .

Then there are guys that send me long personal text (via the social media platform private message option) that may take 5 to 10 minutes to read AND they are waiting on their end for a quick response back (which may take me an additional 5 to 10 minutes to sincerely and honestly write something back to reply back to them). Then they turn around and send another text that may take 5 to 10 minutes to read . . . and this long and lengthy reading and writing text thing just keeps going back and forth with no end in sight.

All of these guys seem like sincere and nice guys, so I don’t won’t to hurt any of their feelings in cases like this. I am sure these guys are lonely and have a great deal of free time on their hands, but I don’t have time to devote to this type of social media text messages. Unfortunately like on Facebook, there is no option to turn your Private Message button off.

So how do I politely tell these types of guys I want to be social media friends, but I don’t want to engage in the habit of exchanging a lot of endless or long text messages? I don’t want to block them, since again . . . all of these guys seem like sincere and nice guys, and they are probably” lonely. Just a few days ago, I ended up texting back-and-forth with a guy for about 30 minutes, then I told him I had to go to work and I would catch back up with him later . . . and he basically quickly responded and said "Fine! No worries!" I am not sure if he was mad with me for my leaving our back-and-forth texting or not, yet I really did have to leave to go to work. As it was, I sat their for 30 minutes texting back-and-forth to him.

Yet I am probably one of the few guys out there that “is not” into a lot of texting with anyone. As it is, I really don’t even text much to my own family and non-social media friends.

Lastly, normally these text messages start when I post something on social media (it can be my original post, or my answering a post in a social media group, then these guys seem to use that as a personal invitation to send me a private message and share their thoughts on my post or on a comment I posted on someone else's post (instead of just adding their thoughts to my post or my comments, so the entire social media group can view it). So when guys send me these private messages, that opens the door to how I end up with these types of guys want to keep texting me. As a rule, I never send members a private message to their post, I will only post my comments on the social media group (to someone's post), so all group members can see my post.

 

[Kahaih]

Is this a joke?

 

[rareboy]

You can keep it short by first not responding to text messages or you can let them know that you are not able to take time at that moment to exchange text messages. Why are they able to text you in the first place?

 

[unloadonme]

The best way is not to use social media.

 

[rareboy]

I use social media but no one I connect with can just text me. The OP must be providing information that allows others to text message.

That is where to start.

Stop giving out so much information to strangers.

 

[metta]

I use social media but no one I connect with can just text me. The OP must be providing information that allows others to text message.

That is where to start.

Stop giving out so much information to strangers.

same

 

[LeicsDom]

How do you politely stop social media group members from texting you too much?

I don’t mind someone wanting to send me a few short text messages on social media every now and then, however the trouble I have I run into is, some guys want to text back-and-forth for hours at a time(via the social media platform private message option) .

I have had that in the past. The only way to curb them is to ignore their messages for a few days and then send a quick message saying you are busy. If they start up again, just ignore them for longer. Eventually they will get the message

 

[USEDCAR]

People i know used to send me tons and tons of video reels at least 20 a day by multiple people and i just simply open the message and close it and eventually they stopped sending me videos.

If you don't want to talk to them or your not in the mood just don't reply back or you can mute them and they just go into your request box.

 

[Rickrock]

I don't use social media, but I assume that you take your time in replying to them and sometimes mention that you are busy or had chores or responsibilities to take care of. Maybe this would be similar to what people did when people used to socialize on the phone years ago, don't answer it or return their call much later.

 

[NotHardUp1]

Post something that implies you are financially in need of some help.

Or have a litter of kittens you need to rehome.

Or that you have "discovered" some wonderful new products from Amway.

Or solicit anyone who may have experience in defeating an ankle "bracelet."

 

[user9430961]

Is this a joke?

No. Sadly it is a real situation that I am dealing with.

 

[user9430961]

You can keep it short by first not responding to text messages or you can let them know that you are not able to take time at that moment to exchange text messages. Why are they able to text you in the first place?

Thank you rareboy. I appreciate your help and suggestions. On Facebook, anyone with a Facebook account can send you a private message to your Facebook page/account. There is no way to disable this feature.

 

[user9430961]

The best way is not to use social media.

True, unloadonme. I agree with you.

 

[user9430961]

I use social media but no one I connect with can just text me. The OP must be providing information that allows others to text message.

That is where to start.

Stop giving out so much information to strangers.

Thank you again rareboy. I appreciate your help and suggestions. Again, on Facebook and similar social media platforms, often anyone on that same social media platform (that has an account) can send another member on that same social media platform an Instant Message or Private Message, yet often members have an option to block people. Yet in my case, these people seem sincere, nice people and just seem lonely and just seem like they want someone to chat with online. They do not seem to be stalkers and unkind people. Yet in my case, I just don't have the time to engage with these people that want to text back-and-forth in my social media groups.

 

[user9430961]

same

metta, thanks.

 

[user9430961]

I have had that in the past. The only way to curb them is to ignore their messages for a few days and then send a quick message saying you are busy. If they start up again, just ignore them for longer. Eventually they will get the message

LeicsDom, thank you so very much for your help and suggestion. That might do the trick. WHEW! Looking at some of the earlier comments, I thought I was the only one this happened to. LOL! Thank you so much for understanding my situation, I will give your suggestion a try. Maybe I will just get in the habit of never looking at those Private Messages to ensure that I don't end up in this situation. Now, Facebook has added a feature to let people know that you viewed their Private Message AND it also gives the date and time that you viewed their message . . . so at that point, the other person can keep an eye on how long it actually takes for you to reply back to them (i.e. seconds, minutes, hours, days, etc.). I am not sure why Facebook thought they needed to add this feature. Thanks so much for your help.

 

[user9430961]

People i know used to send me tons and tons of video reels at least 20 a day by multiple people and i just simply open the message and close it and eventually they stopped sending me videos.

If you don't want to talk to them or your not in the mood just don't reply back or you can mute them and they just go into your request box.

Thank you, USEDCAR. I appreciate your help and suggestions. I will give your suggestions a try, and hopefully it will resolve my problem. For a short while there, I thought I was the only one this happened to.

 

[user9430961]

I don't use social media, but I assume that you take your time in replying to them and sometimes mention that you are busy or had chores or responsibilities to take care of. Maybe this would be similar to what people did when people used to socialize on the phone years ago, don't answer it or return their call much later.

Rickrock, thank you. I appreciate what you have shared. It is very helpful. Thanks so much.

 

[user9430961]

Post something that implies you are financially in need of some help.

Or have a litter of kittens you need to rehome.

Or that you have "discovered" some wonderful new products from Amway.

Or solicit anyone who may have experience in defeating an ankle "bracelet."

LOL! Thank you for your help, NotHardUp. However these are real men that seem like sincere, nice, kind men . . . I don't not want to hurt anyone. I think these guys are just lonely, they have time on their hands and are just looking for a kind person to talk/text with. Yet in my case, I just don't have the time to text back-and-forth with anyone. I have a full and complete life, yet I do enjoy social media and interacting with other people in a group on occasion, but don't like the one-on-one texting thing. Yet in a group, I can make a new post or comment on something, yet if a person comments on my post or comment, I don't have to reply back right away, and 99% of the time this never turns into a back-and-forth thing or a long back-and-forth thing. 99% of the time, the people that I converse with in a social media forum, I can reply back in a few words and move on. It is then over and we both move on. It is rare that I find someone on social media (when they are talking in the group), that conversations will last long and or cause anyone to write long comments. Whice I love. I enjoy sharing my comments and moving on. Thanks again for what you shared, NotHardUp.

 

[USEDCAR]

Thank you, USEDCAR. I appreciate your help and suggestions. I will give your suggestions a try, and hopefully it will resolve my problem. For a short while there, I thought I was the only one this happened to.

Your welcome you just have to remember your not available to everyone 24/7 and its okay not to text right away. I text my friends and i don't expect them to text me within seconds. I wish you luck