How do you politely stop social media group members from texting you too much?

[NotHardUp1]

LOL! Thank you for your help, NotHardUp. However these are real men that seem like sincere, nice, kind men . . . I don't not want to hurt anyone. I think these guys are just lonely, they have time on their hands and are just looking for a kind person to talk/text with. Yet in my case, I just don't have the time to text back-and-forth with anyone. I have a full and complete life, yet I do enjoy social media and interacting with other people in a group on occasion, but don't like the one-on-one texting thing. Yet in a group, I can make a new post or comment on something, yet if a person comments on my post or comment, I don't have to reply back right away, and 99% of the time this never turns into a back-and-forth thing or a long back-and-forth thing. 99% of the time, the people that I converse with in a social media forum, I can reply back in a few words and move on. It is then over and we both move on. It is rare that I find someone on social media (when they are talking in the group), that conversations will last long and or cause anyone to write long comments. Whice I love. I enjoy sharing my comments and moving on. Thanks again for what you shared, NotHardUp.

I was just spoofing.

You are right. A demanding and/or long exchange is a sure sign of a lonely heart.

You already have the right answer. Slow the responses, and give a gentle reminder that you don't have the time to treat texting as a real time discussion, but will find time to answer when able.

 

[rareboy]

LOL! Thank you for your help, NotHardUp. However these are real men that seem like sincere, nice, kind men . . . I don't not want to hurt anyone. I think these guys are just lonely, they have time on their hands and are just looking for a kind person to talk/text with. Yet in my case, I just don't have the time to text back-and-forth with anyone. I have a full and complete life, yet I do enjoy social media and interacting with other people in a group on occasion, but don't like the one-on-one texting thing. Yet in a group, I can make a new post or comment on something, yet if a person comments on my post or comment, I don't have to reply back right away, and 99% of the time this never turns into a back-and-forth thing or a long back-and-forth thing. 99% of the time, the people that I converse with in a social media forum, I can reply back in a few words and move on. It is then over and we both move on. It is rare that I find someone on social media (when they are talking in the group), that conversations will last long and or cause anyone to write long comments. Whice I love. I enjoy sharing my comments and moving on. Thanks again for what you shared, NotHardUp.

You are the only one who can set limits.

If you let people take over and develop an on-line relationship with them...even as an acquaintance...this is your choice and maybe you are more in need of their companionship than you had allowed yourself to think about?

In any event, you aren't a therapist and if they are only dumping their baggage at your doorstep...then unless you feel the need to pick it up...then let it sit on the platform.

 

[rareboy]

I was just spoofing.

You are right. A demanding and/or long exchange is a sure sign of a lonely heart.

You already have the right answer. Slow the responses, and give a gentle reminder that you don't have the time to treat texting as a real time discussion, but will find time to answer when able.

I actually thought it was brilliant advice.

 

[user9430961]

You are the only one who can set limits.

If you let people take over and develop an on-line relationship with them...even as an acquaintance...this is your choice and maybe you are more in need of their companionship than you had allowed yourself to think about?

In any event, you aren't a therapist and if they are only dumping their baggage at your doorstep...then unless you feel the need to pick it up...then let it sit on the platform.

rareboy, thank you for the additional help and advice. I appreciate it.