Hey Guys, thank you for the candid and great feedback. Thank you for sharing so much great advice. I’ll take some of your advice and see what I can do, to make those “husband hunters” buzz-off! LOL!!!
Since I belong to several gay social circles (for many years), 99% of the guys who attend these same social events throughout the year, are regulars and we all pretty much know who is single, who is partnered, who is looking for their next boyfriend or partner (aka “husband hunter”), and we know who is single and not looking for anyone. Yet since these social circles advertise in the gay community, to make people aware of their organizations, it is not unusual to attract new guys (on occasion) who come to these events for the very first time or are new and they start attending the events on a regular basis. The “husband hunters” are those pathetic single guys who ONLY attend these social events to try to find their next boyfriend or partner. Usually these new guys (who only come out to “husband hunt”) pretty much only stick around long enough to bag a boyfriend or partner (then they either never come back to the social group again or they come back again when they are single again). Yet since these new "husband hunting" guys don’t know anybody and they don’t know who’s single and who is not single, these new guys (who usually tend to be aggressive and arrogant) like to move fast . . . They like to start chatting up guys who they physically desire and start trying to shake them down . . . i.e. cornering a guy and asking him dozen questions (like they are interviewing you to be their next boyfriend) and they are usually reluctant to talk much about themselves.
I know when I was single and was the “new guy” to a gay social circle I was attending for the first time or I was attending several times, I would attend and often sit quietly and observe, but be sociable. Though when I was single and went to these social circles, I never made “husband hunting” my goal. I normally would take a few months getting to know a new group, let things happen naturally. Normally I have found, whenever I have found boyfriends in these social circles before, we pretty much mutually gravitate towards each other after a few or after several months after I become a regular in the social circle. Normally I have never had trouble being the “new guy” and have some of the established single guys hit on me as soon as I came to their social circle. Personally, I have never once backed a guy in a corner and got up in a guy's face and pounced on him . . . trying to feel him out (to see if he might be a perspective boyfriend). So these scummy "husband hunter" guys that come from out of the blue, seem to ONLY go to these gay social circles, primarily to bag their next boyfriend , and then they are gone.
Now with that being said, since I have a good standing history with my gay social circles, I really don’t want to get a reputation for being a bastard, by telling these guys to go “f-off” . . . since our paths will have to cross in these social circles . . . Plus I really don’t want such “a$$holes” to spoil my time at these events, until they decided to move on. So I figure if I can “politely” make them go away, then hopefully I don’t have to worry about them trying to hit on me and it will make it more peaceful and pleasant being in the same room with these sleazy guys, until they decide to leave the social circle. Yet I guess it seems that guys that come to these social circles and who plan on staying around for awhile are usually on their best behavior, and seem to be sincere and upstanding men. However those “husband hunters” are animals and have very bad social skills.
Wilson
Since I have been partnered, I have never once come across one of these “husband hunters” that I would give a second look at. 99% of the time, these aggressive guys always remind me of sleazy & oily used car salesmen. None of these guys ever look like a catch (so I automatically see why they are single). So these guys would never stand a chance with me, even if I were single. I don’t like to be rude to these guys, because I know what it was like being single and in the trenches “husband hunting” myself 
, but I never went after guys who were dating someone or someone who was partnered or once a guy told me that he was seeing someone or was partnered. So I think these guys should take the hint, when I say that I’m partnered, then they should take a hike and not be an annoying gnat that will not go away. 
In my case, since these guys are often aggressive, arrogant, think that they are the "perfect catch" . . . 99% of the time, these guys bore the hell out of me after talking with them for 5 minutes or less. Help! 
