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How does anyone meet anyone?!?!?

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I've recently come pretty much all the way out. I thought this would make things easier as far as dating and relationships go, but it's still a crapshoot. I've done the online thing yielding nothing more than the occasional one night stand. I don't think the kinds of guys I would meet in gay bars/clubs would really be my type. To all you guys out there who are in satisfying relationships, HOW DO YOU MEET EACHOTHER??? Any help advice much appreciated! Thanks fellas.
 
I would like to know this too! How DO you meet eachother???!?
 
The most successful relationships i've had were set up by my friends. They knew somebody at work or they knew a friend of a friend, so you just have to get out there and meet people whether gay or straight because most likely somebody will know somebody who's single and looking. Also if you live in a larger town, there are groups you can join to meet people. I've never been to any of these because i live in a smaller town, so i wouldn't know too much about them, but if you surf these threads, you will hear about them. Most are activity groups where gay people get together and do things they like to do like biking and such. Anyway, most of it is social networking, seeing if any of your friends know anybody and things like that.
 
I did the online thing, about six years ago. I tried to be completely honest in my profile statement and what I was looking for. I met several really good men, including the one I've been with for the past 5½ years. For every good man, though, there were at least 20 who were too self-centered, just looking for sex, or plain creepy. I had to learn how to weed them out quickly. I had the best luck with Match.com, but the situation may have changed over the past six years.
 
i'm no expert but i guess when you see an oppotunity anywhere just go for it and see what happen.
 
Telstra said:
i'm no expert but i guess when you see an oppotunity anywhere just go for it and see what happen.
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really , this does happen to anyone !
i've made a guy will jogging & it turn out to be a night of .......well you all guess it !


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Where do you meet good, relationship-minded guys? How about where the good relationship-minded guys are?

* Most cities of a certain size have a "gay" section. Start hanging out there. Do your grocery shopping there. Have coffee and read the paper in the coffeeshop. Browse the bookstores, the shops, even the hardware stores. While there, talk to people. Start some conversations.

* Google the words "gay group (your city) (activity)". What's something you like to do? Volunteer? Find some gay-themed volunteer groups in your area. Volleyball, biking, rock climbing, books? See if there are gay clubs in your city devoted to that. It may take a few tries, but you should come up with something.

* Stay social. Don't just divide guys into "fuckable", "relationshipable", and "forget it". Get to know folks. Make more friends. Even if they're not relationship material, maybe one of their friends is.

Lex
 
I tell my friend the same thing over and over...

If you are at a bar or somewhere and some guy walks up to you to start a conversation... if he is not your type or whatever... do not just blow him off... chances are because hes got the stones to come up to you hes gone up to many other people... this guy can be friendship material and he will probably introduce you to other friends of his that may actually be your type.
 
decided to bite the bullet and try the gay bar tonight. as per my prediction, the crowd was pretty much not what i'm interested in. all the guys wearing tight jeans and shirts and kissing eachother on both cheeks to say hello. nothing wrong with all that, just not what i'm looking for. did strike up a conversation with one guy, and well... that's a story for another day. but i'm not sure that scene will yield the kind of relationship i'm after
 
theFallenGod said:
I tell my friend the same thing over and over...

If you are at a bar or somewhere and some guy walks up to you to start a conversation... if he is not your type or whatever... do not just blow him off... chances are because hes got the stones to come up to you hes gone up to many other people... this guy can be friendship material and he will probably introduce you to other friends of his that may actually be your type.
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That is really good advice!
 
hphbp1821 said:
I don't think the kinds of guys I would meet in gay bars/clubs would really be my type.
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Maybe yes, maybe no. "Guys in bars" are pretty broad in scope because much depends on the bar, the types of people who frequent it, and a lot of things. There are some quality people at some of these bars who don't fit the bar-fly stereotype at all.

Anyway, my partner and I met sharing a lane while doing laps at the pool. That was 13 years ago. Most people I know who are couples met through friends, sports, social organizations of shared interest, bars, and the internet--in that order.

Good luck!
 
>>>What if you don't have any friends?

Then go find those first. Reread my post, and many of the others. These techniques can get you friends in addition to getting you laid.

Lex
 
hphbp1821 said:
decided to bite the bullet and try the gay bar tonight. as per my prediction, the crowd was pretty much not what i'm interested in. all the guys wearing tight jeans and shirts and kissing eachother on both cheeks to say hello. nothing wrong with all that, just not what i'm looking for. did strike up a conversation with one guy, and well... that's a story for another day. but i'm not sure that scene will yield the kind of relationship i'm after
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You can't judge the "bar scene" off of one bar. I'm not sure where you live, but if you're anywhere near a major city, there's bound to be many different gay bars that cater to different types of gay men.

And as someone else said, maybe those guys in that bar aren't your type. But striking up a conversation and becoming friendly with them could aid you in finding one who is.
 
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