I am curious as to how one finds their preferred position? Does personality play a factor? I worry that controversial issues might be embedded in these questions, but I assure you I don't want to stir up negativity.
My fantasies are almost always oral intensive, but I gave it some thought today, and decided I would prefer the bottom position. First of all, I have never found the idea of sticking my dick into an anus, regardless of whether it was a male or female anus, very palatable or desirable. My own personal preference is for pussy.
For males, gay sex has an advantage over straight sex insofar as the anus is exploited for its erogenous potential. Of course, women could always finger a man's asshole or fuck him with a strap-on dildo but for the most part straight sex involves no anal stimulation or penetration for men. The bottom position is the one that is open to anal stimulation, which for males also includes stimulation of the prostate, the so-called male g-spot. In my opinion, this makes the bottom a much more interesting choice. In my case, I wouldn't have to sacrifice a thrusting position, for I would at other times engage in vaginal intercourse.
There are other things that attract me towards the bottom role. Straight men penetrate, but aren't penetrated. I myself find I tend to be attracted to alternate experiences from the normal. Thus to be a man who allows himself to be penetrated, has an innate appeal to me. It breaks stereotypical male/female dualities. It allows more access to the feminine. I have always identified with female sexual roles to a significant degree.
Finally, I like the idea that the bottom must assume positions normally associated with vulnerability. The bottom, in a way, offers himself up in a self-effacing but noble gesture.
This last quality lead me in a discussion of my first reservation about bottoming. The bottom may come to represent exploitation and domination by the top. Some like these sorts of power plays, but they disturb me. Just because you fuck me, doesn't make me a weakling. This should apply in hetero- and homo- sexual intercourse.
My only other reservation about bottoming, is that it's hard for me to imagine it being pleasurable. I'm sure that this is a prejudice on my part caused by the lack of relevant experience. From what I have seen, being fucked in the ass is extremely pleasurable. Now that I mention it, another factor that draws me to bottoming is my complete ignorance of what it feels like.
If someone could succinctly describe the experience, I would be grateful.
In summary, my ideal sexual activity would include vaginal intercourse with a woman, being a bottom with a male partner, and sucking cock (which I find much more appealing than cunnilingus).
My fantasies are almost always oral intensive, but I gave it some thought today, and decided I would prefer the bottom position. First of all, I have never found the idea of sticking my dick into an anus, regardless of whether it was a male or female anus, very palatable or desirable. My own personal preference is for pussy.
For males, gay sex has an advantage over straight sex insofar as the anus is exploited for its erogenous potential. Of course, women could always finger a man's asshole or fuck him with a strap-on dildo but for the most part straight sex involves no anal stimulation or penetration for men. The bottom position is the one that is open to anal stimulation, which for males also includes stimulation of the prostate, the so-called male g-spot. In my opinion, this makes the bottom a much more interesting choice. In my case, I wouldn't have to sacrifice a thrusting position, for I would at other times engage in vaginal intercourse.
There are other things that attract me towards the bottom role. Straight men penetrate, but aren't penetrated. I myself find I tend to be attracted to alternate experiences from the normal. Thus to be a man who allows himself to be penetrated, has an innate appeal to me. It breaks stereotypical male/female dualities. It allows more access to the feminine. I have always identified with female sexual roles to a significant degree.
Finally, I like the idea that the bottom must assume positions normally associated with vulnerability. The bottom, in a way, offers himself up in a self-effacing but noble gesture.
This last quality lead me in a discussion of my first reservation about bottoming. The bottom may come to represent exploitation and domination by the top. Some like these sorts of power plays, but they disturb me. Just because you fuck me, doesn't make me a weakling. This should apply in hetero- and homo- sexual intercourse.
My only other reservation about bottoming, is that it's hard for me to imagine it being pleasurable. I'm sure that this is a prejudice on my part caused by the lack of relevant experience. From what I have seen, being fucked in the ass is extremely pleasurable. Now that I mention it, another factor that draws me to bottoming is my complete ignorance of what it feels like.
If someone could succinctly describe the experience, I would be grateful.
In summary, my ideal sexual activity would include vaginal intercourse with a woman, being a bottom with a male partner, and sucking cock (which I find much more appealing than cunnilingus).
