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How evil is it....

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It's a necessary evil.

One I enjoy from time to time. =]
 
Ok, lobezno, third attempt at responding to this, without erasing and starting again.
Glad your life is great. Take it easy on your ex (you know why!!!) and no it's not evil at all!
So relax. Enjoy it.

Now just to be all "me" about this (sorry)...
why are you comparing your life to that of your ex? hmmmm?
 
Why should you feel bad for accomplishing very impressive goals? Why should you sacrifce your happy mood so you can feel bad for your ex? Sure, perhaps you could have sympathy or offer him support, if he wants it, but don't drag yourself down because you feel evil for feeling good about yourself. Its not evil. Trust me. ;)
 
It depends on how you feel about your ex, I guess. I'm on decent terms with mine, so don't mind hearing he's doing well. However, I have an ex-FRIEND of mine who was always really condescending - looking down on everyone, as he had the perfect wife, perfect job, perfect home. Within a three-month period, his wife left him, he lost his job, and his home was flooded. I really didn't feel that bad.

Lex
 
lobezno said:
Lol. well thank you sir, but Im not comparing!!! just had a couple of good weeks, meeting new interesting people, getting good stuff at work and studies, doing good... and heard my ex complaining all last night about life etc... woke up this morning wondering if feeling good cos Im over things etc, was evil. then again, aint we all? ;)
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Ahhh. *Strokes beard - cranks the 'bastard' essence up a notch*

And do we know exactly why he's complaining to you? Hmmmmm?:p
 
I suppose if u dont go up to his face and start talking about how great your life has been after you split up with him, thats not evil. We all think like that, when i do better then someone else on something, i feel better about myself. But the trick is not to rub it into the other person and boost about your achievements.
 
OK ok now we're getting somewhere.
So you're not feeling evil about feeling smug about having a more positive life?
Perhaps you're feeling just a little bit guilty over not being "nicer to him"?
 
In that case, Mister, I say you stop worrying about it.
I'm sure you are nice enough to him, he is your ex after all. But, pal, you should be happy for you. It's human to feel good when you're doing better than someone else, it's like Schadenfreude.
So relax, and get him a token friendship gift for his birthday!
 
I never understood the whole stay friends with the ex thing. Ugh. I would say that the breakup was good for you and not for him.....to bad so sad. I think this is a natural reaction that you feel.
 
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