How Good Do You Think Your Gaydar Is?

[erobert]

I've been thinking of asking this question for sometime. About how good would you say your gaydar is? Has it gotten better over the years? If so how did you develop it? Do you do anything when it starts to go off on someone?

I think mine is very good actually and has gotten much better over the years now that I'm in the city more often. Guys who attracted to guys on some level will register on it, even closet cases. Living in a big city has greatly helped since I'm around so many people all day

I also think it's developed well over the years because it's like a sixth sense that develops into a very useful skill for "mate attraction" for lack of a better phrase.

If It starts to go off it depends on where if I will do something. Sometimes I don't do anything. Identifying who's gay or bi doesn't automatically mean they are attracted to you, that's a whole different skill.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

How Good Do You Think Your Gaydar Is?

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[Nomenclature]

I'd say that mine's about 85% accurate.


The problem is that mine goes off when i'm around people
i'd never expect were actually gay (a deeply-closeted friend, the religious type, macho/military guys), so I doubt myself for the longest time. . .until I find out that they actually are gay and willing to come out in some capacity.

 

[erobert]

I'd say that mine's about 85% accurate.


The problem is that mine goes off when i'm around people
i'd never expect were actually gay (a deeply-closeted friend, the religious type, macho/military guys), so I doubt myself for the longest time. . .until I find out that they actually are gay and willing to come out in some capacity.

Doubting your gaydar is a frustrating experience but you have to go with intuition. It's not really surprising on how many people it goes off on when I'm out and about but that's just my gaydar picking up on all the levels of same sex attraction.

I will admit it is awkward when it goes off on married family members. Wish there was an "off" button for relatives.

I can sense when a gay guy is behind me and pick guys out from a block away. I've become intrigued about that aspect of it. I guess that's it's way of preparing me for something (usually passing eye flirting) when someone is headed my way. I call it long range gaydar but I guess it's more pheromones than anything else....

 

[Shepherd 2]

I do not have gaydar. Instead I have always known that I am intuitive. I am pretty much 100% on target. It gets uncomfortable at times knowing what I know when there is no objective basis or reason for me to know. But I am commited to never using it to hurt another person, and I have pretty much succeeded.

Shep+

 

[DigitalFudge]

Everyone to me is straight until proven gay.

 

[Ryuusei Boy]

Abysmal. Unless they're so open about it that you don't need a gaydar anyway.

Everyone to me is straight until proven gay.

This.

 

[CowboyBob]

I don't have gaydar but I wish I did.

 

[trikky]

my gaydar is pretty accurate like 90% plus. I think though that when you see another gay guy and you exchange a glance there is sometimes just this mutual acknowledgement that trhe other is gay. It going off doesn't really mean that I act on it. It's just one of them things.

 

[seven_sins]

I think mine is pretty good today. Before I left college, it was miserable. I just ran across a fraternity brother on Facebook looking for men. What a surprise.

 

[MollyontheShore]

I have a pretty accurate gaydar but I never assume anyone is gay/bi/straight until they tell me or they are in a relationship with someone.

 

[erobert]

The last few posts have pointed out the ethical issues of gaydar- its potential to out people against their will.

It should never be used for outing anyone. That's unethical on all levels. Besides you could be wrong. Even though I think mine is pretty good I've been wrong before.

Then there's the dilemma of sexuality being no one else' business but their own and the best way of finding out who's gay is by heading to your local gay bar or club. Don't need gaydar in a gaybar. I can see both sides for and against gaydar.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

I always think it's pretty good -
and then I'm like way way off base - and totally wrong about one or two - and wonder if the warranty has expired... or it needs a serious tune-up or sumthin?

 

[roadtripboy]

Pretty most of the time. But, sometimes I just miss it completely.

Once there was a guy at work who always wanted to talk to me. The only thing he knew was sports and all I know about sports is...I like guys in baseball uniforms.

After he stopped working there...my boss (also gay) laughed at me. Saying "he's was flirting at you, I kept waiting for you to get it".

 

[Sam Blum]

Awfully inaccurate. But I suspect it's really more about self-doubt than another's sexuality.

 

[treanir]

It's gotten a lot better over the years, but that's because it started out at 0. Nowadays it goes *ping* every now and then and I turn out to be right. But I can't rely on it too much.

 

[freefall]

Since I can never say, "Hello, are you gay?" aloud in public, it's completely obscure, even though my intuitions are usually right and for some unknown reason, I keep getting vibes from some married guys I know...--'

 

[Kester]

When someone has their head between my legs with his head bobbing up and down, my gaydar works great.

All other times it shit. LOL.

 

[attallaborn]

my gaydar told me that ricky martin and lance bass where gay..and it also tells me that rafael nadal, jake gyllenhaal, jc chasez (nsync) and other celebs are gay..

..u know, its one of those things where you "just" know..its like u can see it in their eyes and once u see it, its like they can tell that u know and either it scares the shit out of them (closet, married, etc), they become shy (never been kissed) or they divert the attention (not interested, taken)... with guys, i am usually spot on..with women, unless they are really butch, i can not tell to save my life..to me, all women seem straight but men, i can spot out a mile away

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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