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How hard do you work on your sex life

chrisdobro

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Does sex happen naturally for you or is it a planned event ?


For example, if it happens naturally, do you work at it at all ?
And if it's planned, do you have "contracts" with your partner where you specify what and where and how it should be done and using what method. Do you specify it verbally, in written form or otherwise ?


Now, onto specific questions:
  1. if your partner shows you his hard dick, without saying anything, but perhaps looking at you, what do you do (if anything?)
  2. what if your partner is just hard, without any specific que from him, but you can see it, what do you do ?
  3. what if your partner makes you touch or grab his hard dick (and you do), what do you do after if anything ?
  4. do you ever jump on your partner (have foreplay or sex) when he is not asking for anything and not initiating anything ?
 
well for me it's ... pretty much the same ... but there is a hard dick involved somewhere !!
 
Read the signals. If it's your partner then I'm sure sex isn't out of the question. Some people have to plan it more intensely than others, but I think there is also a good bit of "just happening" built in there. I mean at least more me anyway. I've certainly never had a sex calendar or anything. It's a whole communications thing. THE ultimate communication.
 
Nope. No contracts. No calendars. No planning. No obligations on anyone's part. No stress. No musts. No nothing.

If I want sex, I go over to him and we have sex. If he wants sex, he comes over to me and we have sex.

If you cannot do it for whatever reason, you say so.

I think, it did happen like once in 5 years. ... Yeah, it happens:)

SC
 
one may say that if you have to work at it, you are doing it wrong ...

humm for me it is not just happening anymore ... still can't figure out why. My partner in particular has no clue. I have more ideas that my partner, but that is not helping.
 
Sometimes it's planned, sometimes it's spontaneous. It also depends on your definition of planned. It's rarely planned days in advance; though recently I decided to surprise my BF by buying some massage stuff and giving him an erotic massage. I had to plan that a couple days in advance so as to work around our school schedules and whatnot.

Sometimes it may be "planned" about 10-20 min in advance, like if we're showering together and we suddenly get into a heavy make out/grinding session; then it's basically understood that we're going to have sex when we get out and get back to his room. Sometimes if one of us is to tired at night we might just agree to wait until morning.

As for a schedule or anything, no. Contract or obligation, no; though we rarely say no to one another.

For your specific questions:

1. I don't think he's ever done that, though if he did I'd happily tackle him and have some fun :P

2. Depends on the circumstance and why he's hard (ie is it a morning piss hardon or is he horny). If it's the lader then see number 1 :P

3. Has happened several times, usually when we're in bad cuddling. He might grab my hand and pull it down to his hardon, in which case see number 1.

4. Yes. Sometimes we'll each be doing HW or cuddling watching a movie or something. Usually one of us we'll start playing with the other's nipples or kissing his neck or something. If the other responds or doesn't object... see number 1 :)

The past couple of weeks the sex has happened less than normal, but I'd say that has to do with stress, school, early mornings and long nights more than anything else.
 
If you and your partner are having to sit down at the kitchen table and say... "Ok well I'm free on tuesday, ooo tuesday's no good for me how about thursday, but on thursday I've got the big meeting at work how about friday, friday works for me, ok then how about 3pm to 3:30pm, what you don't think I can last for more than 30 minutes, no I'm just going off past experiences, fine what should we do, well I was thinking I could start off by licking around your ear ... much more sexually explict... then you orgasm and we're done, works for me, me too, see you friday at 3, see you friday at 3." Then perhaps there is something wrong.

It's common for people to not spontaneously be in the mood at the same time, but usually when one person gets horny it doesn't take long or much pushing to get the partner up and ready. Don't over think it. If your horny and he's fixing a sandwhich in the kitchen, go up behind him wrap your arms and around him give him and little kiss, and ask him how his day went or something. If you all start showing some of the little affections like the sandwhich scenario :D it would probably make it easier to go up to him when your horny grab his crotch and start the foreplay to get to the sex. :D
 
Sorry, I'm still working on just having one at all right now.
 
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