How is your gaydar?

[roadtripboy]

This. I can spot even before they know it themselves.

Most of the time this... But, there was one case when I didn't notice at all. There was this guy, he would sit at my work station and try to talk football with me. I don't know anything about football. That's a conversation that's going nowhere. After several weeks of this, I see a co-worker standing at the door laughing. Later he says to me: "You know he was flirting at you, don't you?" Well, no, I had no clue, none at all.

 

[Nealm1]

Most of the time this... But, there was one case when I didn't notice at all. There was this guy, he would sit at my work station and try to talk football with me. I don't know anything about football. That's a conversation that's going nowhere. After several weeks of this, I see a co-worker standing at the door laughing. Later he says to me: "You know he was flirting at you, don't you?" Well, no, I had no clue, none at all.

I never realise these things either

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Sometimes, I'm spot-on and sometimes.....NOT!

I have a perfect score, haven't been wrong yet.

 

[USEDCAR]

I knew some guys were gay or bi even before they came out. Sometimes i'm spot on and sometimes i'm not.

 

[offthewall14420]

Can't tell at all. Not good at reading people's non verbal cues.

 

[wolfypdx]

For the first time in a very long time, my gaydar was up and running today. I was interviewing an attractive student; my gaydar unexpectedly kicked in and was screaming at me that this guy is gay. I found out afterwards (by looking in the school's gay Slack channel) that he was a member, so is almost certainly gay. (I won't do anything about it - he's on the other side of the country and I don't mess with students.)

 

[72-Jay]

Sometimes it works fairly well, other times not really.

 

[Kulindahr]

Yup, you watch/listen to people long enough and it becomes easy as pie. The tell-tale signs are usually there.

I wish.

Not only does my gaydar not work, I can't even find the wires it's supposed to plug into.

 

[Kulindahr]

Many people think it is some extrasensory perception, but if people break it down, it's observation of observable traits and then some calculated guesswork of the whole instead of just the parts.

In redneck territory, most gays and bisexuals purposely copy redneck mannerisms, which makes things complex.

 

[Kulindahr]

As it is, even in a mostly gay environment, I'm likely to pick the one straight man there to try flirting with.

Done that. His girlfriend thought it was cute; she tried to get him to let me blow him but nope.

 

[NotHardUp1]

In redneck territory, most gays and bisexuals purposely copy redneck mannerisms, which makes things complex.

Assimilation into society is by no means a redneck preserve. It is universal, and not even exclusive to humans.

Gays are simply doing what all humans do.

And there are no gay mannerisms. It's an orientation, not a personality trait.

 

[pornoboy]

"Gaydar,"
the ability to intuitively discern someone's sexual orientation, is a real, though imperfect, phenomenon.
While studies suggest people can make these judgments at levels better than chance, it's not a foolproof system.
Some research indicates accuracy rates around 60-64%, with potential for higher accuracy in real-world scenarios where more cues are available.
However, these perceptions are often based on stereotypes and may lead to misinterpretations.

MIne is working fine

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[lockeroomguy]

Mine doesn't exist. If I saw Richard Simmons in a Tutu, waving a rainbow flag and dancing ballet to Judy Garland show tunes, I wouldn't know he was gay.

 

[xyxyxy]

Probably average, to be fair I'm curious and not gay

 

[Peloso]

If I had to guess, I'd say it's all about eye contact. Where our eyes go says a lot about what's on our minds, and in the same way that one might reflexively turn one's head in the direction of a sudden loud noise, we are not always in control of where our gazes land.

To me, gaydar is all about that searching gaze that's held for a millisecond too long. Perhaps there's something behind that gaze that we are subconsciously aware of, or a slight tweak in our facial expression that, in tandem with the eyes, sends a subtle message. I know I don't look at women, or men who I have absolutely no physical interest in the same way that I would look at someone I would consider attractive.

Our eyes meet the eyes of strangers constantly. It's instinctive. Most of the time, that gaze is quickly broken, and without any thought. But because humans are complex and extremely sexual beings, when we see someone we'd like to have sit on our face, there's probably a whole lot more going on in our brains than there is in those fleeting, meaningless glances we exchange with people who we'd rather not have sit on our face. I'd be willing to bet that an EEG would prove this.

Of course, it would follow that straight people experience the same thing, the difference being that for them, finding a partner is like standing with an empty plate at a smorgasbord, whereas for gay men it's more like a single cheese platter in the corner of the room (with the requisite multi-colored frilled toothpicks and six different kinds of organic lettuces for them to be carefully and painstakingly arranged on. Perhaps some of them are shaped like little penises.)

How kind it was of God to instill in his homosexual children a method in which to connect that significantly reduces our chances of getting punched in the jaw.

 

[Kahaih]

I can clock em from a mile away, blind-folded, facing the other direction.

Isn't that your typical Saturday night street corner look, anyway? The only thing you didn't mention is the little tin cup.

 

[rareboy]

I am pretty much still spot on.

Maybe it is the pheremones they give off...even in pics?

 

[Petallways]

If some1 was staring at me I would feel uneasy and scared off. What do you watch for in a guy?

I get a gut feeling when a man is into me or checking me out as well as when I was with women.

 

[rareboy]

If I had to guess, I'd say it's all about eye contact. Where our eyes go says a lot about what's on our minds, and in the same way that one might reflexively turn one's head in the direction of a sudden loud noise, we are not always in control of where our gazes land.

To me, gaydar is all about that searching gaze that's held for a millisecond too long. Perhaps there's something behind that gaze that we are subconsciously aware of, or a slight tweak in our facial expression that, in tandem with the eyes, sends a subtle message. I know I don't look at women, or men who I have absolutely no physical interest in the same way that I would look at someone I would consider attractive.

Our eyes meet the eyes of strangers constantly. It's instinctive. Most of the time, that gaze is quickly broken, and without any thought. But because humans are complex and extremely sexual beings, when we see someone we'd like to have sit on our face, there's probably a whole lot more going on in our brains than there is in those fleeting, meaningless glances we exchange with people who we'd rather not have sit on our face. I'd be willing to bet that an EEG would prove this.

Of course, it would follow that straight people experience the same thing, the difference being that for them, finding a partner is like standing with an empty plate at a smorgasbord, whereas for gay men it's more like a single cheese platter in the corner of the room (with the requisite multi-colored frilled toothpicks and six different kinds of organic lettuces for them to be carefully and painstakingly arranged on. Perhaps some of them are shaped like little penises.)

How kind it was of God to instill in his homosexual children a method in which to connect that significantly reduces our chances of getting punched in the jaw.

This.

The eyes usually have it.