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how many friends do you really have?

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i have noticed that since i lived in tenneessee that people here seem to take friendships for granted. the only reason i got on just us boys is to make friends and only friends..i have a partner that we have been together for almost 11 years...and he doesnt mind me making friends . someone accused my partner of controling me which isnt true i am a man with a mind of my own and i can make friends with anyone i choose my partner doesnt not tell me i can not have friends anyway he has friends i chose not to have any because of the situation i was going through. so do friends intervane i dont think so...if they do then prove me wrong i am just trying to figure out how many people are really my friends and or they fair weather friends. i might have hurt someone's feelings from here but my heart doesnt want to get hurt or lose my partner. we all should try to help our friends if we are truly are friends but for me i need to have a friendship in person and not just on the internet and the phone we need to have relationship outside of the computer emaling text message,and talking on the phone. so men what do you think what i just said???????
 
Understand that throughtout your life, you will have friends and you will have acquaintances. The acquaintances will always outnumber your real friends. I know dozens and dozens of people but have 2 or 3 true, REAL friends Your real friends are the people who are there for you and you for them, through thick and thin, and will seldom attempt to tell you what to do. They will love you unconditionally, not necessarily as a partner does, but they love the person you are. The rest of those acquaintances will pass in and out of your life over the years and many will disappear from your life altogether.

There is a big difference between knowing people (acquaintances) and having a true friend or two. Also, a real friendship may take longer to nurture. The people you may casually meet with and socialize with in bars are usually not real friemds....they may simply be bar friends and, outside the bars, you may have very little contact with them. That is not a friend. It's an acquaintance.

I don't remember what great person said it but he said "When you have lived your life and all is done, you will count the real friends in your life only on one hand". I believe that is true. Real friendship is a precious gift. When you have it, cherish it.
 
manfromtenneessee said:
i have noticed that since i lived in tenneessee that people here seem to take friendships for granted.
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As for this statement, this is not limited to your location. Some people take friendships for granted everywhere, because they are those kinds of people. Other than that, Orlandude stated everything so clearly.
 
My best friend, Jim has literally bent over backwards for me ... he tried to be gay, if just for me, but sadly he's straight.
 
Hey, I'm the number one fan of the man from Tennessee. (Which explains why you don't come to Denver.)

How many friends do I have? I guess it depends on where the line between "friend" and "person I hang out with" is. Here's a random definition. Something devastating happened to me, and I desperately need to talk to somebody face-to-face about it. It's 4am, and everybody's asleep. Who can I call who will readily agree to get up and meet at some all-night diner so I can pour my guts out?

...not sure. It's over ten, and it may be as many as twenty.

Lex
 
I don't really know anymore.

The internet has devalued the actual meaning of friendship to a great degree.

My definition of friends would now be those people I socialize with by inviting them to dinners at our place and talking to in person and over the phone regularly.

Everyone else is an acquaintance.
 
I like to think I have 3 real honest-to-god friends. But that's what I like to think.
Most likely, for the whole scenario Lex concocted, I'd only feel comfortable to call one of them.
 
I have honestly speaking..... 3 true friends. Friends I can count on, and tell my deepest secrets (and have).

The rest are "friends", but I wouldn't trust my life to them.
 
I don't know and don't care. Certainly not something that matters much because it's so subjective and also you don't always know who is really your friend or not. A lot of friendships are also put on hold or not really there because they live far away, but as soon as you see them again it's like time never passed.
 
rareboy said:
I don't really know anymore.

The internet has devalued the actual meaning of friendship to a great degree.

My definition of friends would now be those people I socialize with by inviting them to dinners at our place and talking to in person and over the phone regularly.

Everyone else is an acquaintance.
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thank you glad someone feels this way
 
G-Lexington said:
Hey, I'm the number one fan of the man from Tennessee. (Which explains why you don't come to Denver.)

How many friends do I have? I guess it depends on where the line between "friend" and "person I hang out with" is. Here's a random definition. Something devastating happened to me, and I desperately need to talk to somebody face-to-face about it. It's 4am, and everybody's asleep. Who can I call who will readily agree to get up and meet at some all-night diner so I can pour my guts out?

...not sure. It's over ten, and it may be as many as twenty.

Lex
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hey know the song please come to boston i think
 
AngelFromAbove said:
As for this statement, this is not limited to your location. Some people take friendships for granted everywhere, because they are those kinds of people. Other than that, Orlandude stated everything so clearly.
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i wasnt just talking about tenneessee......but a lot of people here in tenneessee do take friendships for granted as long as i have my partner i am cool
 
Four, and they have been for over 30 yrs. Acquaintences that I see occasionally are many. When tragedy struck my life these 4 moved in with me to watch over me without as much as a minutes thought. They were at my house within a half hour, aiming to stay awhile, which they did. I'm eternally grateful and always ready to respond in kind should something happen to them, and as we all know, it probably will.
 
I constantly feel like I don't have enough friends, too, and that most people take friendship for granted.

Whenever I feel like I'm lacking of friends, I always remember a quote: "If you have two friends in your lifetime, you're lucky. If you have one good friend, you're more than lucky." - S.E. Hinton
 
About a dozen really good friends, most of who I've known for over 20 years.

It's either all-or-nothing for me; perhaps it's because friendships take maintenance and energy; which I have less of as I get older.

The only acquaintances I know are people such as my work colleagues.

Every so often, I delete people out of my address book. If I've met anyone during the year that I either haven't connected with, or don't feel a connection with, I hit the delete key!

I don't do any social networking sites...
 
I found out how many when I had to move. All the lip service I got offering "help" when the time came evaporated quickly.

FWIW, I moved MY stuff from a one bedroom efficiency ONE block away to another apartment.
 
^ I think this may indeed be the purest definition of a true friend.
 
I guess that'll depend.

If I said "Hey, I'm moving to a new place, and I don't want to pay for movers, so everybody meet at my place at 8 - pizza's on me!"...I might have a few people show up.

If I said, "Hey, I'm getting kicked out of my place. All my stuff will be on the lawn tomorrow morning at 8am, and I'll have the rest of the day to try to get it to a new place. Please come help if you can"...I'm betting a lot more would.

Lex
 
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