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Just curious..
Being young, I never gave it much thought, but I think it's something we all should do no matter what age we are...
There is no promise of tomorrow...
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How many of you have a written legal Will??
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Just curious..
Being young, I never gave it much thought, but I think it's something we all should do no matter what age we are...
There is no promise of tomorrow...
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Yes, I have a will.
I also have a living will, which needs to be updated. When in use, I found out when we had to take my best friend off the machines and drugs that they needed to have more details in it in order to for the doctor's to feel comfortable going with them. Doctors have to be really careful in situations like these becuase of liability.
The living wills need to explain at what point you would like machines and medicines to be removed as well as when you would like them to be used in detail. This is difficult to do if you don't work in the medical field as a living.
For example....something like....if there is less than a ___% of me either surviving or not ending up with major damage to my brain then......
If I do have major brain damage....and it is at a certain level of damage, then....
If I have to live in machines.....
etc...
Those are really tough questions to answer.
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In my best friend's case, it was almost as if the living will just supported what his family and myself decided. I knew what my best friend had wanted. We had discussed it several times previously. I had the power of attorney for him. We all agreed that even if he did come out of it that he would not want to live like that so we asked them to take him off the machines and drugs. Well, they also said that if they kept him on, that they would probably have to start taking off limbs because the heart was not strong enough to push the blood to the limbs.
Putting the decision onto a family member is tough. When it comes to those moments, you never know if they will decide to put you on that machine no matter what because they can't let go or visa versa....but less of the visa versa part.
I think that it is probably wiser to make sure that the living will is done properly and that it is easily available to prevent more added stress to family and friends.
I also have a living will, which needs to be updated. When in use, I found out when we had to take my best friend off the machines and drugs that they needed to have more details in it in order to for the doctor's to feel comfortable going with them. Doctors have to be really careful in situations like these becuase of liability.
The living wills need to explain at what point you would like machines and medicines to be removed as well as when you would like them to be used in detail. This is difficult to do if you don't work in the medical field as a living.
For example....something like....if there is less than a ___% of me either surviving or not ending up with major damage to my brain then......
If I do have major brain damage....and it is at a certain level of damage, then....
If I have to live in machines.....
etc...
Those are really tough questions to answer.
__________
In my best friend's case, it was almost as if the living will just supported what his family and myself decided. I knew what my best friend had wanted. We had discussed it several times previously. I had the power of attorney for him. We all agreed that even if he did come out of it that he would not want to live like that so we asked them to take him off the machines and drugs. Well, they also said that if they kept him on, that they would probably have to start taking off limbs because the heart was not strong enough to push the blood to the limbs.
Putting the decision onto a family member is tough. When it comes to those moments, you never know if they will decide to put you on that machine no matter what because they can't let go or visa versa....but less of the visa versa part.
I think that it is probably wiser to make sure that the living will is done properly and that it is easily available to prevent more added stress to family and friends.
khushibagh
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I have one.
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I haven't done so yet ...but I probably ought to ...especially in light of metta's post above ...I don't want to be resucitated or end up 'living' hooked up to a machine.
Although I don't really have much 'material' stuff, I would like it to go my friends rather than let any one else have it.
Although I don't really have much 'material' stuff, I would like it to go my friends rather than let any one else have it.
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Yes, I do think that is the case. I just think that it is more kind to set it up in a way that minimizes the pain that your family/friends have to go through. Having to sign papers to request that the machines are taken off is horrible, even though I know that is what he would of wanted.
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When my dad passed away 10 years ago unexpectedly, we scrambled to get things done. Unfortunately he did not have a will but fortunately, there wasn't much to divide between the rest of us and no arguments over who got what etc. The funeral arrangements were the hardest thing to do, again no advance preparations. When I got home, I immediately drew up a will and pre-payed my funeral arrangements. I decided I did not want to put anyone else through what we had to do. Death is hard enough to go through. At the time I did my will I was single. So many things have changed now that I'm married. At least I know my husband has nothing to do in regards to making arrangements. Its all taken care of.
It doesn't matter what age you are or what your circumstances may be.. get yourself a will and/or a living will. Don't let your loved ones scramble to figure out what to do. When the time comes for you to go.. you can go knowing that your love ones have one less burden to carry.
It doesn't matter what age you are or what your circumstances may be.. get yourself a will and/or a living will. Don't let your loved ones scramble to figure out what to do. When the time comes for you to go.. you can go knowing that your love ones have one less burden to carry.
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I've got no kids so why bother?
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well....if you have assets and you do not have anyone to give them to you could always considering supporting your favorite charity. But then again, if you don't do anything, then I guess you are supporting the government. That could be considered a non-profit.
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It's not just about assets..
Someone if going to have to make decisions on you behalf...its nice if things are in order..
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I haven't yet but i'm up to it!
My bank account is set for my dad and for my youngest brother when i die.
My bank account is set for my dad and for my youngest brother when i die.
I don't, although I'm well aware that I should.
My partner and I were both advised to make wills once we bought property together, but we haven't yet.
When's the best time after settling down for a couple to look at each other all doe-eyed and say "ooh darling, write down what I get when you die"?
We should do it, but I can't think what to do with my things, and I have horrible feeling I'll make everyone complete a challenge or a dare or a scavenger hunt in order to get their inheritance.
My partner and I were both advised to make wills once we bought property together, but we haven't yet.
When's the best time after settling down for a couple to look at each other all doe-eyed and say "ooh darling, write down what I get when you die"?
We should do it, but I can't think what to do with my things, and I have horrible feeling I'll make everyone complete a challenge or a dare or a scavenger hunt in order to get their inheritance.
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Yes, my Partner and I have a will and living wills with power's of attorney for each.......
Since most states in the U.S. do NOT have legal marriages or any other kinds of legal things that guarantee one or the other of the one left gets the other's stuff, we have to jump through lots of legal hoops to ensure the one left doesn't get screwed by the family or the system when we leave this world behind...
Today one does NOT know if they will return or NOT, so we must ensure some kind of legal document protects the one left...
Do NOT delay, DO it now!!!
Since most states in the U.S. do NOT have legal marriages or any other kinds of legal things that guarantee one or the other of the one left gets the other's stuff, we have to jump through lots of legal hoops to ensure the one left doesn't get screwed by the family or the system when we leave this world behind...
Today one does NOT know if they will return or NOT, so we must ensure some kind of legal document protects the one left...
Do NOT delay, DO it now!!!
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I haven't even thought about doing a will yet as i'm only 23. I couldn't give a fuck who gets what when i'm gone to be honest. As I don't have any kids and never plan on having any, if I die before my parents then they will get everything which is fine with me.
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It doesn't matter much if you're young and single and want your parents to make decisions on your behalf.
But gay life has changed dramatically in the past 30 years and legal codes have not kept pace so it's very smart for gay adults to protect themselves and their loved ones with legal documents.
My partner and I both have a Will and Living Wills in addition to Powers of Attorney and documents covering medical care issues like visitation and decision making.
Don't wait until you're in a crisis to deal with these issues.
But gay life has changed dramatically in the past 30 years and legal codes have not kept pace so it's very smart for gay adults to protect themselves and their loved ones with legal documents.
My partner and I both have a Will and Living Wills in addition to Powers of Attorney and documents covering medical care issues like visitation and decision making.
Don't wait until you're in a crisis to deal with these issues.
Having lost brothers in their 20's, I have had a will for years now. It has been changed a few times, the last when I lost my son also.
put in you.re wallet
I have a will which I up date each first of July .Being an old Queen you are in one year out the next. Keep every one guessing .
But for any one of you that are living on you're own Place a list of emergency contact peoples phone numbers in you're wallet. I've just had a young friend of mine who was hit while crossing the road , Lay in hospital for 3 days no one knew where he dissapeared to. of course they were calling his own number which was a great help.taught me a lesson .... go go do it..... Cheers
I have a will which I up date each first of July .Being an old Queen you are in one year out the next. Keep every one guessing .
But for any one of you that are living on you're own Place a list of emergency contact peoples phone numbers in you're wallet. I've just had a young friend of mine who was hit while crossing the road , Lay in hospital for 3 days no one knew where he dissapeared to. of course they were calling his own number which was a great help.taught me a lesson .... go go do it..... Cheers
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yvrpalms
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it doesn't matter if your only 23 or 93.. single or not.. you may think you have nothing to pass on.. but think of things you cherish or have in your possession that you know someone might appreciate for the memory of you after your gone. I'm pretty sure if you have no will everything goes to your estate and that anything of value will be used to pay your debts, taxes etc.. because believe it or not you do pay taxes even when you die... would you rather have your cherished items be sold of to pay your debts or would you rather have that someone you know to appreciate your life's treasures because you cannot take them with you.