How many of you...?

[BlueStreaker]

How many of you JUB guys are looking for a relationship or close friends when you get together with another guy (or, if you're bi, girl) and how many are just looking for sex? How many look for both, but lean towards one side, and how many are in the middle? Or, if you're indifferent, how many of you are happy with your hand and keep your distance from hook-ups and relationships?

It just seems like a lot of the people in my area are all about sex, sex, sex. Instant pleasure and gratification. Nothing long-term. I talk about it in the blog entry I just posted, you can read it if you want.

Can you prove me wrong? Can you show me that there really are decent people left in the world who aren't horny 24/7 and really care about what the other person is feeling?

I hope you can.

 

[laegolass]

For me, i'm going for a stable relationship or close friendship.
As for sex, i'll only do it with the one tht i'm willing to spend my life forever with.

 

[Syn]

I, myself, am looking for my first serious relationship. It seems that there are a lot of people in my area that are all about sex but I think that's the case in all big cities.

I met this guy a few months ago and at first I just wanted to be friends and I wasn't all that attracted to him but the more we went out and talked and enjoyed each others company the more I feel like I would want a relationship with him.

 

[puka-pride]

i never go out to meet up for sex.... I make them come to me....

but I rarely do that ... i usually meet up with a guy to see if we can be friends or if i can date him

 

[conrad]

If the first consideration, even the first question, is a bid for sex, be on your guard; if you buy, you set yourself up to be used for someone else's pleasure without regard to your needs. Raw sex may provide some sort of relief but so can your hand, and the relief your hand makes possible comes without the sense of being a object, someone who has been used.

Don't get caught up in the scramble for constant momentary pleasure; go for the real stuff--the mind-blowing, energy-filled, strengthening of the bonds that have already been established. First become friends. Friends often become lovers and lovers have things to express to each other that the physical expression in sex makes easier or even unnecessary. Real sex makes possible knowing each other where all the elements of love come together. Do not settle for less.

Peace!

 

[luminum]

I always want an emotional, committed, relationship, but I don't mind a casual sex relationship in the meantime.

 

[CagedBird]

Ditto luminum; I need an emotional connection & friendship . Sex if it works out of course!

 

[lifeisamazing]

i value a relationship over sex any day

 

[BlueStreaker]

Man, the poll results are making me happy.

I'm glad to see a bunch of people still care about friendships, relationships, and not just sex. Seriously, you guys are awesome.

The world isn't as full of horny sex maniacs as I thought. That's good to know.

 

[tonyboy]

Sex.Just sex nothing else im a young hot gay guy that lives in california plenty of gays here for me.

You've got a nice opinion of yourself man. No self-esteem problem in your life I guess....

btw man, why do you shave your armpits?

You may be young friend, that is something that is measured. As for your hot factor.... well dude that is your description.

I hope ego doesn't get in the way of your studies at UCLA man.

Best to you....

 

[looseliam]

It's a 50/50 for me. There are some good looking guys that I see as just pieces of meat. No nice way to put it.

Then there are those to whom I am attracted, but the sexual attraction isn't the driving force.

 

[TinyToeOut]

I want to find an older guy who wants to be romantically involve with me. Love and affection. mmm

I want to love the man not his penis (those are great extras!)

Too bad, I haven't found one yet.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm not looking for sex OR a relationship...at least, not an "LTR". With me personally, I'm looking for social interaction. If I make a friend, killer. If not, no biggie.

Lex

 

[kawaii]

Sex. Just sex, nothing else.

 

[drhladnjak]

Wow, I kind of feel like a dirty slut picking the second response.

Seriously though, I spent a lot of time looking for a relationship when I was younger and found myself just getting disappointed and depressed with that whole process. Looking back, I feel lucky that my neediness didn't result in me getting in a relationship with somebody who was wrong for me just for the sake of being coupled.

In time, I've come to believe the idea that you can't really go searching for a relationship--it has to find you while you're putting yourself out there, meeting interesting people and doing other things that you love with your life. However, you definitely can go looking for sex and find it. I admit that I do that occasionally as well, but even still many of the guys I've hooked up with have been friends of friends or people I met while not looking for sex at all.

All in all, I'd say I'm open to getting into a relationship with the right guy and sometimes looking for sex, but mostly I'm just living my life and enjoying the opportunities for friends, relationships and sex that happen by.

 

[drhladnjak]

Also, I wanted to add that anybody can answer this question in any way they want and not feel bad about themselves. At least those just looking for sex are honest about what they want. For a myriad of reasons, some guys are sometimes just not ready or just don't want to be in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with just looking for sex or just looking for love if that's what's right for you at a given point in time. Just be safe and open with your intentions with those you're involved with.

 

[gameboy 11]

Well since you want to know I will tell you what I think. I think at this point in my life a serious relationship would do me good. I could actually go around town with a boyfriend and get out of the damn house! But anyway, I want sex too...

 

[gameboy 11]

I, myself, am looking for my first serious relationship. It seems that there are a lot of people in my area that are all about sex but I think that's the case in all big cities.

I met this guy a few months ago and at first I just wanted to be friends and I wasn't all that attracted to him but the more we went out and talked and enjoyed each others company the more I feel like I would want a relationship with him.

Aww. I'm a sucker for the mushy shit. ^_^

 

[MindBlast]

If it's casual sex as in anal (and to a lesser extent oral) intercourse, I would turn it down 100% of the time.

If it's casual sex as in frottage and making out, I would do it with certain guys.

I want a relationship before I get into the heavier sex.

 

[confusedboy23]

Tough question. It 'was' purely sex when I realised my attraction towards guy but that did change when I 'met' him. When he left me, I knew for a fact that it just wasn't sex that I was after. I still long for a relationship but to be honest, I don't know if that's really what I'm after. I'm confused, as my name suggest!