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How much Homophobia do you suffer on a regular basis?

The incident that bothered me the most was several nasty remarks made about gays at my 20th high school reunion (a conservative Christian school). Needless to say, I'm not going to any more reunions. I keep up with my friends on a regular basis, and any of my classmates who might have a problem ... no need to spend any more time on them.

Aside from that, I used to deal with a lot of jokes that made GLBT's the butt of the joke from one guy in particular at work. Oddly enough, he's harmless, has a heart of gold, and would give you the shirt off his back, even if you're transgendered ... just likes to tease and use whatever gets a rise from people. He doesn't use those kind of jokes anymore.
 
Pretty much none.

And if I did, I wouldn't *suffer*.

Damn, what a weak, pussy, victim word....
 
well I guess my point about small men is that ..yes, it easy to pick on someone small that may, or may not look defenseless. My point is, if you are a homophobic idiot that is setting out to prove how much of a man you are by hurting someone obviously much smaller than you....does it make you more of a man? You're right, I've seen small men take down much bigger men than themselves, and unfortunately we are talking about idiots that don't know any better.....so yes, I guess a small man is an easy target.....most of the time.
 
I get the occasional death-stare.

Like this:

This happened at a grocery store. I was at the end of an aisle, looking at the opposite end to see an item I thought may be there.
There happened to be a guy there at that end where my item was. I go there and he shoots me a nasty look of disgust. Like I want his ugly ass?! Bitch please, don't flatter yourself! The str8s are so full of paranoia and panic it's comical.
 
Nothing from the general public.

Most of the little homophobia I expierence is from work. (Im out at work) Sometimes people dont want be friends with me just because I'm gay.

Other times , at work, guys think that I'm flirting with them or have a crush on them......and act weird toward me.
 
Not so much. I'm pretty fem, I guess, and never really get attacked over it. I know there are a few guys in work who are really resentful of the gay lifestyle, but I tend to get along with them really well.

I think it's cause I try to desensitise the subject as much as possible-- I talk about boys who would 'get it', and in return I'll talk about really pretty/fit/whatever girls. Really, straight guys have as many kinks as gay guys do, I think once that barrier is realised and broken people tend to be a lot more sociable.
 
nothing at all on a regular basis,and I'm not sure "suffer" is the right term.

I think I may have lost a job promotion a while back because I wasn't "one of the boys,"

but I can't be sure because I can't read minds.
 
MoePhoenix7 said:
Compared to other people, the little bit of harassment that I did receive as a teen for "possibly" being gay shouldn't even be considered homophobia. I was accepted much better than most. No one ever put their hands on me or vandalized any of my property. It seems like once I came out of the closet, the taunting that I did receive for being gay completely went away. Once being gay was no longer a big deal for me, it stopped being one for everyone else. :-)



Yeah, this.

I'm used to people looking at me sideways for my race...so much so, that I can't even tell if they're also doing it b/c I'm gay.

I just don't care anymore. :-)

As long as you keep your mouth closed and stay out of my space, a bigot can give me the stink eye all they wish. ..|

They're the ones with the problem, not me. I'm cool. :cool:
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I'm curious; where is this?
 
Travisevian said:
Aretha Franklin is 6'5"? :confused: :p ;)



Living in a commune is a lifestyle. Being a member of the Rolling Stones is a lifestyle. Being gay isn't a lifestyle. Furthermore, I don't know how anyone could get along with someone who is resentful of one's homosexuality. It must require a lot of restraint and compromise.
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Sorry to butt in, but it helps to define one's self by something other than their sexual identity. It's not like every conversation starts with a

Religion, sex, and political affiliation are things that can very easily be kept out of 'friendliness' arena. Unless we're dealing with full-on apes, t's very rare (I've never seen it) for conversations to start with "you know who I hate? Queers". Gas prices and what happened on LOST last nigh though are a universal language.
 
self inflicted said:
Not much really, I already told this, but as a bisexual guy I do get far more crap from gay guys.
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Quoted For Truth.

the only guy i ever had to get physical with was actually a gay guy. Not proud of sockin a guy period, but you earn your respect.
 
Two guys at my school called me a queer every time I even spoke a syllable. And one guy threw some object at my face then gave me a death stare as he was looking at my rainbow wristband. Not on a regular basis though.
 
Travisevian said:
People who disregard one's sexual orientation and conceal their disgust and hatred are just as bad if not worse to me than those who are blatantly homophobic. At least, with someone who is openly homophobic, I know where the person stands. Until the homophobia is resolved, if ever it is, why would anyone have a desire to make an effort to acquaint themselves with or befriend a homophobic person?
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No offense but I find that bloody ridiculous.

A homophobe could easily say the same thing: "until they've embrace Jebus and renounced their sinful ways, why would anyone have a desire to make an effort to acquaint themselves with or befriend a gay?"

It's by getting to know people as people as opposed to labels that there can ever be any change. Best case scenario, you change someone's preconception that "All gays are ______". Worst case scenario, you avoid some shit.

Not every conversation is a battlefield for gay rights.

And you say HOMOPHOBES like it's a catchall extreme for everyone who want us all to die of AIDS. Not all homophobes are equal. Some people genuinely don't know a(n open) gay person, others think gay=bitchy and just stay away, I've run into people who believed you turned gay after being an atheist too long. Ignorant? Dear God, yes. Hateful? No.

The media offers so many conflicting images of gay people that some people are legitimately just confused. Knowing a "gay" they like does more good in my book. If you don't get in my face, I won't get in yours.

Travisevian said:
If those are the most interesting topics one can think of, I would prefer not to be fluent.
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No one said they're interesting but they get the job done in terms of elevator rides with Mary from Accounting.That's just basic socialization. The deeper the friendship, the deeper the conversations obviously. Not everyone is going to be comfortable or fluent talking about Ru Paul, gay rights, or lady Gaga's latest outfit (and those who are aren't always people that you'll like, btw). You should be aware of that. Just like not everyone wants the baptist girl to start talking salvation at the lunch table.

There's a difference between that and denying being gay.

I'm not saying my way's the right one but it's worked for me pretty much everywhere from the suburbs to NYC to Texas and I've never been gay-bashed (I've been bi-bashed though). So y'know. Grain of salt and all that.
 
None, at least not to my face. Most of the co-workers know and family knows even though I haven't told all of them but they have done the math, they don't even ask about girlfriends anymore, lol.
 
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