How much of an age difference is too much?

[hotlatinchulo348]

How old is too old guys? Not in general, but in comparison? I found myself in a situation today where I was left to answer this question for myself. I'm a sucker for older guys but never have I considered anything serious. My limit used to be 5 years apart/older but... I really don't know anymore. I was curious about other opinions out there.

 

[hotb0d]

I set my limit at 40 and I'm turning 22 soon.

 

[socal21]

4-5 years for me...my momma says she doesn't want an old guy for her son lol <3

 

[Reality101]

I don't really have a limit. If we're compatible and attracted to one another then I don't care. It's hard for me to imagine dating someone young though, like 18-22. I'm definitely attracted to people around my age or older.

 

[Lube]

Like everything else--it depends.

I know a couple with a 20-year age difference that started when one guy was in his early 20's. And they've managed to stay together for over 20 years.

No way I ever thought that would succeed. It all depends.

You can't predict anything, so just enjoy it while you've got it. If it ends up not working out, you've learned something.

 

[LoveIsNow]

I don't really think that you being left to answer this question alone is a bad thing, because there is no real answer; it's up to you to decide.

For me it's dependent on my age. I'm 20 and I place my dating range at 19 to 23 (one year younger or three years older). I feel like if I can't have it equal on both ranges right now, because 17 and 18 seem so young and naive. As I get older, I think I will feel comfortable widening my range, so when I'm thirty I will be okay dating from 27 to 35 or so, and by the time I'm 40, maybe 34 to 46. If I end up a lonely old widower at 80, I will date anyone between 70 and death.

That said, this is all speculation and I may not feel that way when I get older, or I may find someone totally amazing outside my age range. I still find it hard to imagine that I would date someone ten years or more older than me until I'm in my 70's.

 

[tonyboy]

How old is too old guys? Not in general, but in comparison? I found myself in a situation today where I was left to answer this question for myself. I'm a sucker for older guys but never have I considered anything serious. My limit used to be 5 years apart/older but... I really don't know anymore. I was curious about other opinions out there.

It depends on the person. I have a very, very good friend that is 24... he likes guys that are at least 50 or older..
Sounds strange I know... he is one handsome guy but happens to like guys that are much older.

I know that is not the norm.. most guys like people that are close to there age... but I also have a friend that is 24 and has a b/f that is 36....
There is no answer to this question.... it just depends on the guy.. some like older than themselves, some like younger...

I don't reall your age, but if you are 18 then someone 5 years older would be 23. that could be a big difference in experience... maybe hard to find things to talk about..
a guy that is 30 and meets a guy that is 35, well not too much difference there in things to talk about... shared experiences, etc..
I'd say forget the age... just be with someone you like and enjoy... if you are just out for sex, well then age may be a factor...
up to you.

 

[ronnie_h]

100 years maybe?

 

[jetsonboy]

It depends on what you want the relationship to be. However, I find it immature of anyone to blindly dismiss anyone over a certain age.

 

[G-Lexington]

I don't think there IS a limit. I do think the bigger the age difference, the more work it can be. But if both partners put in the work, and keep the communication going, it can work out great.

Lex

 

[thisisinteresting]

In my opinion, you don't have the right approach to a relationship. There should not be preset boundaries or expectations before you meet someone you click with. *shrug*

 

[Audio Tech]

Age is just a number. The PERSON is what counts.

 

[hylas]

for all that "age doesnt matter, do what you want"-talk, i think age does matter to a certain degree. yeah, it depends on the person, and ultimately, you just do what is right for you. but a big differnce in age can be a source of tension, as both parties are in different stages in their lifes. i think its important to be aware of that.

personally, im attracted to guys from about 5 years younger to about 10 years older. but for relationships, i prefere guys that are close to my age, because it feels safer. that being said, im currently becoming serious with a guy 10 years older, so yeah.

 

[LaughingMan]

I set my limit at 40 and I'm turning 22 soon.

Same here

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, age does have an impact. But there really aren't any guarantees either way, so long as both of you are adults.

 

[SilverWolf]

As of now its 2 years younger and 5 years older.

 

[hotatlboi]

While there can obviously be many exceptions for many reasons, this topic has been studied, and there is actually a formula that provides a guideline for maximum age differences for sustainable relationships. It's one-half your age plus 7 years.

whether two people's relationship is going to work or not is not dependent on a formula.

it's dependent on those two people.

 

[TX-Beau]

whether two people's relationship is going to work or not is not dependent on a formula.

it's dependent on those two people.

True, but it's not like they're acting in a vacuum. There are external factors that come into play. Age is one of them. Ignoring that is pointless.

 

[bankside]

As much as I was my own man at 22, knew who I was & everything else, I didn't just get to that point, plateau, and then start waiting a few decades for death. So the thing is, by the time you're 30 or 40, you've had a chance to live through incredible times and make even more of your life. As far as a young man and an older man, what are they both going to have in common?

It is easy for a 22 year old and a 40 year old to enjoy each other's company, but they probably aren't in the same spot in life. That can provide advantages - maybe the older guy put his head down and didn't look up from his career for 20 years, and now all the single guys are a lot younger. Maybe he's married & divorced, or widowed. Hopefully he hasn't spent 20 years in the bar waiting for you to be born, grow up, and finally show up, yeah?

My advice to 22 year olds who see eye to eye with 40 year olds is to ask why is that 40 year old still in a place where he can relate to you? Maybe he can, I do believe that is possible. I don't think people have to have matching ages for a good relationship. But I think you should ask the question on a case-by-case basis.

The differences are easy, and hopefully one man's strengths and experience match the other man's strengths and youthfulness. But there still needs to be a common ground of equals in any relationship. You can find it in a relationship with differing ages but it might take more looking.

 

[youngnihilist]

Sorry, age absolutely matters. The whole "age is just a number" thing is usually said by older guys who like younger guys. I can understand attraction and casual sex among a wide variety of ages, but nearly all the time a 22 year old and a 45 (or even 30) year old are at way different places in their lives. I can hang out with anyone of any age, but by far I relate best to early to mid 20s