How much time do you spend with your friends

[DJ1990]

When my parents meet their friends they usually just go over each other's houses and sit there talking,drinking.
Sometimes they go to other places but typically when somebody comes over they come at like 5 or 6 PM and they stay until 11, 12..sometimes even more.
I just find that sick, sitting there for HOURS and just talking.
Maybe it's like an eastern european tradition since most of them lived in the countryside so people just come over each other's houses, there was nothing else to do.

When I meet people we usually go out, I barely have somebody just sitting in the house for a long time...the only time they are in my house is if we are really bored or just getting ready/waiting for something.

 

[kevbo]

I've done that, but we usually bring out some cards or something...

 

[BostonPirate]

If you find value in other human beings, you don't need excessive stimulation to make visiting with them enjoyable.

There is a time to go out and play, and there is a time to share your home and life with loved ones.

ENjoyment and happiness is not quantified by the nature of how it is achieved. it is just achieved or it isn't.

I also am not really interested in judging others for the way they find happiness.

 

[nialltt]

Uhm...theres something called catching up with people? Im just saying.... when i enjoy someones company i can chill with em for dayzzzz!

 

[alli-berri]

If you find value in other human beings, you don't need excessive stimulation to make visiting with them enjoyable.

There is a time to go out and play, and there is a time to share your home and life with loved ones.

ENjoyment and happiness is not quantified by the nature of how it is achieved. it is just achieved or it isn't.

I also am not really interested in judging others for the way they find happiness.

That is very beautiful. I wish it wasn't so easier said than done, in certain cases.

 

[DJ1990]

If you find value in other human beings, you don't need excessive stimulation to make visiting with them enjoyable.

There is a time to go out and play, and there is a time to share your home and life with loved ones.

ENjoyment and happiness is not quantified by the nature of how it is achieved. it is just achieved or it isn't.

I also am not really interested in judging others for the way they find happiness.

Interesting.
I think I could spend time in the house with people too for hours, but we would all probabbly need to be naked so I don't get bored.
Or unless they are a doctor or somebody very intelligent....then I like hearing all the crap they say...it inspires me.

 

[DJ1990]

Uhm...theres something called catching up with people? Im just saying.... when i enjoy someones company i can chill with em for dayzzzz!

yeah but just sitting there damn...at least let me take a nap on you every couple of hours, maybe stroke my hair a little....

 

[jasoncrew03]

I just find that sick, sitting there for HOURS and just talking.

I find that quite the opposite, you know you have really good friends when you know you can consistently just sit and talk for hours. I do this with my friends a lot but we spend most of our time out at clubs and the like.

 

[01solara]

Interesting.
I think I could spend time in the house with people too for hours, but we would all probabbly need to be naked so I don't get bored.
Or unless they are a doctor or somebody very intelligent....then I like hearing all the crap they say...it inspires me.

This is one of the problems of modern society. People seem to be becoming more and more isolated. Sitting with friends having a meal, playing cards or games and socializing is both fun and healthy. This was the norm for me growing up. The adults did their thing and the kids were either outside in the daytime or after dark in their rooms playing with toys or games and developing good social skills. Most of the time kids ended up spending the night together and being picked up the next day. Just because playing and talking with your friends was a lot of fun.

The advent of modern technology has been a blessing and a curse the internet for example can be a valuable powerful tool but also can lead to isolation from people and reality. Like so many other things it is good or bad depending on your ability to maintain a healthy balance between internet time and social time with friends and family. If I had to chose one it would be time with friends and family. I would really miss my online time but too much of a good thing isn't always good.

 

[alli-berri]

This is one of the problems of modern society. People seem to be becoming more and more isolated. Sitting with friends having a meal, playing cards or games and socializing is both fun and healthy. This was the norm for me growing up. The adults did their thing and the kids were either outside in the daytime or after dark in their rooms playing with toys or games and developing good social skills. Most of the time kids ended up spending the night together and being picked up the next day. Just because playing and talking with your friends was a lot of fun.

The advent of modern technology has been a blessing and a curse the internet for example can be a valuable powerful tool but also can lead to isolation from people and reality. Like so many other things it is good or bad depending on your ability to maintain a healthy balance between internet time and social time with friends and family. If I had to chose one it would be time with friends and family. I would really miss my online time but too much of a good thing isn't always good.

This is a very good and important observation... the last couple years have been hell trying to repair the social damage having the internet (since 13 - very late considering the children growing up now!) has done to me.

 

[Orlandude]

Love getting together with friends. We do it usually once a week or every other week for sure... wherever one of us wants to host. It has become a tradition, more or less. Everyone brings "munchies" but its not required. Sometimes we do a BarBQ cookout. We have cocktails or whatever, talk about everything under the sun and just have a blast being together. Yes, there is plenty of time for the bars but the bars can also be a bore dealing with attitude and drunks. My friends are like family. We are there for each other always and that seems to attract others. When we have bonafide "parties" it's really something because we all invite other friends and acquaintances and before you know it, you get to know many new people. As many bars as there are, when I do go out I always run into someone I met from one of the parties. My own circle of friends have given me the opportunity to know a lot of people and that's a good feeling...and a lot of fun.

 

[erobert]

This is one of the problems of modern society. People seem to be becoming more and more isolated. Sitting with friends having a meal, playing cards or games and socializing is both fun and healthy. This was the norm for me growing up. The adults did their thing and the kids were either outside in the daytime or after dark in their rooms playing with toys or games and developing good social skills. Most of the time kids ended up spending the night together and being picked up the next day. Just because playing and talking with your friends was a lot of fun.

The advent of modern technology has been a blessing and a curse the internet for example can be a valuable powerful tool but also can lead to isolation from people and reality. Like so many other things it is good or bad depending on your ability to maintain a healthy balance between internet time and social time with friends and family. If I had to chose one it would be time with friends and family. I would really miss my online time but too much of a good thing isn't always good.

I agree 100% with this also. Very well said.

This is a very good and important observation... the last couple years have been hell trying to repair the social damage having the internet (since 13 - very late considering the children growing up now!) has done to me.

I have been doing damage control also from being on the net too much over the past years and now look forward to hanging out with friends. I used to be shy but I'm quickly growing out of now.

I'm actually slightly worried about the social skills of my generation as we have grown up chatting on forums and texting yet many have not spent enough time developing essential social skills and having deeper conversations with eachother.

I'm easy to get along with and can spend hours or even days with my friends. Though, I don't spend as much time with my friends as I would like to. Humans are social animals after all. Friends are people you want to have around no matter how long they stay. Quality not quantity.

 

[sixthson]

Breaking bread together, sharing some wine and good conversation with friends is a great way to spend an evening.

 

[frankfrank]

Hanging out with friends for hours and just talking about wherever the conversation leads - often in unexpected directions and sometimes with great insight - is, to me, the HOLY GRAIL of social interaction.

I'd rather do this than all but the most incredible sightseeing, and I'd rather do this than even spending an evening of great sex.

 

[Dobson73]

When my parents meet their friends they usually just go over each other's houses and sit there talking,drinking.
Sometimes they go to other places but typically when somebody comes over they come at like 5 or 6 PM and they stay until 11, 12..sometimes even more.
I just find that sick, sitting there for HOURS and just talking.
Maybe it's like an eastern european tradition since most of them lived in the countryside so people just come over each other's houses, there was nothing else to do.

When I meet people we usually go out, I barely have somebody just sitting in the house for a long time...the only time they are in my house is if we are really bored or just getting ready/waiting for something.

Well, aren't we just the pretty little party queen.

Sitting and having a conversation (you can look it up in the dictionary, ask Mummy for hers) with close friends is a thing to be treasured. Bopping around in a bar throwing witty one liners at your acquaintances is something to be enjoyed but soon forgotten.

I'd love you to read this thread again in 20 years time and to watch you cringe at your ignorance.

But I'm sure you're cute, luv, so you just enjoy, OK?

 

[Spiffy]

Most of my friends always have to be doing something just so i can be around them. I'll call them to say "lets hang" and their like "to do what"... *crickets.... TO F**KEN SOCIALIZE damn.

Most of my friends are this way we can't be together unless we have some activity planned. I miss the days when I could go to a friends house and just relax, enjoy life.

Even when you finally are sitting down having a nice conversation with someone they are most likely on the phone txting someone every 2 seconds. REALLY!?

 

[bulge]

I have no friends here. When home I spend all my time with family and friends.

 

[USEDCAR]

I still hang out with two friends from highschool every so often we will go out to dinner or the mall. I wish i have more friends i love going out and stuff.