How old were you when you lost your virginity?

[Críostóir]

cuz some of the responses are from old buzzards having illusions of popping Jon's cherry

In my case, strictly fantasies.

 

[Telstra]

36.
I'm now 37.

you lost your virgin at 36 ...

 

[Telstra]

I think for this thread we need to set a standard definition of "losing your virginity" in the gay sense. When I was 13 I was kissing a boy who was 9, for long periods. Does that count? Neither of us were able to cum yet but I was able to get hard. First having an orgasm in the presence of another guy? 17. At 18 I sucked my first cock. Is that the point of losing your virginity? Getting fucked? (21 for me)? What activity do you count as "losing your virginity?"

ejaculation(part of sex) should count as "losing virginity"

Hence anyone who can ejaculate is not a virgin.

 

[FanofFiction]

I was 17 when I lost my virginity to a girl. I wish now that I hadn't done it. I was 22 when I first had sex with a guy.

 

[ibill1]

17, with my sweetheart that I met my second night at college. I guess I liked it because we decided to do it for the next 33 yrs.

 

[Telstra]

17, with my sweetheart that I met my second night at college. I guess I liked it because we decided to do it for the next 33 yrs.

nice love story. anymore details ?

 

[ibill1]

nice love story. anymore details ?

Thanks. Not really much to tell. We met that night, it truly was love at first sight for both of us, and we spent the next 33 yrs. together until his passing 3 yrs. ago. It was kind of wierd being only 17, and knowing the minute I layed eyes on him knowing I wanted to be with him forever. I guess I was lucky he felt the same way too. Of course, once we started talking we just fell deeper in love, he was such a wonderful man. We became adults together and I guess just grew together instead of apart like so many couples do. They say opposites attract but that wasn't the case with us. We were so much alike it was scary. He was there for all my firsts. First love, first sex, first new car, first and only house etc. I guess there was more to tell than I thought but I still get carried away talking about him.

 

[chace1617]

my friend gave me a blow job when i was 14 but i haven't done more than that till today, and i am 20...and desperate
am i still considered as a virgin? well since no one has touched me for 6 years i think i revirginized myself...

 

[JonHCA]

Exactly. Some of the responses to your post just sound rather bitter honestly, and not like they're actually giving advice. Besides, it's not as if you said that you expect to be with this right guy forever, although that would be ideal. I think we both recognize that all relationships don't last and that people are not perfect. You just want to have a real connection with a guy before you let him into your pants, and by connection I don't mean he caught your eye at a local bar. I can't find any fault in that, and all although some posters have tried, I'm still not seeing it.

And practicing for a guy...I'm sorry, that's a ridiculous concept to me. I would much rather take the time with a guy to learn from him what he wants from our relationship and how to please him. Not by sleeping around with random flings.

And as Jon said, if having a lackluster sexual experience is enough to kill a relationship, then it clearly wasn't meant to be. Sex, like many other aspects of a relationship, can be communicated about and improved. If you don't want to put forth the effort then find something easier...like just hooking up, I suppose.



Thanks, Silver ..you're sweet .

Jon, save it for the right guy. Don't just go sleep with any random guys for practice. I can't believe anyone would give you that advice.

I think you have a really good head on your shoulders and you have it right.

In fact Jon, practice with THE right guy. One that's going to stick around after and is going to treat you right and makes you feel and let you know you are special.
You don't have to go into a relationship with a trail of dudes behind you.

Thank you! My thoughts exactly...They may be a bit too "fairytale" for a lot of people, but it's what I'd like my first time to be like.

 

[nbluth]

I lost it at 45 years of age; fucked, was fucked, and sucked dick- the whole nine yards, so to speak. I am going on 48 in February 2011

Your first had a nine yard dick?

Sorry, I had to do it.

Anyway I just wanted to add my two cents to the whole JonHCA sub-thread here. I don't think it's "fairytale" at all! As long as you are honest about your virginity, your "right guy" is going to make your first time awesome. And like you said, if having a lackluster sexual experience is enough to kill a relationship, then he isn't the "right guy." It was helpful for me that my first was experienced, so I was able to let him take the lead and just enjoy it all! But if he's another virgin, then it could be just as fun figuring it all out together. I guess what I'm trying to say is you're not crazy for not wanting your first to be a random hookup!

 

[USEDCAR]

I'm still a virgin. I don't know anyone who is gay.

Really? Seems like everyone that's gay lives in Philadelphia

 

[Críostóir]

Thank you! My thoughts exactly...They may be a bit too "fairytale" for a lot of people, but it's what I'd like my first time to be like.

Well, bright blessings and all best to you. I hope you find exactly what you're looking for, and that you have every happiness.

 

[Críostóir]

Dirty old men need love too.

 

[NW007]

I can't remember how old I was

 

[Jayden]

13 . . . . . . . .

 

[Dduder]

How old were you when you lost your virginity?

I haven't lost my virginity yet. I am as virgin as baby lips....

 

[Lube]

First of all, I have to concur that a guy worth your fuck will be patient enough to see you through any struggles.

Second of all, I have to add a very important point:

The idea that you'll struggle mightily the first time is bullshit.

Not all of sex is rocket science. In fact, it's simple logic, in many cases. It's also possibly to read up before hand. That's right - you can actually research sex. That's what I did, and it totally fucking worked.

So if there's something you're not sure about, just do a little reading, and let your imagination fill in the rest.

This notion that the first time can't be good is bullshit. You can work it like a pro - just go in knowing what you're doing.

True enough.

But I'd hope you'd agree that having great sex or making great love is more than about what you read in a book or on the Internet. Practice does make perfect, as the saying goes.

You can read all about art, but that doesn't make your first painting a masterpiece.

 

[HugoB]

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................ It happened at the age of nine.




. Quite normal for an altar boy....
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[sixthson]

Jeez! Some people get so intense about this. Whether it's your first time or your one millionth time, sex is supposed to be fun and playful. I can see how stressful your first time can be if it is sex with someone you don't know or love, but if you love someone, you will take your time with each other and everything you do will feel good. I mean just laying on each other, cuddling and kissing and rubbing your dicks together is hot. We get so focused on fucking that we lose the innocence and joy of exploring each other.

I look back on my first time and realize how naive we were and how little we knew about the mechanics of it all, but it was so passionate because we loved each other. We figured it all out and had lots of fun and laughs along the way. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

 

[tipmyscales86]

Thank you! My thoughts exactly...They may be a bit too "fairytale" for a lot of people, but it's what I'd like my first time to be like.

Whoever that guy is, he'll be one lucky guy. I wish I could say I saved it for the right guy.

First time at 12 (in the closet sneaking around)
First time it meant something at 22 (first relationship)
First time with the right guy is still waiting.