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How old were you when you lost your virginity?

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Yeah, you're a late bloomer, but don't fret, it's not a competition. I lost mine at 18, but it's not a big deal if you lose it later - you may need to get out a bit more though. ;)
 
I'm 19 and never even been kissed.

Compared to many people, you are a late bloomer. What matters more is not when you lost your virginity, it's who you lose it to and if it was worth it.
 
Ephemeral said:
I'm 19 and never even been kissed.

Compared to many people, you are a late bloomer. What matters more is not when you lost your virginity, it's who you lose it to and if it was worth it.
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Absolutely - definitely not worth it to lose it to someone you don't really know.
 
I was 22. It took me until I was 20 before I was completely honest with myself about it.
 
tightbottom10 said:
I hear people say that all the time, and I do agree with it, but it can be tough to wait. I kind of almost feel like I just want to get it over with and move on. Maybe I'm just too horny and not thinking clearly haha.
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Waiting for the 'perfect' person is almost always impractical if you actually want to have any youth left by the time you've lost it - but I would just don't do it with someone you'll probably later regret or who may provide a negative experience.
 
tightbottom10 said:
So, I should find someone who is good, even if he's not "the one." Just don't let any guy pop my cherry... right?
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It's ultimately your decision - honestly I don't see it as a HUGE deal (or not nearly as hyped up as people make it), but for many people losing virginity is a big personal milestone and they want it to be with someone memorable, typically that they cared about. If you even want to think about it though you're going to need to make more free time for yourself - you only live once, think about trying to give yourself a little breathing room. :)
 
I know how you feel. Sometimes I want to go out and lose it to the first guy I have a mutual connection with too since I'm so horny and lonely.

The guy doesn't have to be your true love; he should be someone you at least know well, someone who you respect and respects you back. It can be a friend or even a FWB/fuckbuddy. Get tested prior to having sex too.

Go out, be social, be positive. People are not attracted to the guy moping in the corner or the one looking like a deer in the headlights.
 
You're not a late bloomer. Your time will come at the right time. There are a lot of people who are in their 30s who are still virgins. I was 25. I just really wasn't that in a hurry to have sex. But when I was ready...
 
tightbottom10 said:
I'm almost 21 and I'm still a virgin. So I was wondering how old you guys were before you lost your viginity. Am I a "late-bloomer" or not?
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I was 21. :)

vforvendetta said:
Absolutely - definitely not worth it to lose it to someone you don't really know.
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Disagree with this though. I was more than ready to lose it at 21, even as it ended up with a random stranger. I wish I had done it sooner. I think "waiting for the right one" forever is dumb and will just result in your being a sexually frustrated old dude who is terrible at sex when the right one does come.
 
14 with my first bf. I was a Freshmen he was a senior. We both didn't know what we were doing but it was memorable.
 
Just out of curiosity, what constitutes to losing your virginity in the case of gay men? Assuming that losing your virginity for straight man and woman couples would be vaginal intercourse.
 
I will be 35 in a couple of months, and still a virgin, but I'm not so bothered about it as you might think.

I'm more concerned about my terrible social life, lack of friends, and various psychological issues, than I am about sexual relationships. There is far too much for me to get sorted out before I'd ever be in the right kind of frame of mind emotionally to consider sex.

As for why and how it came to be that I reached such an age without anything happening, I put it down to:

1. An extreme anti-social, introverted and avoidant personality that I have.

2. Growing up and subsequently becoming trapped on an isolated and remote religious island.

3. A nearly ten-year long phase of depression that mostly kept me just staying round the house.

But things HAVE changed slowly but markedly in the last 18 months. I came out at age 33, and I did FINALLY manage to move away from home, but there is still a long, long, way to go.


P.S. You ask if being 'almost 21' is a 'late-bloomer' - not surprisingly, I will say NO, it most certainly isn't. :lol:
 
For me, getting my cherry popped was no big deal. I decided I was tired of playing with dildoes and wanted a Real Cock up my ass. Found a guy on Manhunt and we hooked up while I was on a business trip.

A business trip?. . . Yeah, I was a good bit older than 21.
 
a little over a month after my 18th birthday, I was a good boy ;)

not too mention with the guys I LIKE it would have been horribly illegal before that lol
 
I was 17. A guy from Manhunt (yes, I was on there illegally). It was worth it.
There's definitely no set age where you should lose your virginity. Do it when you're ready. I was and handled a fuck-buddy relationship well.
 
I find this term strange for a man. Period. I know it's used, but it seems silly to me because it would mean many strictly oral guys died virgins. So to answer your question, in my mind, you will loose sexual innocence when you orgasm with another guy. For me it was 31.
 
18. Summer of my graduating year. I'm so glad I did it with someone I'll never forget. No regrets at all. Make sure it's worth it when the time comes.

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I'm 23 and never had a sex (not a great issue for me) nor a boyfriend (that's a bigger issue)...

But I think that the first sex should be with someone worth it not just random acquaitance... And I think that it should not be artificially postponed, nor be done too soon...
 
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