how open are you about your sexuality with your parents?

[gazza18]

hey all, just want to get your opinions on your level of openess with your parents , a convo which i had with friends at weekend.
i should start with my situation. i came out to my parents back in may, and this met with great shock from them. so for the first few weeks or so things were quite awkward, they both said it didnt bother them its jsut they were shocked by it, but i could tell it was affecting them. my relationship with my father basically died, and my mother got very emotional and she cried quite a bit, which i onli recently found out. after this initial awkwardness everything just seemed to go right in my life. i have a very close relationship with my mum and she started asking about relationships etc. she said if i had a girlfriend she'd ask the same stufff so just becaus im gay she shouldn't discriminate, at the end of the day if im happy she's happy. she even asked to meet my boyfriend at that time, but that didnt last long and is anothr thread ha.
my friends are reli shocked at how open i am with my mum. for example on friday nite wen i came home from university, i no longer live at home, olni at weekends, we wer sittin havin a drink and the first thing she asks is have i found a man yet r hav i got my eye on any. it was such a gd convo cos we sat, had a bottle or two of wine and i jsut told her bout uni life, the few men im chasin and about the lgbt society im now a memeber of. so basically i just wanted to tell yous all how good my life is turning out to be since kicking down the closet door and how my relationship with my mum has gotten even better. ah i forgot to mention, at the age of 14, when i realised i was gay, i went into a sort of depression, i closed myself off from everyone, even my best friends, my mum used to worry bout me alot, she didnt ahv a clue wat was goin on but u all know how it is, the whole worried bout others opinions til u come out. well since coming out iv been on such a high for the last year. everyone has noticed, no longer being antisocial, enjoying life and finally being able to say im happy, gay and proud and im no longer being held back from being who i am.
i know that was a bit of a rant, but as i started typin all these things just came into my head and i had to say them, sorry if this post makes no sense but basically its about me being able to ahve an open relationship with my mum bout my sexuality and how good it feels to say im gay, thanks for reading

 

[kevbo]

i talk to my mom and dad about sex as much as my straight brother and sister:

not very often

 

[G-Lexington]

As open as I would be were I straight. They know who I'm currently "seeing", they get to know them, but they don't know what goes on in the bedroom.

Lex

 

[JOHN B]

My parents know, but we don't really talk about it. Probably because there is nothing to talk about right now. Being a bit of a loner, there is no one I am really dating right now. Plus I wait for them to bring up the subject, which doesn't happen very often.

 

[Martkell2007]

I told them when I was 19 but that was it. There was another incident when I was 22 where they told me they don't care who I date, just as long as I'm happy. Recently my dad and I got in argument where we threw personal attacks back and forth. When he ran out of insults to throw, he said, "At least I'm not gay." He apologized later and I slowly accepted that apology.

 

[Eyghon]

I'm not out to my family, but you wouldn't really know the difference. I have an older brother who is 27 and an older sister who is 30, and if either of them has ever had sex, or been on a date, or looked twice at a member of the opposite sex, I don't know about it. Somehow, my family ended up very tight-lipped about sex and relationships, or we're all very late bloomers, or both.

 

[boy0boy]

My mom told me when I came out

"well other than the bedroom aspects, you just wanna find someone who loves you as a person right?"

and "it is all a little uncomfortable but its still new"

So I feel like I'll keep it how I would have kept a straight relationship. they'll know who I'm dating but sex aspects isn't somehting i need to involve my parents with.

 

[Love_chair]

I have a wonderful loving relationship with my mom my dad is dead he died when I was 16 and I came out to everyone when I was 17 am 20 now so it was 3 years ago and my family did not care I told my aunts uncles my friends and they told other people which I said they could and it kinda started to spread like a wildfire before I new it everyone found out which I did not care and people no how I am they understand my personal beliefs on alot of things and if you read my thread you no to but I am in a very good environment and I am very thankful for everything and am proud of being gay and proud of who I am

 

[Blacksheep]

I haven't bothered telling my dad. I hardly talk to him anyway and since he couldn't deal with the relationship I was in when I was with a woman I doubt he could cope with me being gay/bi. Beyond that I sort of have a fear of being perceived as being 'the only gay in the village' i.e. coming out unnecessarily (I figure what's the point of telling everyone until there's something to tell or someone to tell about).
My mum knows, whilst I regret the way she found out; which was that I was basically forced to tell her as I'd told someone else who I knew had a big mouth (who in turn had only been told because they lived with my fiancee and me). She's cool with it, I discuss stuff with her all the time and she doesn't seem to have a problem with it. My fiancee was also cool with it, she was freaked out at first but quickly adjusted when I pointed out it had little impact as I was totally monogamous. Instead it quelled a lot of tension as she'd caught me looking at guys in ads, gay porn etc.

 

[M4P]

I'm as open as my straight siblings are. We discuss our relationships, however what is private is kept that way