How OUT or CLOSETED are you?

[wonderwort]

For me personally, I would say that I'm MOSTLY OUT.

I'm 100% comfortable and out with myself. I have zero shame or guilt over the fact that I'm gay.

In my person life, I live a 100% gay life. I frequent gay businesses , go to bars and date men.

I'm 100% out with my imediate family. All my extended family is in Vietnam, and I chose not to share my homosexuality with them. ( Long story about my family but I was born in Vietnam and escaped Vietnam with my immeadiate family when I was seven years old. Vietnam is a comunist and Asian country and EXTREMELY anti-gay. Vietnam tolerance for homosexuality is probably the same as India ( where honor killings exist) or Iran.)

When in public I chose to blend in the surroundings as much as possible. No rainbow bumper stickers or necklaces with rainbow charms. This is a personal choice because I don't want to invite homophobia, rejection or persecution.

For people who don't know that I'm gay, I chose not to share it them. My private life is private.

The main reason I'm out at work is that I act quite effeminate and set off people's gaydar like no other.

I realize whatever I write someone will quote me and imply I'm an idiot or something else nasty. This is not a debate thread . This is just an opinion thread. If you wanna look for trouble start your own thread.

Again, if you find this thread interesting please bump it so people can vote or discuss

 

[wonderwort]

For those thinking about coming out the closet.

Read the opinions posted here and "take what you need and leave the rest".

 

[asu1117]

I'm totally out.

 

[Esquire0399]

I'd say somewhere between moderately out and mostly out. I mean in my day to day life it's not a secret and most of the people that I interact with frequently know that I'm gay, for various reasons. Everyone at my job (just because it's a very gay environment due to its fashion oriented nature), my closest friends, etc. I do nothing to hide it, if people ask I answer honestly, when I had a bf I kissed him in public, I rock the hell out to Gaga, Rihanna, Ke$ha, etc. when I'm out, things like that. But then there's my situation with my family. I live on my own so they don't see much of what my life is like day to day. When I go to visit them I'm very guarded about the whole thing, totally different from how I normally am. My mom knows and has been in denial of the fact that I'm gay for over a year and a half now, and my dad has very negative feelings about homosexuality, being that he was raised in the west indies where homosexuality is considered absolutely disgusting. This sucks the worst because he's I think of him as the greatest person in the world. As for extended family, I'm not very close with them anyway so there's really no reason for them to know.

So yeah, I'm pretty out and comfortable for about 85% of my life, but the other 15% I'm still timid about the whole thing. I plan to correct that very, very soon though.

 

[wonderwort]

At esquire......I couldn't wait till morning to post my poll.

 

[asu1117]

I plan to correct that very, very soon though.

Best of luck!



I just finished coming out to my family last week. I've never felt better in my life.

 

[wonderwort]

Best of luck!



I just finished coming out to my family last week. I've never felt better in my life.

good for you asu.

 

[TickTockMan]

I was never in.

 

[wonderwort]

Woohoo I have another winner poll thread.

Big shocker but I have a full time job.........doing jub polls is a hobby I enjoy IMENSELY.

 

[Esquire0399]

At esquire......I couldn't wait till morning to post my poll.

Haha I noticed. Doesn't matter though, people can wake up to it.

 

[terry751]

I don't boast about it but I don't lie about it either. If someone asks, I'll tell them. Other than that, I don't bring anything up.

 

[The_Reaper]

I selected moderately out.

I'm out to my mother's parents, and her sibling (along with his wife, and their kids); but am not really out to anyone on my father's side. My dad has a larger family, of about 12 siblings, and half of them we don't even see any more after some bad blood came out after grandpa passed away.

On top of that, the majority of them are older (over 45), set in their ways types. A lot of them just wouldn't get the concept, and a few of them would be downright hostile...

I've never been at a job long enough (mostly due to school and such) to even consider coming out at work; though I have unofficially come out to some of my political contacts through my involvement with the LGBT wing of our party.

I think that's good enough, really...

 

[Ninja108]

I'm 100% out. I don't hide who I am from anyone.

 

[wonderwort]

Wow.......no one quoted me and implied that I'm an idiot yet......well the day is still young.

 

[wonderwort]

If you are considering coming out.......Read all the OPINIONS posted here...................

Analyze your situation and how comfortable you are with your homosexuality......

and do what you feel is BEST FOR YOU.

Again, "take what you need and leave the rest".

 

[nycguydowntown]

Have you come out to Bagel, yet?

 

[chrisw87]

Two sides to my answer, since I really lead a double/triple life;

*Parents, family, relatives: I FOOKIN FOUND NARNIA!

*Close friends, they know I swing any way that sways my fancy

*Randoms: Could care less, they have no involvement in my life. I don't discuss my sexuality as a point though, its none of their business.

 

[sixthson]

I told my husband I am gay. So far he is handling it alright.
I should tell our children, however, They might be getting suspicious of why we don't have bunk beds or something.

 

[wonderwort]

Have you come out to Bagel, yet?

Bagel loves me the way I am. Btw.....thanks for bringing up (((Bagel))))

 

[nycguydowntown]

Bagel loves me the way I am.

So do I ---you sound great! Anyway--I voted moderately out---as I just told my writing partner officially I'm gay and I've been working with him for a while. We had a sorta don't ask don't tell situation.