how should i word it...?

[dancer1]

i'm in college now and i've decided that i'm gonna come out to some friends cuz i feel like i'll live better with more people knowing. Anyways, my main problem is that i'm not that articulate and i don't know how to word it. There have been many instances where we are talking about gay issues or GIRLS and i'm like "this is perfect! just say it!" but then i think about it and i can't think of a way to say it without being too blunt like "hey, i'm gay." Or if we are randomly talking, and i wanna just come out... how would i shift the conversation to a topic where it is easier to come out? Any suggestions, guys?

 

[G-Lexington]

Don't wait for the perfect moment - it never comes.

Sit the friends down, either one by one, or collectively, and say, "I need you to know something. I'm gay, and I want to start coming out, so you're the first ones I'm telling."

Done.

Lex

 

[dancer1]

very good advices, thanks guys.

im gonna use what u guys just said because that's a simple and straightforward (not out of the blues) way to put it.

im going to see some of them this week so imma give it a try. thanks again!

 

[Chris1984]

very good advices, thanks guys.

im gonna use what u guys just said because that's a simple and straightforward (not out of the blues) way to put it.

im going to see some of them this week so imma give it a try. thanks again!

Keep us posted. I wish you the best of luck my friend

 

[landers]

A lot of people have the same problem you do. One of the reasons it took me so long to come out (after I finally accepted that I was gay) was that I couldn't figure out how to do it and just blurting it out never seemed right. After I told a few people it became easier to tell others. So hopefully as long as your friends and family are accepting it will become easier to tell people as you go along.

Good luck, and let us know what happens.

 

[Lucas07]

It took me 18 years to accept I was gay.
I came out to 3 people this december... and everyone here is right,
there's never really a perfect moment, you have to make it for yourself.

What I did was whenever me and my friends go for a night out (drinks, dinner or whatever) When we get to hang out just us (a few chosen friends who I really trust) like while driving, or in the pub and everyone else is busy, for some reason, the topic shifts (or more like I bring that up or support it) to girls and if I had a girlfriend or if I had my eye on some girl or something... That's when i say "I've no interest in girls" or "I don't like vagina"... then they think I'm kidding. I just drop clear hints or "bombs". And when they ask for confirmation - I confirm it.

just relax and choose the right people to tell it to. It'll make you guys closer. If they are really your friends (eye them first choose wisely) then they'll just brush it off and say "okay. cool."

I made new real friends! Good luck to you!

 

[maxpowr9]

I find just saying "i'm gay" to be bad because it sounds like its something bad or I did something wrong but it shouldn't.

I think the most creative way I came out to a friend was I started to talk about an ex-boyfriend I ran into a while back with a friend. At first he did a double take and then he said "so you're gay then?" I go "yeah." and continued on with the story.

Awkward story about coming out. This actually occured the day after christmas this past year (so pretty recent). I was over one of my good friend's stepmom's house and he was there with his gf and out of nowhere he starts talking about his grandmother and how she thought he was gay until she met his current gf. Throughout this entire conversation he looked at me like he was saying I know you are gay and that you haven't told me. I just froze up for 5 minutes hoping he would talk about something else. Considering he is very Christian (but not necessarily conservative), I have definately been skeptical of talking to him about it, at least initially. Of course now he is in Ghana for another two weeks. I plan on talking to him when he gets back and he shows me all the pretty pictures.

 

[Comrad]

Just wait for the perfect moment when there talking about girls and when they ask you, say some shit like " Oh gawd no, pussy makes me break out in hives". Or something along those lines, that pretty much dose it.

 

[pausanias_usa]

My motto: don't be a drama queen.

A small "bon mot" will do wonders.

Example:

"Don't you love girls who have big tits?"

"Ewww -- man boobs!"

 

[dancer1]

hey thanks for all the really great advices! yeah so i used some of them awhile back but forgot to update you guys. Well i had an opportunity to hang out with a girl/friend of mine last week and of course she asked when i'm gonna get a gf, then i thought of this thread and i blurted out that i'm not cuz i dont like girls...and the most surprising thing was that she said, "thats too bad, i think they're hot!" and i got confused...so i found she was bi that day...haha. yeah so i think i'm getting the hang of this. i'm gonna go on to telling the others now. again thanks alot guys! the community on here is so helpful =D

 

[landers]

Congratulations!

 

[LouieAnderson]

reply lol, that's kinda the same thing that happened to me! Except lots of alcohol was involved.

 

[dancer1]

haha so what happened, louie?