How soon do you let a guy into your place / go to his place?

[KölnElch]

You meet a guy, either in a planned date or "naturally"... then how soon do you let him come to your place, or how soon do you come along to his place?

And what do you prefer in general, and why?

 

[rareboy]

It was always immediately.

Whoever's place was closest.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

If it was a hook up from the internet, I would always meet them at a bar first for a drink before going back to whoever lived nearest. Probably could have skipped straight to someone's house, but it gave us a chance to pull out if the interest wasn't there or to weed out the odd balls. It also made it a bit less awkward for when you did go back to your/their place, as you had already chatted for a bit.

 

[HoodedRat]

I no longer meet guys, either in 'planned dates' or 'naturally'.

Apart from two of my lifelong very close friends, I don't let anyone cross my threshold without a court-order.

I prefer not to date.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

I no longer meet guys, either in 'planned dates' or 'naturally'.

Apart from two of my lifelong very close friends, I don't let anyone cross my threshold without a court-order.

I prefer not to date.

Does that mean I can't come round yours to discuss which scene is better; Stockholm or Gothenburg death metal?

 

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[Cormac135]

It was always immediately.

Whoever's place was closest.

This x 100.

 

[HoodedRat]

Does that mean I can't come round yours to discuss which scene is better; Stockholm or Gothenburg death metal?

'Fraid so; nothing personal.

I would probably have said 'Gothenburg' up until a few years back, mainly because of 'Arch Enemy'. But I would say 'Stockholm' now because of Ghost; they are utterly retro-tastic and I am in love with Papa Emeritus (in any and all of his incarnations, although he appears to be aging in reverse and looking sexier with each new unveiling). \m/

 

[rareboy]

^ I'd like to think that if I turned up with a good bottle of wine or whatever you drink that I'd have the pleasure of dropping in....maybe next time I'm back in home country.

 

[mikemizanin729]

You meet a guy, either in a planned date or "naturally"... then how soon do you let him come to your place,

As soon as they are prepared to go halfway on the meals.

He must have a job like me AND pay his fair share of tax. I won't allow slouchers in my Chelsea abode.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

As soon as they are prepared to go halfway on the meals.

He must have a job like me AND pay his fair share of tax. I won't allow slouchers in my Chelsea abode.

What happens if his independently wealthy and doesn't need to work?

 

[peeonme]

The guys I met I knew in school, we would duck into an empty room, a closet or a bathroom. Teenaged guys are impulsive.

 

[nyctopgam]

What happens if his independently wealthy and doesn't need to work?

And who knows how many of these types pay their fair share of tax.

Which leads me to wonder, what people think about dating above their station. Should one keep seeing someone who always came to your poky flat but never invite you to their country estate?

 

[KölnElch]

I'd rather date less wealthy than more wealthy, I guess my own jealousy would be quite an issue for me.

btw there's a thread about that topic in the Coming Out subforum:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/440658-Do-you-care-about-economic-differences

 

[luckynumbah7]

Hookup from cl, Meet outside for vetting purposes at my place, or possibly on N. Broad. Mind you, I do use email to weed out unsuitable people. I refuse to wander around trying to see house numbers and street signs in unfamiliar areas.

Dating, meet for coffee or something. Again, preferably in my general area. Last time I went for a date we were supposed to meet at Starbucks - turns out there's ...six? something like that, in the area of cc. I was kinda pissed, finding him turned out to be too much effort for too little personality. That and he had a couple habits that jumped out that I loathed.

 

[jbrown329]

I'm a tad old fashioned. Public meet a couple times and see where it goes from there.

 

[mikemizanin729]

What happens if his independently wealthy and doesn't need to work?

The surely he/she would still be paying tax? Council Tax etc.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

The surely he/she would still be paying tax? Council Tax etc.

Well you mentioned he MUST have a job.

 

[rareboy]

As soon as they are prepared to go halfway on the meals.

He must have a job like me AND pay his fair share of tax. I won't allow slouchers in my Chelsea abode.

A night-time security guard in the family biz? Trust you to be too cheap to buy someone dinner.

 

[NotHardUp1]

I'm a tad old fashioned. Public meet a couple times and see where it goes from there.

My guess is the more old-fashioned solution in social meetings was the home visit. Aside from school, church, and work, social calls for dating were made in to the homes.

It is interesting how much focus the thread makes in hookups as opposed to simply dating, or friendship. The protocols of Craigslist and Grindr have little to do with the majority of social interactions in this country.