How to attract guys...

[-Lance-]

lol...... you sound like Hitch!

 

[chance1]

^^ I know u mean well aznw but ..........

I agree on the "don't worry about what others think" but

the rest is ............

it's a lot of hooey - LOL

just be yourself

be confident for sure

but be yourself

 

[M4P]

Who? I'm serious though, this really works.

I'm glad to hear its working for you, however I think chance1 has it right - be yourself

I know too many guys who are hopelessly single because they're trying to hard to be what they think other guys are looking for

Take it from someone who's in a successful 10+ year relationship

 

[G-Lexington]

It sounds like something that might be worth trying. However, I'd hold off on saying that you've "found the secret" until you've been in a relationship for awhile.

Lex

 

[Smitho]

I am not sure about these tips, I am a more of a be yourself, kind of guy, as you not only have to attract people, but also if you want a relationship, be with them and you are not going to be able to pretend for long. So starting as yourself, gives good foundation.

 

[idunoo]

just be who you are, if the dude like you then he really likes who you are not the fake you.


I need to find new bf/gf anyway......feel like shit...

 

[theblackajah]

Honestly, I think what you say is true.

Of course, since this is (politically, self-righteous) JUB, you will have people who say "Yeah, just be yourself! That's what's most attractive!"

HAHA! Not true.

What most people mean, when they say that, is...

"Just be yourself. If your normal self is hot, then I'll date you! Otherwise, sorry, try the next guy in line!"

That's how most people think, regardless of how self-righteous and dignified people pretend to be. Let's all stop pretending now.

 

[kayman23]

I do have to say, this is true. As I am very much into myself, but I'm not arrogant about it and it seems to attract both males and females. You do have to be yourself, but you must trying to being more outgoing if you are to at least gain a new friendship with whomever. It is about being yourself, yes that is true, but exhibiting signs of lack of self-confidence will in some way make gaining anyone (friend or more) more difficult if not completely hinder the process.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

You are, who you are.

And being yourself is a good trait.

An even better trait is being able to re-invent yourself and adapt yourself to the environment. This is called a basic survival strategy and it works.

Being static and unwilling/unable to change is a royal way into demise.

So, what's wrong with:

#1
Not talking too fast and being scared and nervous all the time?

#2
Minding your own business first.

#3
Walking & standing straight

#4
Radiating self-confidence. If other insecure dudes call that 'arrogant', they need to spend more time reading their dictionaries... Not your problem, really.

#5
Being willing to change and adapt, so that you can be successful

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SC

 

[hanshansen]

Knowing and playing to your strengths, while being willing and able to adapt to a variety of people and social situations, is of course crucial to projecting a 'good image' in general.

But all the people I have actually been attracted to radiate physical self-confidence. They know and feel at home in their own bodies. They know that they and other people are sexual beings and are able to show it in a way that is appropriate to the context.

 

[drhladnjak]

Confidence is a key component of being attractive to others. Being yourself does not in and of itself make you more attractive though. However, it does tend to make guys stick around a bit more once you've attracted them. What's the point of attracting guys if once you've got them they lose interest as they find out it was all a show?

Personally, I'm not really all that into guys who demonstrate a "dominant, alpha male" personality. They tend to come off as controlling and self-absorbed, but maybe that's just my taste. Still, a confident guy who doesn't feel the need to overly assert himself is pretty hot.

However, it's definitely a start. I suppose it's just hard being gay and in college anyway--especially if you're not out. No one at my university really wants to admit they are into guys, even though a ton, and I mean, a ton are.

I hate to break it to you, but in most cases being out in college is easier than being out pretty much anywhere else simply because there are more young, open minded people around than pretty much anywhere else. Of course, all bets are off if you go to a extremely religious college. That doesn't mean it's easy I guess, but it's probably not going to get any easier. Being out tends to help a lot though too.

 

[SantaCBear]

Its easy to 'attract' guys...

Just be Hawt and freely give your ass away.