How to be a real guy ?

[andyridedick]

Yup , I'm bi but i really don't want everyone to know about my little secret . I tried but now I'm still confused about being a guy, I'm still doing what I think and that will soon reveal my secret . So please help me, I actually like being a guy but I don't really know:
- What a guy talks to guys
- What a guy talks to his best friend
- What a guy talks to girls (I mean normal girls, his friends not for flirting )
- What a guy talks about other guys

Please help me and if you want to share anything just go ahead Thanks !

 

[altlover85]

Be yourself. Failing that, just listen more than you talk.

 

[hylas]

the implication of your post is crystal clear: homos arent "real guys".

a tip: if you want certain people to help you, it might be a good idea to not offend them.

anyway: learn to be comfortable with who you are. find yourself some friends who arent bothered by that.

 

[chace1617]

try not to wear any make up, not to ware feminime clothes and don't pluck your eyebrows in style of Beyonce...
Pretend you are interested in sports a little and stare like stupid at every girl next to you, pretend you like expensive cars etc when talking to friends talk about what you like to do to your girlfriend, spit when you walk on the road, wear dirty clothes and keep your room a mess...

or just be yourself and feel nice for what you are...

 

[AlmondMilk]

Just be who you are. Don't give a f---

I seem to be doing a good job if some of my friends are homophobic =.=

I came out to a couple of good friends who are bi...they said they'd never guess I was into guys. You can like what "guys like" but you don't have to. I know plenty of guys who are gay and know EVERYTHING about cars and all that "manly" stuff.

 

[trinket]

 

[altlover85]

Haha, trinket. I just saw that movie again for the first time in years a few weeks ago.

 

[texan_slant]

Most of my friends are guys, and all of them are straight.

Don't pretend that you like sports (if you really don't);
Only talk about things that you know about;
Talk about normal things - life, people, current events, etc.

Be decisive, confident, respectul, considerate, and aware; listen well. Nothing should be different than how you interact with anyone else!

REALLY -> it's all about being yourself, being comfortable in yourself, and talking about things that are interesting to the either of you -> while having it be intuitive and not contrived.

SERIOUSLY -> If you've done all of this and there is a level of discomfort, you kind of have to wonder why you have a friendship!

 

[GeneralEclectic]

Naturally, we'd tell you to just "be yourself" and skip any charades, but if you really don't want other people to know, your best bet would be making sure you don't slip up and tell someone. Seems like you have that down pat so far.

Don't worry so much about how you act or how you think you should act, because like gays, straight people come in many forms, with different looks, tastes, and interests. There really is no "straight lifestyle" other than sleeping with the opposite sex.

Of course, it's healthier to work on becoming more comfortable in your own skin, but if you're not willing to step out just yet (or ever), simply don't mention it; that's a lot easier than all the play-acting.

 

[rareboy]

I'm not 'bi-ing' it.

If you were a pre-operative transsexual who had played only with Barbie until you were 15 and admitted to dressing in drag during all the time you were in your room at home, I'd accept you asking the question about what being a guy is like.

But you've had 18 years as a male and I refuse to believe that you didn't have a single male or female friend.

You've written your questions as though you'd either just emerged from a coma or had landed from another planet and had never observed humans interacting with one another.

So what is the true story here???

My advice?

Talk about whatever you or your friends want to talk about. Don't try to be some character in your own movie.

Tell your friends that you are gay. Because I'm having trouble buying that you are bi if you're that afraid of your secret getting out.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

- What a guy talks to guys
- What a guy talks to his best friend
- What a guy talks to girls (I mean normal girls, his friends not for flirting )
- What a guy talks about other guys

- Tits! Beer! Tits! Beer!
- Tits! Ass! Tits! Ass!
- [insert timid double entendre]
- [never remark that another man might be gay, if your friends bring it up, ignore
them]

Seriously, don't pretend to be something you aren't, even when you win you lose...

 

[AverageJoe]

Maybe you're just socially inept, and it doesn't stem solely from the bisexuality???

 

[RobUK2]

(I know this isn't helping the op much, but I'd just like to say-)

I don't actually think sexuality has anything to do with how you act. Sexuality just affects who you find attractive.

Some of the most effeminate guys I have ever met have only been attracted to girls, whilst some of most 'macho' men I've met are voracious homosexuals!

 

[ucfknight12]

Uhhh be yourself? I'm gay, yet I'm still a guy... I have guy friends that I hang with. So we don't talk about boobies, but we still hang out!

 

[lunarus]

Ummm....

Manning up 101

• Pull down pants and look in mirror. Do you have a penis? Congratulation you are a guy.
• Lift up said penis and check for testicles. Congratulation you are a guy.
• End of lesson.

I know straight men that have more gay mannerisms than me. IE being fay at times. Obsessed with being better looking than other men. They call it bromance and metro-sexual BS. Hell they dress better than me. Does that make them less manly than me? No! Just be yourself, it works out in the long run.

If you try to live up to others standards you will fail every time and be miserable.

 

[GaiBoi]

In my opinion, a real man is one who isn't afraid to be himself and doesn't deny himself of what he enjoys, whether it be perceived as "gay" or not.