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How to Deal With Brother's Psycho GF

Avoid her at all costs. Talk to your brother and let him know you will not be putting your life on hold, and you will be having your friends around you from time to time. If he chooses not to come around then, so be it. Explain to him that you love him, that it hurts you to see him treated this way, and that you miss having your brother around as a happy and healthy person. Don't fight with her, but don't take her shit either. If she is around and starts being a bitch, leave the room. Do let everyone know that you no longer intend to let this person control your lives.

If you act out towards her, or if your family forces him to choose, just know that he will probably choose her. Sad reality, but that should not keep you from living your life as you want.

Hell, if you think it would do any good, let him read what you wrote here in your first post.

Good luck.
 
Honestly mate, I think you need to deal with yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but in the end, someone has to do this, and with the build up of emotion that's happening, I think anyone in your family would be justified in saying it.

You need to tell her exactly where to stick it. The fact that she's got such a hold over your brother means she has a hold over you and your family as well. You're playing by her rules, and in the end, the only thing that's gonna happen is misery all around. Don't worry about your brother's feelings, don't worry about hers, it's time to worry about yours. As the instructions in times of emergencies on planes say, secure yourself before securing others.

Give her a straight out verbal lashing, pin point exactly what she does. Call her names, whatever, it doesn't matter, except that you get it off of your chest. This is to her face, by the way. It might sound juvenile, but frankly, who cares? She's hurt you and your family, so give her the verbal lashing of the century, and you'll find that the rest of your family won't be far behind. All it takes is one to start the flood. It doesn't help your brother, but if you do it, and the rest of the family does, then chances are he's gonna take notice and be more likely to dump her.

So vent, scream, yell, go forth and set for your verbal wrath. I guarentee you'll feel better, and start off a landslide.
 
KaraBulut said:
The problem is not the girl.

The problem is the brother.

You will never be able to change this girl's behavior.

So, the question becomes, "What will it take for your brother to learn, to grow a pair and to get out of this toxic relationship?".
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You and your family need to have an "intervention" with him. My cousin was dating someone exactly like this - treated the rest of our family like crap. When they finally broke up some family members expressed how happy they were that it broke off and he asked them why they did not say anything before? Sad responses of "I didn't want to hurt your feelings" did not fly - he said that he would have liked to have know how everybody felt and what he did not see and could have prevented their toxic relationship from going any further.
 
She's not going to change, especially if your brother gives in and does everything her way, why should she? She's got it made. Your brother is the one who has to make the choice to dump her or not to....You, however can tell her off and ignore her, she doesn't have to be invited along to any family functions and I agree with another above me that you need to tell your parents that you're not going to put up with her anymore. If she is so mean and unpleasant to your brother or your parents in front of you, tell her to shut the hell up and don't disrespect them in front of you without retaliation from you. When she see's that you are not going to let her get away with it, she might let up....might. At least she knows you won't let her get away with that shit.
 
The fuck's wrong with your brother... a man should be the one calling the shots, or in our new feminist era, at least equality. He needs to become the dominant male.
 
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