How to get a straight guy

[Rex]

How to get a straight guy? Be an attractive girl.

I think that's the smartest thing I've read in this thread and that video was lame as hell.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

I think that's the smartest thing I've read in this thread and that video was lame as hell.

Allow me to second that motion. I am not saying that there are not heterosexual men who may have experimented with other men, but they certainly would not actively make it a point to pursue a man, not when there is so much pussy to be had.

 

[Edward Twinkletoes]

Step One - grow boobs

Step two - lose the penis

You're 80% there. Straight men will fuck anything that has a pussy.

 

[MisterMajestic]

OK so when I was in college I was all about bagging straight guys.

My formula was pretty easy and now that I'm married.. I'll let you in on the secret.

Find out what he's not getting from women and give that to him in a no-pressure, no strings attached kind of way. That's it.

Women aren't very good with handing out the compliments. Tell him that he's a hot piece of ass. Let him know that you appreciate his friendship and that bond. Hey, if you have to make sure that he knows that it's a no-strings-attached thing and you know when to kee your mouth shut.. do that too.

that's it. That's all I ever did.

You hit it right on the nail...I use to casually flirt with an ex-coworker. We talked about all kinds of shit and he began to confide in me about problems in his relationship..I could tell he was low/depressed at times..I would try and lift his spirits & give him compliments when we were talking one on one..Then I would casually give him compliments on his looks..He didnt turn away or get upset..We began exchanging email on the job and we'd meet for lunch...We eventually exchanged cell numbers...

I suggested that we hang out outside of work sometime and he was all for it...I didnt take it any further with him..But I could tell he liked that I was "interested" in him. Maybe we would have hooked up and maybe not..I'll never know..

 

[KnightRider]

Now how many times do you have to get your ass kicked by a straight guy who realizes what you have been up to all along when you were masquerading as a platonic friend, before this works? Also how many friends do you have to lose because it's now too awkward for him to be around you after you make an unwanted sexual advance?

sorry to be such a downer here, but these seem like natural questions to me compared to the living porno you guys are describing.

 

[REALWILDARKIEHERE]

Wow, all very interesting experiences. The first guy I really fell for was TOTALLY straight. And unfortunately, I still have very deep feelings for him and that's been about nineteen years ago. So, don't think I'll be out searching for hot straight guys anytime soon. And I would totally be comfortable with "just benefits"...

 

[slnattak]

This will be much like having sex with any other guy except sooooo much better because he is a 'straight' guy who is a virgin to man-on-man action and yet you managed to persuade him to shag you.

Uh, careful there. Yes that tends to be true at first, because they're not used to/open about homosexuality, they can be quite enthused and even be more 'gay' than you are! But later down the road straight guys lose their steam pretty quickly - and it's really easy to get your heart involved where it shouldn't be. Gay guys it's kind of the opposite ime, if you stick it out with them they grow on you.

If you get stuck with the 'straight guys are always hotter' thing in your head, I think that is just asking for heartbreak. Yes due to how our social constructions are played in society straight guys will probably always be hotter in certain ways.

 

[slnattak]

And unfortunately, I still have very deep feelings for him and that's been about nineteen years ago.

That's really the only thing that gay guys do wrong. They put their feelings involved where it shouldn't be. Just think of it like he does, as two guys having a good time/fooling around - and you'll be all set. If you want your feelings returned, you might have to give up some of the 'angsty straight male' fantasy in order to have a real relationship with another gay man. This is harder, because gay men will hold you more morally accountable than a straight guy. For a straight guy it will all kind of be a funny/tease thing, which I understand can be wicked hot, but you may eventually grow tire of that.

And that (being with another gay guy) causes fixing a lot of your own self-loathing bullshit and internalized homophobia that not a lot of gay men are strong enough to do. I mean, the suicide rate for gay youth is like what, 4 times higher? It's pretty bad....

So mixed-orientation relationships can work, although their are rules to follow and it sucks that the straight guy kinda calls all the shots but hey- You just can't let it bother you, if that's the man you're attracted to right? And if he teases you about being too gay and feelery well you can do the same thing back to him, right? It's the gay male = learned helplessness thingie that is what is so dangerous.

 

[slnattak]

Some people don't think much of themselves, I guess.

In an ideal perfect world, every gay man would feel comfortable about themselves and their sexuality -- and we wouldn't have to do this.

However, straight men are (usually) naturally more self-confident because who they were was never really questioned. A lot of times what passes for gay male self-confidence isn't true self-esteem, but narcissism and a sniping attitude to protect how vulnerable they feel inside.

So therefore, since real confidence is sexy on anyone, you can't blame gay guys for falling for straight guys more than not. I know it might seem 'sad' to an outsider's perspective, and it is! Homophobia destroys. But it's just how things are. And they might be in a circumstance where the other gay men are undateable and are just unable to completely get over themselves and their own woe-is-me-I'm-gay dealo.

So what is the gay guy supposed to do if he wants some manlove?

Just like at how in porno is the straight guy is about 10 times more confident than the gay guys in porno, and that is just really an accurate reflection of real life.

 

[slnattak]

Btw, I understand the sentiment some of you have against this. I technically agree with you, which is why I'm warning the gay boys about how to go about it the right way. If they aren't able to compartmentalize their sex with their emotions, then they should avoid the experience at all cost. Your heart isn't worth it! But plenty of straight men (Yes, they are straight) enjoy cock without getting all hung up about it. With a gay guy it's a bit harder, because we LOVE other men, we don't just lust them.

However, most gay boys do not have the sort of psychological pampering that gay boys in other areas get. And not all of us can move to San Francisco or Seattle or Tornoto and whatnot. So what are they supposed to do? Not have any manlove unless all the gays are in one place? LMAO. That's just kind of nazi-ism to me, sorry.

I only speak of this from my own experience. I'm trying to be humble here you know. I understand gay male psyche pretty well, being a gay man and why would I rant/snipe at gay guys for the same mistakes I made?

 

[KnightRider]

slnattak are you an obviously gay guy? That's the only way I could see this working without getting an ass kicking at some point from an angry straight guy you make a play at. If it was never any mystery you are gay as can be, a straight guy would know who he's dealing with from the start. A lot of them react with hostility if they feel for some reason they think you are straight.

 

[Jersey Domino]

Why the hell would a gay guy try to "get" a straight guy?

I mean Straight guys want WOMEN and the only way to to truly get a straight guy if your a woman.

Other than that the straight guy is off limits. All it's gonna do it create a fucked up situation that didn't need to happen.

 

[innocentbychoice]

slnattak are you an obviously gay guy? That's the only way I could see this working without getting an ass kicking at some point from an angry straight guy you make a play at. If it was never any mystery you are gay as can be, a straight guy would know who he's dealing with from the start. A lot of them react with hostility if they feel for some reason they think you are straight.

That's a great point and that's what I thought. If you're openly gay, I think it's easier for curious men to come to you.

In my case, I wouldn't even try to seduce a str8 guy, yes the fantasy is hot, but is waaaaay too much work and time...Now if the opportunity comes, that's a different thing, but making a huge strategy for getting someone who isn't into men in the 1st place? damn, you gotta really like that person.

 

[DVM26uk]

Over the past few years I've managed to bag a few "Str8" guys, a couple of years down the line and I've seen all of them in gay bars.

Point is these supposed "Str8" men who venture down our walkway are probably just as gay as you are.

 

[DVM26uk]

Ten easy steps...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lm2a6klWHbc

That quite possibly has to be THE most stupidest thing I've ever watched. Sure that would work on a bunch of 15 year olds but once these guys reach their 20's and have dipped their dick in pussy I can assure you the last thing they would be interested in is a wank from a Marty McFly look-a-like.

 

[Adamierevo]

wow the video guy is so hot.......................

 

[innocentbychoice]

That quite possibly has to be THE most stupidest thing I've ever watched. Sure that would work on a bunch of 15 year olds but once these guys reach their 20's and have dipped their dick in pussy I can assure you the last thing they would be interested in is a wank from a Marty McFly look-a-like.

You do realize that video is from a movie? You can't take it seriously .

 

[slnattak]

Things aren't so simple and cut and dry, the FACT is that gay men are 'two-spirits' and can be female in a way that draws in straight men. Just look it in their eyes and you can see this versatility.

The research and studies back this up. Virtually all gay men when they were younger show gender atypical traits. (They try to cover this up and think they are 'semi-butch' when really they are obviously NOT as masculine as straight men, it cracks me up.)

Though we have some things in common with natural, masculine straight guys too- meaning that truly, a relationship with any type of man could work if you are a gay man.

It all depends on what you want out of life, to me- a gay man and a straight man have a certain type of chemistry that two gay guys will never have. In fact, I have a theory that it's actually more productive and beneficial if a gay man gets in a relationship with a straight man, though of course for the straight guy it will take a huge open mind.

 

[954dude]

Sexuality is too diverse and complicated to limit ourselves to barriers. As gay and bisexual men, we're more in tune with our sexuality...experimenting, questioning, and defending our sexual identities and struggling with it internally.

Hetero guys never have their sexuality challenged. All they have to do is meet girls and put their dick in some pussy and get married. Many hetero guys aren't exposed or educated about homosexuality, bisexuality, asexuality, or pansexuality and deal with labeling, depending on their environment. So MAYBE having a curious experience will bridge the gap...sort of like discovering the unknown.

Straight guys that are homophobic are judging what they don't know. Those who are open minded might not want to experiment, because they are smart and comfortable with their attraction to solely women. But don't expect to turn these guys out or for them to love you, it's wrong.

A title is a title. Just because a guy is straight doesn't mean he won't suck a dick. Just because a guy is gay doesn't mean he bends over and takes a dick. Just because a guy is bisexual doesn't mean he likes both men and women equally. Our sexualities can't be measured with a damn ruler!

And I know for a FACT that there's plenty of straight guys that just wanna mess around or bond or fuck an ass or have some oral play, but that's all it is. Like I said before, SEXUALITY IS NOT THAT CUT AND DRY!! If it was, then WHY do we have so many sub-sexualities within the "communities" of heterosexuals and GLBTQs?

You have gay men. Bi men. Down low men. Questioning men. Confused men. Experimental men. Dick once a year men. Anything is possible. If it happens, it happens. Just don't dwell on catching a straight guy like fish, because if that's all you're chasing throughout life, you'll be disappointed.

There are plenty of men out there, single, available, ready for committment, love, or some sexual pleasure, go find them!! Let these straight men have their women!

 

[innocentbychoice]

A title is a title. Just because a guy is straight doesn't mean he won't suck a dick. Just because a guy is gay doesn't mean he bends over and takes a dick. Just because a guy is bisexual doesn't mean he likes both men and women equally. Our sexualities can't be measured with a damn ruler!

And I know for a FACT that there's plenty of straight guys that just wanna mess around or bond or fuck an ass or have some oral play, but that's all it is. Like I said before, SEXUALITY IS NOT THAT CUT AND DRY!! If it was, then WHY do we have so many sub-sexualities within the "communities" of heterosexuals and GLBTQs?

I completely agree with this. I hate when someone says something like " Str8 men don't do this or that, if they do they're instantly bi or gay". I mean please, labels are just that. It's a big pretension to think you can understand something as wide and deep as sexuality through society imposed labels.