How to get Harder?

[blue_eyedguy]

Hey guys,

My boyfriend and I just now started having anal sex. At first, I thought I was going to be a top all the time, but we're getting versatile. I love it. However, I have a proble. Whenever I am topping, I can never get my dick in him. I have a slightly larger dick, and he is really tight. I also get softer whenever Im trying to fuck him. Its almost as if I know Im not gonna get in, so I give up. Is there any way that I can keep my hard-on and keep it harder? If I can do that, I think I'll be able to work my way in.

 

[Storybook_Man]

I know a good amount of guys who use poppers which will excite you more and supposedly make you harder.

But I would never do it because I am not sniffing something. You might be different. I would suggest getting him ready before you try and penatrate him. Like get him to blow you while you are lubing his ass then stick it in.

 

[racer2438]

poppers not good deal, they can harm you good if it has a bad reaction or if you use to much. Not good for the cardio system. Why dont you try a good cock ring and mainly just try to relax abit more. Your seting your self up for failure by thinking ahead that you'll go soft.

 

[Eagle653]

Hi blue_eyedguy, I'm taking the liberty of moving your post over to the Health forum. This question has come up before in that forum, and I'm hopeful you'll get some good advice.

 

[Homoerectus]

Get a rubber Dildo Use lots of lube and finger fuck him until you can get the Dildo in. You can buy a Dildo that is small on the end and gets bigger as it nears the base. This will open him up and allow you to make an easier entry. Foreplay is fun and take your time. Leave the Dildo in and let him give you oral until you are hard enought to enter him.

 

[jizzeater]

I agree with foreplay.

He's tensing up too much. So, you have to work him open by rimming, using lots of lube, fingers and/or toys. Make sure to keep him horny and hard while doing this by stroking his dick.

When his asshole isn't tensed and is "gaping" a little (lol), then he's ready. Relax, do deep breathing, give him a reach around, and rub your cock in between his cheeks as you get ready to enter him.

 

[CagedBird]

You're way to young, but sildenafil citrate drugs are designed for [among other issues] restoring a firm hard erection. Try something else.

As others have said, you can effect your situation with attitude, patients & lotsa lube. I recall my first attempt to penetrate a womans ass. After several slow attempts I began to soften a bit. I had her laying face down on the bed & decided to flow lube over my cock while gently stroking the crack of her ass. This restimulated my erection & eventually I was able to make penetration.

Think sexy, lustful thoughts & know it will happen

 

[CagedBird]

So, you have to work him open by rimming, using lots of lube, fingers and/or toys. Make sure to keep him horny and hard while doing this by stroking his dick.

When his asshole isn't tensed and is "gaping" a little (lol), then he's ready. Relax, do deep breathing, give him a reach around, and rub your cock in between his cheeks as you get ready to enter him.

Jizzeater, after reading that bit, Im horned up & "gaping" @ the asshole; you may now enter

 

[jizzeater]

LOL!

 

[blue_eyedguy]

Thanks so much you guys! Im gonna be taking all these posts into consideration. Ill definitely let you guys know how it goes!
Thanks again!

 

[MindBlast]

Foreplay, and hold off any kind of jerking off for a few days. That should do it.