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How to know if a guy is gay?

IMO, become friends with the guy first. If he has a girlfriend or a wife, you'll know the answer.
 
So what does he do when you're up close? Does he look into your eyes? Does he touch you? When you walk away from eachother take a look back after several paces and if he's doing the same thing I think you found your answer.
 
I agree they're probably not going to come rushing to you. Either you rely on signs (which are no guarantee--just evidence for or against) or ask the guy. Of course, one of the easiest ways is to put yourself in a gay or gay-friendly environment where it will be obvious who's gay and those who aren't won't be offended if you ask.
 
oh man, i wish i knew the answer to your question, justacub.
 
i have the same problem there is this cute guy I'm interested in but i not sure how to approach him ](*,)
 
Cum when you are sucking them off?
Giggle when you kiss them?
You notice 25 different coloured handkerchiefs in his hip pockets (He is probably 53 as well!)
Takes his Siamese and Russian Blue cats for a walk on leads every morning?
Plays Gloria Gaynor records every time you visit?
 
Well if you don't want to ask him if he's gay, how about "Do you have any gay friends?"

That is, if you don't mind coming out to him.
 
Body language tells all, sooner or later. Be sensitive to it--REAL sensitive. Watch his eyes...where does he look, both at you and at others. Do handsome men catch his attention, even a wayward glance? Does he touch you affectionately, even if not sexually--like touching the forearm or hand, etc.? If you move closer, within the zone of comfort, does he back up or stay put? Does he reach out and rub your crotch or kiss you as a form of greeting? OK, I'm getting carried away, but you get the idea. People give off signals all the time, many of them unconscious. Just develop a sharp eye and be sensitive to cues, subtle as they may be.

Good luck! Hope he is who you want him to be!
 
I understand what you're saying. I'm out to many gay people on campus but it doesn't happen like that always. There are plenty other gay guys on campus who are out to some friends but not to the gay majority. I completly get that, I'm not out to some most of my classmates or my roommate either. The problem is, the gay 'it' guys are not my type. I'm straight acting and would be interested meeting someone like me. There is a guy I'm to. I've never seen him with a girl, but I don't see him always so he could have a girl back home for all I know.

Anyways, my advice is to hang out with the guy more so you get to know him. Then you'll know if you really like or if you're just experiencing lust. After and during that step, you must observe with a keen eye and pick up on the way he acts, looks at others, walks, talks...everything and anything that could be a clue. You should also probe for how he feels about gay people. If he hates them, then that a good clue he's not gay. Even very in the closet people, don't bash gays like straight guys will.

If after all of this, you still feel attracted to him, you can come out to him, and then you can feel free to probe him about his sexuality.

In high school, I thought I felt something for this guy who sat beside me in one of my classes. I didn't know enough, and I said something to him about it, and we've never talked after that. It kind of a long story, I'll tell you if you want.

My advice is, just be smart about it. Don't do anything rash.
 
i'd really like to hear your story, wowsers. i'm not out to anyone but one person, and i'm still thinking about all the experiences i've yet to face.
 
I too would be intrested in reading your story, wowsers.

In highschool, there was this guy who I thought was comming on to me. But I never did anything about it because I was too chicken. He was a good friend of mine and didn't want to ruin our friendship over a misunderstanding.

Years later, it turns out he has a girlfriend and, as far as I know, he's totally straight.

Which is confusing, because, like someone said before, all the signs were there. Or at least they kept me wondering. I caught him staring at me, and then look quickly the other way when I turned. And when we spoke, he always looked right at my eyes, barely blinking, and got real close to my face. I confronted him about it in a jocking way, and he was always elusive.

I figure I was imagining thing and exagerating these "signs" because I kind of liked him.
 
I think im on the same issue as Justacub is in. I have this crush on this guy in my high school. He is the football jock guy and is a great friend. I just can never tell if he is or isnt.

For instance, there are times when he would just come up to me and give me a hug and a kiss on the head but he totally hates it when people do it to him. He hates when people give affection to him but loves basically molesting every guy friend of his. But that's in public. When we are in private, he acts normal but casually grabs my leg once in a while. He talks about girls and has a thong collection but never has had sex or had a girlfriend in his life. He owns no pornos and has one poster of a girl on his wall.

The majority of his friends on the offseason are girls. I sometimes catch him looking at me and he turns and looks away. It's also like wherever I sit at my lunch table, I am always in clear site of him. In public we rarely hang out but he loves to hang out with me in private.

Its just weird stuff like that that distracts me. Between the leg grabbing and staring, I dont know what to think of it. I personally think he's straight but around here, straight guys just don't do that stuff.
 
bear249 said:
I think im on the same issue as Justacub is in. I have this crush on this guy in my high school. He is the football jock guy and is a great friend. I just can never tell if he is or isnt.

For instance, there are times when he would just come up to me and give me a hug and a kiss on the head but he totally hates it when people do it to him. He hates when people give affection to him but loves basically molesting every guy friend of his. But that's in public. When we are in private, he acts normal but casually grabs my leg once in a while. He talks about girls and has a thong collection but never has had sex or had a girlfriend in his life. He owns no pornos and has one poster of a girl on his wall.

The majority of his friends on the offseason are girls. I sometimes catch him looking at me and he turns and looks away. It's also like wherever I sit at my lunch table, I am always in clear site of him. In public we rarely hang out but he loves to hang out with me in private.

Its just weird stuff like that that distracts me. Between the leg grabbing and staring, I dont know what to think of it. I personally think he's straight but around here, straight guys just don't do that stuff.
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I am having the same exact problem as you but my friend has had sex with many girls. I cant figure my friend out. We will wrestle and touch each other all over but im not sure if i should make a move, what if he kills me for trying to hit on him? But deep down i can feel it is if i did make a move he would love it!
 
sora_3467 said:
I am really on the same page as you...most of you.

Well, It's going to be quite long so bear with me:

I'm in college right now, and me and this guy "fuller" has just become classmates on Management, only one subject lol.

Anyway, so we became groupmates on a project or something, but even though the majority of my groupmates are female, he comes to me and only talks to me.

We became such friends, he knew that I was Bi, but I am not quite sure about him.

Whenever were in public, he acts as if were just pals and like a cool and snob guy, walking fast and everyone thought he is really a "bad boy" because of his rough image with ears pierce and all. But when we are just alone, he often looks at me like a puppy dog with his deep dimples(my fetish) smiling back, when I ask him what's wrong, he's just gonna smile and act as if nothing is happening.

He often message me on my two mobiles and his message always seems like this, he says good nights, he ask if I already ate or something, he'll send me blank messages, and even short but with intention of calling attention.

Now, I asked him about his relationship and about him, so I learned his a veledictorian of his class (he is not nerd at all or geek-looking>yuck, hell no!), he is good in math,loves basketball, volleyball, and tennis. he had a girlfriend for 3 years and they broke up last spring, and he told me different stuffs about him.


So, then, I was really attracted cause you really can't find so many guys who are intelligent, sporty and awesomely HOT. But I can't seem to put my finger on it if wether he is bi, gay, stright and if he is just leading me on, or we have a sort of Mutual Understanding...

I'm really confused right now...


SORRY FOR THE LONG MESSAGE...BUT I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.


If I ask him about us, I am really afraid he'll say the opposite, or if ever thers a chance, how do I get him to be much more closer to me, to us, for each other...


Now, I know you guys are great in giving advice...please Help....:cry:
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For the best answers, I really do recommend that you put all of this in your own thread. You'll get more attention that way.

I would start staring him down some. Make eye contact and hold it much longer than is normal. Put all of your feelings into that gaze and see what he does. If he maintains it after the first few times (straight guys won't usually do that), then tell him that you're starting to feel really close to him and you wonder how he is feeling.

If all else fails, try touching him in a friendly and warm way more often and see if he responds. Touch can break down a lot of walls. Good Luck!
 
Sora_3467, I have been in this situation before. It's always hard to find out if that guy is gay or not, never easy.

There was a guy at my work, who was so hot, good looking, just a perfect guy! I did really liked him a lot! I sometimes tried to figure out if he was gay or not? #-o

One Saturday night, I was at a gay nightclub, and guess what? I bumped him there! I was right, he is gay! Although, he was already taken (got a long term relationship boyfriend), but could have flirt him anyway! (*8*)

Let us know how you go with that guy? ..|
 
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