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How to make friends with guy on myspace? lOL

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Theres this guy who i got on myspace, also he sometimes comes into the store where I work. He added me cos of friend of friend thing. We hardly speak in real life, just like nods and hi - i dont see him very often.

Anyway on his myspace page has just recently come out - bi. He seems like a pretty cool guy, he is the only gay/bi guy i now know. He is smokn ass, but just kinda wanna be friends.

How can I sort of make friends with him? Am I gonna seem like a creep if i suddenly start messaging him and stuff all of a sudden? I dunno bah

How should I do this?

Thanks
 
Well, talk to him more. Don't just nod and say hi. Add something.

"So how you doin' today?"
"We got some new mint tea in - it's really good."
"Hey, that's a neat jacket."
"Man, it's getting COLD out there, isn't it?"

Don't try to get a huge long conversation going all at once. Just get him used to you chatting a bit. Presumably, he'll chat a bit back to you. You can take it from there.

...oh, and as a personal aside? Don't end things with "LOL" unless they really ARE laugh-out-loud funny. Personal pet peeve. :)

Lex
 
You might also want to keep his reaction in check. Don't push an unwanted conversation.
 
I know you're talking about on myspace. And I think that's the problem.

Lex
 
Old faggots like me do. :) But since he won't be talking to him, I guess that's a moot point.

Lex
 
i know its a problem ,but i cant talk to him in person if i never see him
 
Columboy said:
"Hey, that's a NEAT jacket." To they still say neat?
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G-Lexington said:
Old faggots like me do. :)
Lex
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As well as retro fags like me! haha

But seriously, I'VE RARELY HAD GOOD RELATIONSHIPS STEMING FROM ONLY MYSPACE. Because seriously, you just kinda need to actually talk in person for a friendship to really develop.

I always break the ice with a "hey hows it going," but you two at least know each other somewhat? Or just from him going into your store often?

I added this guy I liked who I just barely met and attempted conversing and all he did was blow me off. So eh, just really depends on the guy, good sign that he added you, and that he just became bi.:gogirl:
 
But you said you DO see him from time to time. So when you see him, talk to him.

Lex
 
Well do you say you are gay or bi on your Myspace ? Are you out to people ? If you say you are on there just leave him a comment like "Hey how you doing ? it's been a while since i seen you last man, when you going to come visit me,it gets pretty boring up at my work." when he replies just keep replying back and eventually go "So are you really bi dude?" and when he says something back just go "Really,thats cool dude im gay or bi too", and the conversation should get better.
 
i'm not fully understanding you brah. did he give you his myspace? or were you lookin around and happen to find him? or are you kinda stalking him? because you said he recently changed his orientation. that means you've been spyin on his myspace for a while, yah?
 
fuken i saw him today and he started talking to me, i completely choked lol didnt know wot to say. i would have looked like a tool
 
How can I sort of make friends with him? Am I gonna seem like a creep if i suddenly start messaging him and stuff all of a sudden? I dunno bah

How should I do this?
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Obviously, since you never learned to communicate with live people, you might have some difficulties.

Why not whip out your blackberry next time he comes into the store and text message him and then hand it to him right there to read?

I think one of the reasons that young guys choke up is that they have lots of opinions to express but not a lot of general knowledge to share in a casual (real) conversation.

For centuries, people have been able to make polite conversation by talking about the weather, the price of goods etc. Suddenly, no one can do this anymore it seems.

Why not just listen to him and say something like, 'I'd like to hear more about that, maybe sometime we can go out for a coffee?'
 
rareboy said:
Obviously, since you never learned to communicate with live people, you might have some difficulties.

Why not whip out your blackberry next time he comes into the store and text message him and then hand it to him right there to read?

I think one of the reasons that young guys choke up is that they have lots of opinions to express but not a lot of general knowledge to share in a casual (real) conversation.

For centuries, people have been able to make polite conversation by talking about the weather, the price of goods etc. Suddenly, no one can do this anymore it seems.

Why not just listen to him and say something like, 'I'd like to hear more about that, maybe sometime we can go out for a coffee?'
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yeh thats right. its hard cos i have lived in a cage my whole life. ive never left my house and have never talked to anyone before.
 
>>>fuken i saw him today and he started talking to me, i completely choked lol didnt know wot to say. i would have looked like a tool.

No, NOT talking makes you look like a tool. Or at least like you're not interested. We're not all masters of the art of conversation, but the only way we get any better is practice. So practice.

Topics are everywhere. Just look.

What's the guy wearing? ("I like your shirt.")

What's he carrying? ("Is that a good book? I've been on the lookout for something new to read.")

What's he buying? ("I love these chocolates, but they're kind of addictive.")

His answers will let you know how interested he is, and where to take the conversation next.

Lex
 
yeh thats right. its hard cos i have lived in a cage my whole life. ive never left my house and have never talked to anyone before.
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Hey, I'm not the one choking up because I can only communicate with some guy on Myspace.

As Lex says, practise is what is called for here.

You don't even have to say a lot; just show that you are interested in having a real interaction. Forget everything he posts on Myspace. Look at him as just a person you know nothing about and then go from there.

Who knows, maybe he's just a diffident as you.
 
if he is your friend on myspace, just send him a msg, like

"hey whats going on this wk end, you going to do anything, you want to grab a beer"

just some basic thing. to get together maybe at a house party or at a bar, movie, some place then you can just talk and see how it goes from there.
 
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