How to make new friends in college?

[menRsexii]

^ Absolutely so you are going to college this fall too?

Yup yup. I'm excited but also kinda nervous. At least I know I'll have one friend, my roommate. I arlready made a thread about this earlier, but my roommate is gay too, so at least we have that in common

 

[LukiesJ]

Yup yup. I'm excited but also kinda nervous. At least I know I'll have one friend, my roommate. I arlready made a thread about this earlier, but my roommate is gay too, so at least we have that in common

Oh I read that thread!!! congrats you on that!!!! hahaha!!
I'm reallyyyyyyy nervous about my first day.

 

[frankfrank]

Now, if you two are going to college two thousand miles apart, it might be hard to stick with the promise to be LukiesJ's friend, LOL.

There's a lot of truth in this thread...yes, friendships will often "just happen" without even trying.

And yes it's entirely different from high school. In high school, all the people around you were aware of three, four, or possibly many more, years of your history, your behavior, your likes and dislikes, etc. Having all of that background out there tends to "set a role, to some degree," in how new friendships are formed and maintained.

You are starting with an entirely clean slate and, for example, if there were things about your behaviour two, four, or even nine years ago which was unsettling or "putting-off" to some people, that's all gone. (I have NO clue, but that is an issue for some people, as it was for ME, for example.)

You are, in fact, starting fresh even more than I would have imagined, as your PM explained that your move to college was much more far and much more extreme than I would have guessed.

And the city where your college is, and the larger city (with a nice downtown) immediately bordering it on its north, I would dare say that it is a great place to live!

[EDIT: I just read eryk-v's GREAT advice! He said it so perfectly that the post is timeless...one for the ages.]

 

[menRsexii]

^ Though that may be true, we can stay in contact via skype, text, etc. Well LukiesJ, if you'd like my info, I'd be glad to PM you.

 

[menRsexii]

Welcome Parker! It looks like the 3 of us have something in common

 

[LukiesJ]

^ Though that may be true, we can stay in contact via skype, text, etc. Well LukiesJ, if you'd like my info, I'd be glad to PM you.

Of course! I would love too! xD

Can I ask which college you guys enroll to?

 

[maxpowr9]

I know a few people have said this, but join a bunch of organizations! The university I'm going to has a Gay-Straight Alliance and a To Write Love on Her Arms group. Also if your university has events, go to them!

I'm starting my freshman year of college this August also!

^This is pretty much solid advice. I got involved in quite a few clubs at school my Freshmen year. I was a treasurer for my hall in residence hall association, I was part of the democrats [insert snide remark from CE&P poster here] and the green society. I wasn't a fan of the LGBT group at school and it may not be for everyone.
Being part of RHA was amazing because you get involved with your building and create events that your fellow hall-mates want to attend and you get to meet a lot of people that way too. I also used that to springboard into becoming an RA.

Especially if you are living in campus, I doubt you will have a hard time making new friends. Commuters definitely have it a bit more tough to make new friends at school.

 

[menRsexii]

Of course! I would love too! xD

Can I ask which college you guys enroll to?

I'm going to SF State

 

[asu1117]

Thank you Frank! I am actually from Bangkok but just move here to live with my cousin in Orange county hehe. My college is in Newport beach, which isn't far from my house.
PS: I'm thinking about moving out to live in the dorm too!

I would recommend doing that, living on campus makes meeting people a lot easier, especially at first. Not only is it easy to meet people in your dorm, but it gives you more/easier access to all that's offered on campus. Join a club, most Universities have a ton of clubs so I'm sure you can find something you're interested in. Go to events and functions that are held on campus. And just be friendly, don't be afraid to talk to people out and about campus. I made a lot of my friends at random places on campus just by striking up conversation.

 

[bi-4u2]

it just happens, your there because you have something in common, so work on that

 

[blackbeltninja]

dunno

maybe go rounds says Hiiiii ta everyone ans dress ins nice skin tight silk?

sure lot a ways they educates ya knows

Kool

I don't think we should let Sloppy near the new members until they've had at least 2 weeks here or got 100 posts in HT.

Hell, he confuses those of us who've been here forever; no idea what the newbs make of him!

-d-

 

[WyvernLord]

If you live in a dorm with all Freshmen, 99.9% of the people you meet will be in the same situation. EVERYONE will be looking to make friends too. It's a golden opportunity and you'll lose out if you don't jump on it right away. I missed my floor's move in day by one day and I missed A LOT. So make the rounds when you move in. Get to know everyone. Play video/board games when people ask, or host them yourself. Go with people on late night fast food runs. Join your floormates when they go to the dinning commons to eat. Study in your common area, or at least with your door open. People WILL stop by and say hi.

I'm going into my 4th year and 90% of my friends are people from my floor. Funny thing is, I only made friends with a lot of these people recently, because I foolishly missed out on a lot of the first year socializing. I'm seeing now that there were a ton of great friendships I passed up because I was too shy, but I'm catching up now.