how to meet other bi-married guys?

[TylerDurden222]

i've spent a lot of time on the internet and i just haven't been successful in meeting other bi-married guys. i'd love to find a couple guys just like me. i'm 29, business executive, attractive, good shape, very masculine, and happily married to a beautiful woman. i have always found guys to be attractive, and would love to meet guys similar to me that i can discuss this with, and then see where things lead.

if i just wanted to fuck i could probably find gay guys a lot easier since obviously that's a bigger universe, but i think bi guys, especially bi-married guys, will bring a stronger connection.

any advice?

 

[biguy732]

Have you tried adam4adam.com or squirt.org?

 

[TylerDurden222]

yes, been to both. but i find both sites are more for reckless sexual behavior then meeting other people like i'm hoping to do. maybe i haven't explored those sites enough or am misjudging them, but i do appreciate your advice. i'll try adam4adam again.

 

[bankside]

I'd suggest asking your wife to pick someone out that you will both enjoy.

 

[closet case]

I'm in the exact same boat. Good luck.

 

[biguy732]

Let me go a bit further and explain that I only meet someone after I have talked for a while and the meet in a public place just to make sure that they are sane. Adam4adam seems to be better only because there are more questions that can be answered regarding what you are looking for.

 

[TylerDurden222]

adam4adam is better for sure...alot easier to filter through

 

[closet case]

Let me go a bit further and explain that I only meet someone after I have talked for a while and the meet in a public place just to make sure that they are sane.

Good idea. Problem is most (90%?) guys online are only looking for the quick hook up and say they're not interested in any conversation, other than what you want to do and where to meet to do it. That's fine if that's your game but I prefer some conversation to get a vibe on someone.

I'm not looking for any kind of "serious" relationship but it would be nice to have a casual relationship (NSA, no problem) where you feel comfortable with someone and have some kind of connection with them. I just can't do the anonymous hook up thing (e.g. "I'll have all the lights off and I'll be naked on my bed. You walk in and put your cock up my ass. No talk, just fuck me good and hard, cum, then leave.")

 

[AlmondMilk]

You could also try dudesnude if you haven't yet. I'm not sure how much luck you'll get, but I've talked to a few decent guys who were pretty much up for conversation. There's a "Requirement" where you have to have a nude picture of yourself as a public photo, but it's not really that enforced.

It's been months and I haven't gotten a complaint or warning. Then again it's been awhile since I saw the "rules" of that site, so maybe I have it all wrong lol.

Either way, hope you find that guy

 

[palemale]

Manhunt just revamped their site. "Married men" is now one of the search options, as is "straight/bi."

 

[bike10]

You be surprised number of bi guys and married guys who go to the baths to meet up with other guys.

 

[alley]

if i just wanted to fuck i could probably find gay guys a lot easier since obviously that's a bigger universe, but i think bi guys, especially bi-married guys, will bring a stronger connection.

any advice?

Not in my in my experience--most married guys are looking to meet, get off, and run back to their wife and pretend you don't exist. It's not about making a connection for most of them.

 

[steve621]

lots of married guys on menchats.com - hard to find people geographically close, but i've found a few - it's easier to go slow and get to know them before meeting - back then it was joechat.com

 

[TylerDurden222]

lots of married guys on menchats.com - hard to find people geographically close, but i've found a few - it's easier to go slow and get to know them before meeting - back then it was joechat.com

i've had a lot of jerk off sessions on that one, great site...about to go there now, ha ha

 

[mdhorneydude]

Good idea. Problem is most (90%?) guys online are only looking for the quick hook up and say they're not interested in any conversation, other than what you want to do and where to meet to do it. That's fine if that's your game but I prefer some conversation to get a vibe on someone.

I'm not looking for any kind of "serious" relationship but it would be nice to have a casual relationship (NSA, no problem) where you feel comfortable with someone and have some kind of connection with them. I just can't do the anonymous hook up thing (e.g. "I'll have all the lights off and I'll be naked on my bed. You walk in and put your cock up my ass. No talk, just fuck me good and hard, cum, then leave.")

I agree completely

 

[biguy732]

but I prefer some conversation to get a vibe on someone.

I am about to block this guy on another website that I chat on. Bad vibes coming after the first few times im'ing back and forth, such as no picture, no cam, always being a bit too forward. Then the other day he crossed the creepy line when we were discussing the possibility of meeting for coffee somewhere and he said that he does not want to share me. Um, excuse me, who the fuck do you think you are? You don't want to share me - as if you own me. Don't think so buddy.

So, again, before you just go and meet some guy you literally just met online - be careful. You don't need a stalker.

 

[bankside]

I am about to block this guy on another website that I chat on. Bad vibes coming after the first few times im'ing back and forth, such as no picture, no cam, always being a bit too forward. Then the other day he crossed the creepy line when we were discussing the possibility of meeting for coffee somewhere and he said that he does not want to share me. Um, excuse me, who the fuck do you think you are? You don't want to share me - as if you own me. Don't think so buddy.

So, again, before you just go and meet some guy you literally just met online - be careful. You don't need a stalker.

If I heard "I don't want to share you" I would interpret it as "I don't want to sneak around if you are into cheating" or "I'm not into open relationships" or "I'm okay with something casual but only one guy at a time" and not "I'm going to lock you in my basement with duct tape over your mouth."

 

[MisterMajestic]

i've spent a lot of time on the internet and i just haven't been successful in meeting other bi-married guys. i'd love to find a couple guys just like me. i'm 29, business executive, attractive, good shape, very masculine, and happily married to a beautiful woman. i have always found guys to be attractive, and would love to meet guys similar to me that i can discuss this with, and then see where things lead.

if i just wanted to fuck i could probably find gay guys a lot easier since obviously that's a bigger universe, but i think bi guys, especially bi-married guys, will bring a stronger connection.

any advice?

First, let me give you a bit of advice. When you place an add/Profile Online Re:A4A or Craig's List do NOT say you're looking for Guy(S). Just say you're looking for a "Bi-Married Buddy for discreet meetings on a regular basis"..Now some Bi-Guys won't give a Fuck if your add says your're looking for Guys(S), but there are Bi-Guys that READ every word that you type and a lot of us don't want Dudes that are Fucking many Guys..You online Add is suppose to "attract" Guys not run them off...

I ignore "adds" from Guys that say "I'm looking for a Few good Men to Fuck"..Reading that does not turn me on what-so-ever...

So be CLEAR with what you want and you'll eventually find a guy similar to what you want. You might have to settle for a Masculine Gay man at first and wait for the Bi-Married guy to come along down the road.

Give Craig's List a try. You might find at least 1 Bi-Married guy in your town...

 

[les jones]

Try Gaydar chat rooms
But with any on line communities use with caution

 

[heat10]

I've connected w/some guys on craigslist. It does take some time, effort and patience, but I think you can tell if someone's at least reasonable via e-mail. Had just done mutual JO before, but now I've bottomed for the same guy 3 times and have also sucked his cock. Found out I'm not that into bottoming and am intrigued about sucking some more. Always do love mutual JO and body contact though.