how to tell if a guy is a virgin...........

[JSRD]

So flirting with this dude......lots of text flirting about sex and having sex and stuff like that but I'm trying to figure out if he's a virgin or not. He's 23 but also pretty innocent and religious. Any ideas on how to find out with out asking???

 

[Shepherd 2]

Of all the concerns, I do not understand this one. Why would you want to know if he is a virgin? Are you a virgin? Why is it important to either one of you? I must be missing some information.

Shep+

 

[swerve]

You already answered your question...

He is 23...

He is NOT a virgin...

 

[hylas]

if virgins fart, only dogs can hear it. so feed him onions for a whole evening, then keep listening and sniffing.

on a more serious note, i can kinda see how it would matter (virgins usually suck at sex, so you can lower your expectations a little) but why not just ask?

 

[birddog7]

Ask him, but he may not tell you the truth.

 

[justdra]

Also, what does him being religious have to do with it, lol. His flirting is probably safe for him so he can still be "religious" and not having acting on his gayness. There will be guilt afterwards, believe me, lol. The only thing I will say if you enjoy the flirting, asking him flat out will either get you an answer or he may retreat. During one of the flirty text, say something about an ex boyfriend or as most gays on the prowl will flat out ask " top or bottom" and see where it goes.

 

[Ryuusei Boy]

I was a virgin 3 months ago, I'm 22. I don't think you could notice I was a virgin, I'm not any different now. Seriously, why does it even matter?

 

[Anton98]

If your finger snaps off when your playing with his ass, he's a virgin

 

[Toddxxx]

Don't ask....just play and enjoy it!

 

[Telstra]

if he feels pain when doing anal, he is a virgin.

 

[soulseeker]

Ask him for his virgin badge

 

[Críostóir]

I was a virgin 3 months ago, I'm 22. I don't think you could notice I was a virgin, I'm not any different now. Seriously, why does it even matter?

Oh, you're COMPLETELY different, trust me. It shows in every comment you write, every single one.

Naw, I'm lying. But had you going for a sec there, didn't I?

 

[hylas]

Maybe psycholocially, a person may think or feel that he "lost" a part of himself whenever he has sex.

*insert rant about christianity here*


as for all the "im not sure wether you can tell by looking" comments: of course you cant. was that ever really in question? come on, guys.

 

[Titanic]

Oh come on guys, it matters to a lot of people.

I'm the romantic type who wants to look back at his first experience and think of it as a really nice introduction. It'll always be the magical first time, and in years time you'll have friends asking you what it was. Fine, mine wasn't perfect, but I still see it through rose tinted glasses, and that's in a nice way.

Need more romance around here.

 

[Shepherd 2]

VIRGIN "A chaste or unmarried woman; a maiden." This is from the American Heritage Dictionary. There must be a lot of women here posing as men.

Actually, the secondary meaning is "Being in a pure or natural state unsullied." and one I really like is, "Unused or unexplored." If this refers to a man's anus, it has been used since birth.

My advice, if asked this question, tell a person whatever he or she wants to hear. It has nothing to do with being "more romantic."

Get on to the good stuff, next day it is no longer important!

Shep+

 

[mbamike]

A way a guy talks will indicate if he has any sexual experience, but then you will need to have sexual experience to compare what he is saying to know if his statements are believable.

 

[Críostóir]

After some reflection, I think it does (or should) matter to an experienced guy whether the guy they're about to have sex with has done it before.

If the guy is experienced, you can go faster if you want to, or slower if you want to, and take the lead and do anything you want until and unless he objects.

I think more care is required with a neophyte. The well-intentioned experienced guy will want the neo to have as good an experience as possible, to no not feel pushed beyond what he's ready for, to never feel panicked or out of control.

There's plenty of time for that last when you transform him into a sub bottom. KIDDING!

Seriously, I would handle a virgin differently than I would an experienced guy, and I think it's terribly unkind to do otherwise. Chances are I would decline, because I'm past the point where virgins are any fun; it's a bit of a chore now. I've done my share of deflorations, and I'll leave any further ones to guys who like doing it.

All of this goes double when anal is on the table if the newbie is also wanting to bottom; but it applies to sex generally. You have to be careful of a virgin's feelings, not just his hole.

As to how to find out: Ask. You must ask. There is no alternative.

 

[walkingonsnow]

Just ask him. Lol, what the hell.

 

[ChickenGuy]

I am pure and pristine, and I am untouched by man.

*puts on elaborate white flowing robes*


I can report that my hole is so tight that I would have trouble even putting my thumb up there.

Seriously, I would handle a virgin differently than I would an experienced guy, and I think it's terribly unkind to do otherwise. Chances are I would decline, because I'm past the point where virgins are any fun; it's a bit of a chore now. I've done my share of deflorations, and I'll leave any further ones to guys who like doing it.

All of this goes double when anal is on the table if the newbie is also wanting to bottom; but it applies to sex generally. You have to be careful of a virgin's feelings, not just his hole.

Criostoir, you can handle and deflower me any time you want.

 

[Adrock-JD]

Guys don't get "loose" from having anal sex. That's a myth.

Some guys can relax faster and easier than others 'down there' that's all.

Guys don't have hymens so there's no way to know if they've been plucked.

Even women can have them sewn back, at least a few times, so that isn't even a fool proof method for them.