How to tell if a guy likes you?

[Curiosities]

There is this guy in campus that has seems to give me A LOT of attention, a bit too much. He would always grab me, and touch me/get a hold of me in public, and loves commenting on how much bigger he is than me (Which I find offending, since I AM still a guy). Sometimes even making sexual comments that are CLEARLY gay (Although it's likely that he's kidding)

Although this...attention he gives is quite eccentric, he does it to others too, although not as much and not nearly as touchy feely.

I thought he was more of a nuisance in the beginning, and clearly showed my disinterest towards him (Since the first thing he called me was Chinamen). Due to this I tried very hard to avoid him, thinking his attempts to talk to me was to slander me...instead turned out to be...well, what I described up there. (Later apologizing for calling me a Chinamen).

I STRONGLY dislike sports, and he'd make me participate in his sports games in campus fields, and saying how good I am (When I REALLY did suck, like, all I really did was stand there..) while criticizing others that actually played... (Making me fear that all this "friendliness is just sarcasm/mock)

His attempts DO seem friendly, but I fear it's just sarcasm and another way of mocking me, since my way of acting and etc is quite feminine compared to him, making me afraid that he's just mocking me, or else another one of the clowns that "act" gay to be "Funny".

Some help you guys?

(If you guys want some more details, feel free to ask)
and as I've said, I'm a newbie.. SOS!

 

[Dobson73]

Oh, Curiosities, I'd be staying well away from him. He's obviously got a penis that when erect may reach 5 cm. Somehow he feels that his actions will endear him to others, particularly non caucasian Americans.
He strikes me as someone with a complete feeling of being inadequate.
Maybe he's also coming to terms with his own sexuality but by your comments above, he's not a nice person whether he's gay, straight, bi or unsure.

Stay away!

 

[Curiosities]

he's not a nice person whether he's gay, straight, bi or unsure.

Stay away!

Ehhh?!
Wait, I'm a bit confused, that's a bit contradicting.

He's obviously got a penis that when erect may reach 5 cm

he's like, really ripped though..

 

[rareboy]

Just ask him if he'd like you to give him a blow job.

 

[Curiosities]

Just ask him if he'd like you to give him a blow job.

Not
Gonna
Happen

 

[dpnice]

Depending on where you want this to go take the initiative and make some effort to get where you would like this relationship to go.

This means if you want it to stop then tell him to 'piss off'.

If you want to develope a friendship with him then start to suggest doing things together; invite him for a hike, a drink or see a film.

If you want a sexual relationship then follow the above advice, get to know him a little better and then 'come out' to him and take it from there.

But do something rather than remaining just on the receiving end of his actions.

You're a man, you said it, so act like one and do something. Do not do nothing because you fear rejection or humiliation; this is a formula for spending the rest of you time with him in abject misery.

Good luck!

 

[Curiosities]

Thank you for your input.

 

[Runewell]

Totally in agreement with dpnice. If you like the guy, you gotta make some sort of move. Ask him to do something. Find out how he really feels about stuff.

Once you come out, if he's interested at all he'll bite. Otherwise, you can't accurately interpret anything he says/does.

 

[SouthwestNewb]

I kinda disagree with the people that think he's a bad guy. It sounds like he comes on strong and a little obnoxious in a dorky way, but he seems to really enjoy encouraging you and seeing you challenge yourself (like in sports).

The teasing could be flirty. This is what more confident males do with girls/guys they like. However, I've know some guys that are big brother like and just like coming alongside and getting shyer guys out of their shell. He might see you as a bit timid and has fun seeing you grow, especially since college is during that finding yourself stage.

If you like him, spend time getting to know him as a friend. For fun stuff, maybe ask him to help show you how to work out or build more muscle (seems like something he'd be into). As well, I would find some times to share more deeply one on one. Rather than hitting him up with something direct about his feelings, find a time to share your history of growing up gay. That could open things up for him to share his own experiences of dealing with attractions (regardless of which ways those aim).

 

[Curiosities]

Well..I followed you guy's suggestion and approached him, and I kind of regret it with the outcome.
I have always been physically attracted to him, but not emotionally, and when I approached him, I was simply curious about his motives...and...he kind of came on to me, like sexually.

I kind of just like tried to go along with it..but scared off.
What should I do? I want to tell him I'm not comfortable (Since I don't know him that well) But I AM physically attracted to him, and I'm afraid I won't be able to..um..resist =/

 

[MisterMajestic]

There is this guy in campus that has seems to give me A LOT of attention, a bit too much. He would always grab me, and touch me/get a hold of me in public, and loves commenting on how much bigger he is than me (Which I find offending, since I AM still a guy). Sometimes even making sexual comments that are CLEARLY gay (Although it's likely that he's kidding)

Although this...attention he gives is quite eccentric, he does it to others too, although not as much and not nearly as touchy feely.

I thought he was more of a nuisance in the beginning, and clearly showed my disinterest towards him (Since the first thing he called me was Chinamen). Due to this I tried very hard to avoid him, thinking his attempts to talk to me was to slander me...instead turned out to be...well, what I described up there. (Later apologizing for calling me a Chinamen).

I STRONGLY dislike sports, and he'd make me participate in his sports games in campus fields, and saying how good I am (When I REALLY did suck, like, all I really did was stand there..) while criticizing others that actually played... (Making me fear that all this "friendliness is just sarcasm/mock)

His attempts DO seem friendly, but I fear it's just sarcasm and another way of mocking me, since my way of acting and etc is quite feminine compared to him, making me afraid that he's just mocking me, or else another one of the clowns that "act" gay to be "Funny".

Some help you guys?

(If you guys want some more details, feel free to ask)
and as I've said, I'm a newbie.. SOS!

It sounds like you've given yourself a MAJOR headache...It's obvious that you have an "attraction" to this guy. I'm not even concerned with the things he's done or said to you. What is obvious is that you watch his every move and you simply notice every detail about this guy..

You decide who your "circle of friends" are and you definitely want him to remain in that circle..You like the guy now what are you gonna do about it? You've given us enough information about what he likes, dislikes and all his antics...Now you need to tell us what you plan on doing to let him know you're interested in him...

 

[hotb0d]

you ran away? LOL like for real running away? If you get nervous around him then try other means of communication?

 

[Curiosities]

Yeah, I tried to go along with it (I'm NOT going into detail)
and then I just like, no, and I kind of slipped through under him..and..ran for my life.

 

[SouthwestNewb]

Zounds! I'm retarded. I thought that would happen the other way around (you telling, him running).

First off, you need to give us more of a play by play. What did you say? What'd he say? Where were you? and what kind of move did he make? This situation is fascinating.

Without knowing more detail, he's probably feeling a bit embarrassed and a bit worried you might alert others. His two strategies will either be avoiding you or acting weirdly like nothing happened. I don't think this has to be as big and awkward as you're thinking if you find a low-key time to approach him and talk it out. My three step outline:
1. Some kind of apology for running off in a serious moment. Say that you don't want to leave things awkward.
2. Immediately offer privacy and your ability to keep things confidential unless he desires otherwise. This will give him ease in really talking things through. You need trust.
3. Say something to the effect of "What really happened back there?"


Keep us posted. This is an interesting story.

 

[MisterMajestic]

Well..I followed you guy's suggestion and approached him, and I kind of regret it with the outcome.
I have always been physically attracted to him, but not emotionally, and when I approached him, I was simply curious about his motives...and...he kind of came on to me, like sexually.

I kind of just like tried to go along with it..but scared off.
What should I do? I want to tell him I'm not comfortable (Since I don't know him that well) But I AM physically attracted to him, and I'm afraid I won't be able to..um..resist =/

It's alright that you ran away...You're both young so he'll over-look that..Nervousness & uncertainty gets the BEST of all of us regardless of age....In that type of "situation" some people become "Stutterers" and some people become "speechless" and forget their own names. .. Just call him up or go see him some time over the weekend. Hang-out, relax and just talk.

Listen to me....Being yourself should be the EASIEST thing in the world...So you find him and talk to him...

 

[Curiosities]

I needed to ask him while he was alone, so when he stopped playing football, he went into the restroom (Now I think of it...that was a pretty retarded move)
Well, I tried to ask him, and said nvm, he of course made me go on, so I asked him if he was gay...and he said "I don't know, are you?" and kind of trapped me in the wall (I don't know how to describe it, he was leaning towards me with his hands on the wall I am on as support, kind of trapping me from moving, you know?)

And I said, I asked you first, and he leaned closer...and I ducked and slipped out from below and ran for it.. and no I didn't scream.

 

[hotb0d]

awww no details? that's not fun. How can we try to help you if we don't know how you guys interact?

maybe talk to him online? I tend to be a good chatter online then face-to-face.

 

[Curiosities]

I just posted the details :O this is embarrassing.

 

[hotb0d]

It's not embarrassing. I think it's cute. He likes you!!! he was using the passive-aggressive, tough guy approach. Well do you like him? maybe something can come out of it. It all depends on your feelings for him.

 

[Curiosities]

It's not embarrassing. I think it's cute. He likes you!!! he was using the passive-aggressive, tough guy approach. Well do you like him? maybe something can come out of it. It all depends on your feelings for him.

I don't know =/
I definitely have physical attraction for him..but other things..
I heard rumors he just hangs around in campus, but he actually goes to the community college, not the state college.

I really don't know much about him, the only time I see him is in the afternoon playing football with one of my buddies at the fields while I sit in the shade on my labtop, and it's...a bit uncomfortable having someone being touchy feely like that with you when they are DRENCHED in SWEAT (EW)

I don't know, I don't know if it is shallow, but I've always liked people that were smart, and a person's education status is...important to me. (Tell me if it is shallow, if it is, I'll try to view things in a different perspective)