How to tell if your friend is Gay?

[danr46]

I have a best friend that I think is a little on the side if you know what i mean. You can tell by some of his actions and things he does and he's always been a little flirty. Is there anything I can do to tell if he's interested? Or what Can I do to push him out all the way.

I'm pretty straight acting and I'm not out. But I don't know how to tell if hes that way.

 

[drhladnjak]

One or more of the following:

1. Come out to him.
2. Ask him if he's gay.

Everything else is just speculation.

 

[RetiredTeacher]

drhladnjak hit it on the head.
"Everything else is speculation"


Unless his purse matches his high heels.

 

[fag lick]

i recommend doing what drhladnjak said.

not everyone has enough guts to though, so if you don't, try some alcohol.

 

[lightkeeper483]

Ask him if he shaves his armpits? That is a good sign.lol

 

[bluedragon4]

Or if he watches Golden Girls and finds he relates.

 

[KennyD]

I don't believe that ANYONE has the "Right" to ask anyone else what their sexual orientation is ?
If the person wants to share it; that is one thing .. but to blantly ask .. is being a nosey jerk ...or so I think ...
Now; IF you want to come "out" to him .. ask him to watch "gay" porn with ya' , or something like that .. OK ...
Anyway; that is just how I see things ..

 

[slobone]

I agree, except you have to come out first. It's not nice to put somebody on the spot by asking him "are you gay?" if you don't have enough nerve to come out to him.

Oh, I suppose if you put it in the same sentence -- "Are you gay? Cause I am..."

 

[Blueyes]

"Are you gay? Cause I am..."

lol i like that

 

[danr46]

I went over to his house today. He changed his shirt in front of me and then lifted it up talkin about his abs. He called me yesterday and asked if I wanted to go work out sometime.

 

[ivyguy24]

sounds like he could be.

but, I have some friends that I know are totally straight that like to show off.

These posts remind me of my suitemate, he always walks around in minimal clothing, but he's just showing off because he goes to the gym everyday...in reply to a previous post, he also shaves his armpits, haha. He's going on 3 years with his gf, and most of the time he is glued to his cell phone talking to her (she goes to school on the other side of the state, but comes to visit often).

So, your chances are ok, but I wouldn't say he's gay because he's showing off his abs...yeah, it could be, but he might just be showing off.

if you can ask him in a way that's nonthreatening, or present something that would allow the topic to drift that way. An awesome mainstream movie with a gay character is Little Miss Sunshine....it's by no means a gay themed movie, but there's enough there so if the conversation moves towards comedy involving that character, you might be able to pick up on something....not sure if you'd seen it, but

you could easily say something like "ha, it was awesome when the cop pulled the family over with the body in the back...but count on him to notice the porn before a dead body, although the look on this face had me on the floor laughing when he he ended up flipping to the gay magazine and handed it back to the father "um, you can keep this one""

subtle, like you could have easily just enjoyed the humor, but might open things up to discussion....good luck.

 

[scottyz]

Showing off abs is hardly a sign of either orientation. It's just showing off your abs. I can't think of a guy, gay or straight that wouldn't walk around without a shirt at least part of the time if they had a great body. Especially if they worked hard to get it in the gym.

If he is in good shape (or at least in better shape than you), take him up on the offer to work out. At the very least, you'll have a workout buddy who you can shower with

I wouldn't take the situation too seriously, though. Lots of guys have fun showing off. Don't read too much into it unless he does something like: "Hey, you have great abs--can I feel them?"

 

[Eagle653]

Put on "The Wizard of Oz" and watch to see if his eyes are glued to the monkeys running up the mountain.

Or, see if he starts singing along with Judy Garland!

 

[G-Lexington]

From the roughly 500 threads of this ilk that have been started since I became a JUBber, I have found that it is necessary for at least one person to post the following:

Dude, offer him a blow job. That'd be so hot.

Then there's usually a dancing banana to the right of the word "hot".

Prerequisites being handled, we return you to our regularly scheduled thread.

Lex

 

[Soilwork]

"I really want to know if this guy's gay but I dont' want him to know that I am because his business is mine but mine isn't his. I have no intention of ever doing anything about it if he is, I just want to know. I'm too scared to tell him that I'm gay, and besides, I'm STRAIGHT ACTING, so it's not like a borderline fag like him would ever be able to know."

Can we have a separate forum for these questions?

Dude....

It's not fair for you to get in his business without him getting in yours.

If you want to know... you gotta make the first step. It's possible that he's made the same assumption about you... not sure and doesn't want to come out.. someone's going to have to make the first move and I elect you.