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How would you turn down a guy in a gay bar. my friend told him he was straight.

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If you are in a gay bar/pub with a group of friends and a guy comes up to you would you tell him you were straight?that is what my friend done, I told the poor guy he has issues with his sexuality.
 
No way. It would depend on how he approached me, but I would probably say something like "I'm just here to have fun with my friends".
 
I wouldn't do it in a mean way at all. If I did I would have to be completely smashed on the drink, and seeing as how I don't really drink it's not possible. Why lie? Just be honest.

Why be afraid of saying no?
 
Depends on what he's asking for.

But "No thanks, I'm not available" sounds fair enough.
 
So many people have a problem with just saying "no". They lead people on, make them false hopes or try to avoid them.
It can be really simple. Either say "I'm not looking for a hook up, but if you would fancy a drink .. sure" (the nice way, still you might need to re-emphasize that you are not into him). Or just say "Thanks, but I am not interested".
Can't be that difficult ..
 
Well since I'm already partnered, I would simply say "no thanks I'm already taken."
 
mrlbojangles said:
I'd probably just say '' I'm not really looking at the moment, but thankyou''
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This goes for me as well.

First attempt: "I'm not really looking at the moment, but thank you." Or "I'm just here to have fun with my friends, sorry."

Second attempt: "Sorry, but I'm not interested."

Third attempt: "Piss off!"
 
Don't be mean or lie. That's really lame. We all wonder why there's an issue of socializing of, "I won't approach him, I'll wait for him to approach me" kind of thing. It takes a lot of courage to walk up to a stranger and, well, hit on him. If you're not interested in someone, you don't have to be manipulative or rude or lie about it.

Although, I'm not saying I'm not guilty of it, but I try to avoid it. Some examples: telling a guy he can't have your phone number, he insists, so I gave him the wrong number. In that case, it's easier just to do that then be like "seriously, no." Telling a guy I had a boyfriend because he tricked me into going on a date with him, posting it as a job interview. That was bullshit, so I didn't feel bad pulling the boyfriend card.

But I hate when other people pull that shit on me. Like one time, a guy was cockblocking me from his friend by pretending that he was single, giving me his number, informing me the next day he's really in a relationship and just did that to distract me from his friend (who I had a history with).

But yeah... in general, just telling people that you're "not looking" works. Or just act disinterested, usually people are bright enough to realize you aren't into them (don't make eye contact, don't face them straight on, don't ask them questions in return, etc.)
 
Just say you're not interested. It's not rude, it's very polite, and it's get the point across.

"I appreciate your feelings, but I'm not interested." In a very kind way.
 
I would just be honest and say thank you, but I am here with my friends, here w/my bf.

THanks but I am not looking for hook up.

But I would also say that being friendly in maybe chatting and makeing a new friend is possible.


But if he is rude about it, I wont even answer him and just look away..
 
anybody who lies instead of being honest and just say "no" needs to man up a little.
 
I only lie to people's faces when they deserve it. Like when this guy who went Diane Sawyer on me.
 
Someone who just can't say they're not interested is really pathetic to me. Just say, no thanks, I'm not interested. I hate the silent treatment too. The truth won't kill me. Whenever I turn someone down I say, "Thanks, you are very nice, but I'm looking for something else right now," No games, no drama, just the truth.
 
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