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How young is too young?

Youngest I've had is a lot younger than me, but none in their teens when I was out of mine.

As far as the difference in ages goes... sex, probably. Relationship, not a chance.

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for sex, I'd say anything legal and consensual is fair game.

for dating, my ideal age range is 26-39 (I'm 32)... when I was 30, I tried dating a 21 year-old, but it was a weird dynamic just because we were at such different places in our lives. I'm not sure I could see myself ever dating anyone more than 8+ years younger than me unless we really had amazing chemistry.
 
I'd have sex with somebody just over the line of consent, but only if I was sure he understood a few things completely. Specifically, that this would be "just sex". That I was not looking for a long-term thing. That yes, I care about him to some degree, but I do not "love" him. That sex, especially when you're younger, can change your feelings for someone, and if that was liable to happen, it would be better to skip it than to risk hurting him. I literally would spell all this out, and have him mull it over for awhile before agreeing. Because of that, I wouldn't go to bed with a "barely legal" that I just met.

Lex
 
The often-quoted guideline for the older one says....

"half your age, plus 7"

....and I've always considered it a reasonably good and proper boundary.

So e.g. that means no younger than:

18 with 16

20 with 17

22 with 18

24 with 19

26 with 20

28 with 21

30 with 22

40 with 27

50 with 32

60 with 37

70 with 42

80 with 47

I think you could subtract a further 1 from the younger in all cases, and a further 2 or 3 up to 5 as you progressively reach the later ones.

In my own personal opinion wildly exceeding those limits with vast differences in age, in particular when the younger is under 21, is really bordering on inappropriate and questionable.
 
I've never dated or hooked up with anyone younger than early 20s.
With respect to dating and LTRs, I am friends with several couples who have a 15-year age difference (25/40, 35/50) and all have been together for at least a decade.
 
DragononFire said:
80 with 47? I never knew it mattered up to that point. I get the 20's and late teens, but 80? I would never engage with a teen or pre-teen and anything younger, that is just wrong, awkward and illegal.
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Certainly, in ANY online and/or sexualised way - which is why (despite my opinion it's OK for 18 with 16 or 20 with 17) I feel very strongly against the amount of boys looking 15 or 16 in forums such as these. And needless to say the rule breaks down and is void when the elder goes below 18.

Also, the distinction should be made between a private relationship and an online Code of Conduct.

I don't think anyone would object to two gay 17-year-olds somewhere in the world finding love with each other and having a relationship, but I think that most people, including me, would object if they were then sexualised and/or exploited online.
 
I think it is far more important for a young adult to fall in love for the first time than to fuck for the first time.
 
22 is the youngest I would date, but when it comes to sex, if you are 18 and you know what you are doing, I'll be there!
 
DragononFire said:
Before anyone gets up in arms about this, let it be known that I will not go for anyone under the age of consent. The age of consent, in various areas of the United States for example, is between 16-18.

My biggest question being, even with consent, would you :sex: a person that young? Is it bad to want to :sex: them or *|* about them? Should I be concerned? Is it bad to flirt with a twink that young?

Let me know what you think, but please keep it civil and mature. Thank you.
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For me....if I could have actually been your father...you are too young for me and we are NEVER going to have sex. I am speaking for myself only...not for anyone else. I am completely fine with what other consenting adults do...both consenting and adult must be part of the equation for me to have no opinion but if one partner is not an adult...or consenting...I DO have an opinion...and it isn't a good one.
 
I'm 23. I generally don't find anyone under the age of 30 attractive, though I have (repeatedly) slept with a guy who was 20 at the time. He was awful in bed.
 
well.... if people think that you're his adoptive father and not his boyfriend....
 
For me I would say 'ideal' range would be no more than 1 year or 5 years younger .. and I deff wouldn't go for anyone more than 10 years younger (so that'd be 31)...I just wouldn't feel right having a boyfriend that much younger.
Take for example a guy of legal drinking age(21) .. geez i'd be nearly twice his age :eek: not to mention practically old enough to be his father :eek:
 
I'm 31 and would prefer to date someone within a few years of that. I don't think I'd date anyone under 26, unless they were exceptional.
 
DragononFire said:
So if I'm 23 and there's a 17-year-old twink I kind of like, is that illegal?
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You would have to check the laws in your State/County/City

This site might help some: http://www.age-of-consent.info/states/
(always best to check the actual laws where you livethough)
 
DragononFire said:
Before anyone gets up in arms about this, let it be known that I will not go for anyone under the age of consent. The age of consent, in various areas of the United States for example, is between 16-18.

My biggest question being, even with consent, would you :sex: a person that young? Is it bad to want to :sex: them or *|* about them? Should I be concerned? Is it bad to flirt with a twink that young?

Let me know what you think, but please keep it civil and mature. Thank you.
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I would say that even if I wouldn't f*** a guy that young, just think about the fact that few centuries ago you wouldn't have to ask this question... As long as a adolescent consent to have sex I can't see where is the problem. I experimented my first penetration when I was 14 and he was 31... In ancient Greek young adolescent began to have sexual encounters with their professors to teach them what sex was about and all... During middle-age young people could be married at a very very young age and it included to ave sex for their honey-moon... For me this question is more to be taken on a spacio-temporal matter than to be sentenced "yes" or "no".
 
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