huh i'm a bad person!

[foxyroxie]

ok remember when i posted this thread a lil while back...well...........

http://justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=145841

ok last week me and him were doin just fine and i wanted to go out well he was a little bit sick so he didn't want to go.....so i went out with my friends and was having a great time then i see one of my old friends there he is really cute "hotter than my current boyfriend" well we talked for a while and he kissed me..like right on the lips and i told him i had a boyfriend and he went to kiss me again but this time i kinda tried to pull away but he is like really buff so my weak ass couldn't do shit about it and i kissed him back....well one thing led to another we went to his place and i left my friends with my car....well when we got to his place i kissed him....and i wanted him so bad at that time and place well i had sex with him and i went to leave and he gave me his number...so i kept it...well i went to get my friends and take them home...so yea when i get home...my boyfriend is pissed he said he came to the bar to suprise me and saw me kissing some buff guy.....well i try and talk a little bit but he cuts me off every time i try to talk! he said he was through with me and that he could of cheated on me but he don't sink that low cause he has had some many time he could of "fucked a bitch" well he left and now i'm going crazy i have cried for like two-three days straight.....and i feel so stupid cause i thought he would be the one to cheat on me...but it turns out to be me that cheated......i feel like a whore....like a bad person!!!!!....
give your thoughts-

 

[cliffified]

it's been only 2 months and you cheated on him??
i don't think you can do much in this situation, at least apologize to him..
and your "hotter than my current boyfriend" friend is an ass...and you should have said no to him....

 

[puka-pride]

but hey this just shows you don't love him as much as you thought you did

 

[cellular]

Wow i can just see this thread being flamed now. Those that have been cheater on will have your ass.
Anyway, my advice to you is to go to mr. hot lova and continue your affair. Your relationship with your current boyfriend is over. Start a new one with the other guy, at least then you wouldnt lose both of them. Doing that would be a lose lose situation. You have to optimise. So quickly take out that phone number and give your new man a call. Oh and call your old boyfriend also, tell him you are really sorry to have him find out this way, but it was never going to happen with him, and then ask if you 2 can be friends.

 

[spreadeagle]

You're not able to commit to a relationship so stop fantasising that you can. Your desire for immediate gratification is much stronger than any airy-fairy ideas you might have about love, respect or shared history.

Some day, after enough short-term flings and cheating practice, you might have sufficient perspective on the relationship between actions and results to alter your behaviour, but the penny has not yet dropped.

 

[foxyroxie]

i was gonna tell him...but i never got the chance to...i was drunk..lke really dag drunk..but yea..i knew what i was doin...i called his phone and his voice mail thing..say "if this is _____ "my name" fuck u"
but i kept calling him..and he finally picked up...and he said....i was a stupid m/f..and that he really didn't love me like that..but i told him i still love him and i hope we can be friends,,he said...no...well we talked for a while..and he said he don't give a damn if i'm sorry......he said it really did hurt him..and that..we prob can't be friends after that........well i don't know what to say...i really do like the other guy!

 

[luminum]

Then there's your answer. You hurt someone who cared for you, but you like someone else. His heart will mend and he'll find someone who won't cheat on him. So get on with your life and let him do the same.

If the guy you hceated with really wants you, then start a relationship with him. Try not to cheat on him. But I'd find it odd to date someone who didn't mind breaking up someone else's relationship...

 

[confusedboy23]

As much as I condemn cheating in relationships, let me wish you all the best with Mr. "hotter than my ex boyfriend"!

 

[skaterboi]

Is it getting hot in here or is it just me? Thought this was a no flames zone?

Anyway, its not nice to cheat on someone. But thats life straight, bi or gay everyone does it. And keep doing it till they find "the one".
You don't have much info about yourself posted so I'm going to guess that you're young, new to the whole liking guys thing etc because of this I'm not going to blame you for wanting to sample other things on offer. And in a way I encourage you to do so, afterall how will you ever decide what you want when you come to want to settle down if you've not tried different things?
Cheer up and move along, he will get over you and you will get over him and meet new guys who you can just be involved with.

 

[thedaredevil]

Hey Dude,

You are not a bad person just inexperience and foolish that is all. Maybe you really did dig your boyfriend but not that much or you just did not have the guts to tell him how you felt. Or maybe, you were waiting for a better one come along. Either way, you must own up to your mistake and take it like a man. Mistakes happen just learn from the experience and hopefully not to repeat it... as surely the same outcome will behold. You need to find love or hopefully it will find you. When you find the right guy, you will not want to cheat and neither will Mr. Right. It takes alot of love and understanding especially willingness to compromise. It takes alot to sustain a relationship and you can only fulfill someone if only you are fulfilled and content yourself. Everyone is looking for Mr. Right... Right??? Nothing wrong with that. In the mean time just date. Don't commit yourself unless you see potential in a guy you like to have a relationship with. There are too may losers out there breaking people's hearts and be a big ASS about it... Just don't be one of them. Remember KARMA always will get you back 10 folds goo or bad. You might find Mr. Right one day and hopefully he will not be an ass like you... Breaking your ex's heart. Don't be an ASS and apologize to your ex and tell him it was not his fault.


Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is a mystery
Today is a gift
That is why we call it present


My advice...Life is too short! Move on and enjoy it!


Cheers

 

[aleisterc2003]

temptation is a fucken bitch dude....can't say i've been there but damn it i have the oppurtunity and lord knows i want to. and what makes you think that he went to surprise you any ways? sounds fishy to me. seems he was out looking for something and found it. sorry to hear though. relationships are very fickle. and you're going to feel bad as long as you need. apologize for want you've done but don't regret a damn thing.
XXXOOO
don't down yourself much.

 

[Riverrick]

Try to learn from this. When you're in a relationship and get drunk and horny, you have to excuse yourself and go home.

Its a bad combination, alcohol and hormones.