Hypocritical?

[tucaz7]

I think you did just fine. You answered his questions honestly. We are not required to tell everyone one we meet our sexual orientation. If he had asked(and most dont) if you were gay or straight, then the conversation might have gone a different direction.

It sounds like he was curious to know, but couldn't find the courage to ask point blank.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Yeah, he's just a taxi driver. You could have told him you were on your way to California to have dinner with the governor and it wouldn't have made any difference!

 

[uptightguy]

NOT even remotely hypocritical... now if he starting slamming gays and you joined in.


The question is more.... "am i still a little too closeted?" ...as others said, nope, you're fine!

 

[slobone]

I don't think it matters what you say to people you don't know.

But every once in a while, just for fun, I like to shock them by just announcing. "No, because I'm gay." Try it, it's good practice for saying it out loud.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Sadly, the cabbies all over the world feel that, unless they sort of 'entertain' their customers by showing perfectly unwelcome interest in other people's private affairs, their tips might be in jeopardy.

Why would it be really of any interest to him, if you are going to shag someone in CA and, if that someone is really going to be your GF, BF or both?

I think, you did quite very well.

SC

 

[spreadeagle]

I assume the taxi-driver was gay and suspected that you were too.

You must have realised by now that 'straight' is the default position.

 

[rareboy]

I must agree with sreadeagle; he was trying to check if his gaydar was working. Who knows, you might have gotten a free ride, as it were.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Quanchi,

Whats happening here mate is that you found freedom in telling the truth and being open and honest about yourself to your friends and family...so now it feels like you need to be with everyone that asks about you....Its actually an awesome feeling...one that shows how much freedom you've gained in yourself since coming out...and thats great to see.

I just look at it like this...did you want to know that he likes to tie his missus up? or that he preferred to shag her doggie style? Nup? Me either.

So really mate...he doesnt need to know that you love guys. Its not being dishonest...its being discrete, tasteful...and in some cases safe.

You dont need to wear being gay like a badge. You just need to feel proud of who you are, what you've achieved and where you are going. And you should.

You've taken the biggest step that you can take.

You were honest to yourself.

 

[Riverrick]

Sometimes, though, its nice to experiment coming out in safe environments with complete strangers. For that reason, next time you might consider trying it. This sort of thing can be very liberating and good for you.

The taxi driver needing your tip and you never seeing him again would have set it up nicely.

But you did fine just thinking about it Quanchi.

 

[RicanDAB]

Quanchi,

At this point in my life, if someone like that is gonna keep digging I'm just gonna let them know. But as a general rule, I don't go around telling everyone I meet right off the bat. It is on an as-needed basis as far as I am concerned. You handled the taxi driver nicely by the way, just as most everyone here said too.

 

[luminum]

I know what you mean. But I'd say the measure of your honesty with yoru sexuality is measured more by the times you speak honestly about it when asked directly and the chips are down, rather than times when it doesn't matter at all.